I do not understand the big debate over staying home with children, especially if it is only for four years or five years. This does not mean one is giving up a career, just taking time off. Are most stay at home moms going back to work?.
2007-01-24 00:40:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is an excellent question and has no 1 right answer for everyone. You will stay at home as long as you and your husband agree that you are needed at home full-time. For some moms, that is a very short time, weeks to months. They find competent child care and feel safe leaving their child in that care. Other moms want to stay at home longer getting their children through the toddler or pre-school years. Other moms stay even longer. Some moms get bored with the routine child care alot sooner than they thought they would and want to go back to work.
Husbands are a big part of this decision also. Some support their wives in whatever decision the wife wants to make. Others have mild to strong reasons why the wife should or should not go back to work. Some couples disagree the whole time the wife stays home. Some men are very upset when the wife wants to go back to work.
Finances, unfortunately, play a part in this decision about how long you might be able to stay at home.
As a therapist, I can tell you that any decisions made by you and your husband before having children may get reversed or revised after having children. It is amazing how much a child, even a newborn, shapes our thinking about what's important and what suddenly is unimportant. Also, I have found it most helpful to take life and what it brings a day at a time and not restrict my views for the future or make hard and fast rules for my future. I encourage you and your husband to review your staying at home and how rewarding it is to you, how productive it is to all of you frequently during the stay at home phase. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-24 01:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by shari w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was a stay at home Mom. I never worked and now the kids are grown and I have no experience and cant get a job that makes enough money to make a difference. There is something to say on both sides of this issue. On one side, if you and your spouse ever break up and you have no skills your screwed. But on the other hand your children have always been cared for and grow up feeling secure and are less likely to get pregnant early because you were in their face so much and knew what was going on with them always. My daughters and I had a close relationship and they didn't have children till they were married.
2007-01-24 03:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by biker_babe_goldie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with moms being "lazy" if they choose to stay home after their children are in school! I have one in school and two babies, and the one in school needs me almost as much as my babies! There are all kinds of activities at school parents are invited to attend during the day. There are days when she is sick and needs me. There are field trips, afternoon gymnastics, soccer, t-ball, etc. It's difficult to make these things when you have a 9-5 or longer job. I am going back to school to become a teacher. By the time I am finished, all of my children will be in school and I will go to work. However, I made sure that I picked a career where my schedule coin-sided with my children's and was flexible as well. Moms need to be there for their children...it's a choice, sometimes a sacrifice (financially).
2007-01-24 02:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by mommyismyname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who planned to stay at home until the kids went to school. When that time came his wife had such a good job that they didn't need two incomes so he stays at home still. If the kids ever need anything while at school they always have there dad at home to call. My husband is a stay at home dad. He loves it. He says that he is going to find a job when all the kids are in school. But he may not. I like the idea of him staying home because he is always there for the kids. Unlike my self, I am in the Army and I am gone so much. Having him home all the time helps the kids cope with the fact that Mommy is gone all the time.
2007-01-24 00:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jody Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im a stay at home mum with 3 kids and 1 on the way. I will be at home with them till they all start school, then i will go back to work between school hours. I do miss working sometimes but i love being a mum,. I think its different for everyone though, youve got to see how you feel and what you think is best for you. Good luck.
2007-01-24 01:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by LISA T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, after the kids are old enough to go to school, thats when stay at home moms usually go back to work.
2007-01-24 03:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Daisie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on their financial situation, if the husband makes good money most dont go back to work. Kids need a parent at home regardless of how old they are.
2007-01-24 00:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by jensmith24040 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids and just waiting for my youngest to finally start school part time in Sept. I can't wait to go back to work. I am a PSW so I take my son with me right now but can't wait to not have to....soon......
On the other hand my boyfriends mom stayed home her whole life. Babysat to make money. I came home to an empty house he didn't...I'd have liked to have someone at home.
And btw? It's not lazy to stay home...it's a choice.....
2007-01-24 00:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would stay at home until their schooling is done. who cares about a career, being their for the child and aiding in the child's education, tutoring after school is more important then money. plus i wont be taking a job away from a man.
2007-01-24 00:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by lat0ria 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋