What do you think of gay adoption ?? Do you agree ??

Question

I for one do not agree with it .. I have no problem with people being gay but i do have a problem with them being able to adopt a child. I think those children have had it bad enough in their lives if they are being fostered/adopted , should we not do the right thing by putting those kids into a "normal" family , mum , dad , pet dog etc . I worry they will at some point be ridiculed out of no fault of their own . I think its awful personally ..

Answer 1

This is a difficult topic and very much questions the morality and the natural/ normal progression of the future of the human kind. Yes, as long as the child is fed, dressed and cared for, his basic physical aspects are taken care of. But how about the psychological effect this will have on a child?? Being brought up by 2 of the same gender - 2 blokes or 2 women snogging and showing affection in front of the child? Talk about confusion! Not to mention him/ her being riddiculed. Lets look at this further - if this position is so 'normal' which it isn't, and we all became gay and did not carry on reproducing like nature intended, that will be the end of the human race. God (or whoever) created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. These children will not know what they are meant to s h a g, pardon the expression, when they grow up. These kids will grow up confused, it will contradict the basic biological methods of science/ reproduction. Kids need mom and dad, or in a worse case scenario a parent who at least is clear about their sexual orientation. I think that in the name of human rights, we are allowing all sorts of possibilities, whilst playing with young human beings that have already been through enough. Imposing the abnormal won't help them in the long run. I have a child of my own and am in the process of going through fostering, and know how much it goes into them making the decision about a potential fosterer. Yet, they would let anyone adopt. Don't get me wrong, I don't discriminate against anyone, but I can't see the child developing into a normal heterosexual who will carry on the human race. And for all those that have given the thumbs down to those respondents that have the same or similar thought as myself, how about putting yourselves in the position of the adopted child years down the line. Surely, you'd be thankful for somebody adopting you, but if truth be known, would you rather a heterosexual couple adopted you? I'll bet I know the answer to that one.

Answer 2

Peach That is a tough one to answer, and please don't allow this to be a set up for name calling and bashing because of someones opinion. You asked, and I am giving you an honest answer. My initial reaction would be to say no. A child is better of with a dynamic that includes a Mother and a Father. In the past, I would stick by that answer, and still believe that gives a child the best chance. Today though, our society has changed. It's a godless one, and the dynamics of what constitutes a family unit have changed as well. For the better, no way. No way. Reality though, yes, and it's only going to get worse. With that being said, a loving homosexual couple may be better off taking care of a child than some heterosexual ones, and since the definition of family has changed for the worse, I don't see why any two living organisms that say the love each other could not adopt a baby. I am serious here, cause we could also be talking a person and a dog some day adopting a child. Laugh, but they have rights to and need to be respected like everyone else. :)

Answer 3

The fact that gay people for many years lived in heterosexual families to please society...they were loving fathers and protective mothers is a fact no one can deny.

Research proved that single parents are capable of bringing up healthy children (even though either father or mother figure was missing). Academic research has proved beyond doubt that a person's sexuality is predetermined before birth - so there is no risk that the child sexuality will be affected (see sources attached). And what children really need is a loving and tentative family, reliable and good role model.

I agree with some of the arguments that some of these kids will be subject to bullying and teasing at school because of their parents! And this is my only reservation on why gay / lesbian couples need to think carefully and discuss this with the child and adoption agency. Swift action whenever such issues come up need to be in place. But the best way is to make this 'Normal' and not too keep branding this as the 'Odd' or 'Abnormal'. I would like to ask all those who are against gay adoption, have you considered adapting? If you all do so, you will have priority and the 4000 children shortage will be taken away and we will not be even discussing this subject.

Answer 4

I guess I don't understand what you think a normal family is! If you have never first hand experienced a foster child then I think your thinking is a little one sided...and that is fine it is your opinion. All these kids need are secure / loving / nurturing / stable homes...it shouldn't matter if it's single parents / multi race parents / Catholic / Muslim / Buddhist...or the same sex...as long as they can grow up to be the best they can become. I have lived with / raised / been around these children for some time and some of them are verbally thankful for each meal that they get / each hug they are given and are amazing children! Yes, they have had a rough start in life...but I can truly say that I would rather have a gay / lesbian adoptive parent than to be aborted because my bio parents needed a form of birth control!

Answer 5

Nothing wrong with Gay's adopting a child. Better than the poor child being sent from home to home and being abused in the long run. I know Gay people who have adopted two children and those kids are as close to normal as you can get. They are happy, contented and most of all loved. What more could a child want. Because a couple is gay does not make them evil , mean and unable to love children. The two people i am talking about are probably more stable than a lot of family;s all over the world. They do not drink [ beat their children] they do not do drugs [ dont look after their children ] they feed , clothe and take them everywhere they travel. Hell i wish i was their child. You are entitled to your opinion get to know some gay people you will not be sorry [ By the way they are two men] :))

Answer 6

and that's your opinion. but i think a gay couple can provide a more stable environement than a group foster home could ever. even gay's can own a dog. in case you've missed something this century, but there is not a "normal" family in general anymore. and often a gay couple can provide the emotional support and a stable and loving home the same as a single parent or man and wife married family. with that said, i do agree, because of the predjudice against gays in this society there may come issues with that child and the parents sexual orientation. but also, it may not be much different than a child with obese parents, or a child adopted by parents of a different ethnic background. the question is where do you wish to draw the line? do you believe that a child of one ethnic group should not be adopted by parents of another? the same sort of problems can arrise with this, as with gay parents. personally i think anyone able to nurture and raise a well balanced child into adulthood should be allowed to do so.

Answer 7

Whats a 'normal family?' having a mum, dad and pet dog does not mean that it is a normal family with no problems.
I see no problem with it as long as the child is going to be loved and in a secure family unit im all for it.
I think the world is becoming more open minded now and there will be less chance of a child being ridiculed because, these 'normal families' are becoming less common now anyway.
I know gay and straight couples who are in long term stable relationships who would make great parents given the chance.

Answer 8

I think it should not matter whether you are gay or not, all human beings are capable of love hate and other emotions, I do not think we should be able to discriminate against anyone, it has annoyed me that the press coverage over the Jade Goody allegedly racism thing has made so big a headline when this is even more bigoted than anything, I am a roman catholic and heterosexual and can not understand that if two people love each other and have love to give to another human being why they should not be allowed to, we are supposed to be loving and tolerant to each other not deciding who is right and who is not right to bring up orphaned children, as long as all the correct checks have been done then what is the bloody problem??????????????????? argggggggggggggggggggggggggg

Answer 9

Gay adoption, like any other adoption, is an act of love. Gay people(well, most of them) are actually very decent and nice people...they are just born with more female hormones. This does not rule out the possibility of them being great parents. In fact, Gay people..because of their perfectionist character, might actually do a better job at making sure the kid gets the best he can.

No doubt there will be talk about having 2 daddy's etc..but hey, the world is changing and I think even now, Gay men are more excepted then they were previously.

My best friend is Gay. He was kinda born to be Gay...always had a feminine side to him. He does not cross dress or anything like that and is in fact one of the nicest, most honest person I know...I can't say much for cross dressers...that's a whole different story. And I told my friend that if he ever found his life partner, that I will carry his child for them. Because I know he has so muc love to give and that the child will b e born into loving care...And yes, we have had many talks about what that child is going to be like having to dad's...its not going to be easy, but with careful planning and mature thinking, I'm sure there will come a right time to sit the kid down and explain whats going on to him/her...just like divorce parents or single parents do.

Answer 10

I disagree with you and the reasons you cite. Children can thrive in many various situations. Studies have shown that so long as there is love and consistency in a child's life, they can/will do well.

Not everyone has the "normal" family, especially today. Yet children are doing fine. Think about during the wars - WW1 WW2, when fathers were absent due to fighting far away. the children of the men turned out fine, didn't they? How about the children living in the war torn countries?

So what if a child has 2 mommies or 2 daddies? Is the home life consistent? full of love? well fed? adjusted?

There are kids that have parents in prison, that must be hard to talk about at school, and I am sure they get ridiculed thru no fault of their own. How about the town drunk? Town whore? George Bush's kids? So many scenarios that are much more difficult to deal with than have two loving parents of the same sex.

Don't you think that their life would be much better with the gay parent than in an orphanage, or bounced from foster home to foster home ?

Answer 11

I totally agree with gay adoption. Gay people shouldnt have other life choices restricted purely by their sexuality. Anyone who adopts goes through a rigorous selection procedure, to determine they will be suitable parents. If a gay couple is successful in this, why shouldnt they be able to feel the joy of having a child the same way heterosexual couples can? As for the kids being ridiculed, children are cruel and often kids will have hurtful comments directed at them about many things, including parents even if they are straight.