If you were me, what would you do?

Question

It has been a few months since I told her my feeling (which she said just want to be friends). Indeed, I love her and I can't visualise my life without her! It is absolutely beyond physical beauty that I admire in her. It is something deeper - personality and heart. My emotions toward this matter is just like a tide - sometimes I feel I should still slowly grab her heart while sometimes I am afraid that she might have someone else in her heart and hence I should forget her. Moreover, I am pretty shy in front of her and she also does not talk that much.. It is a dilemma for me. I really love her and I.. But, it really hurts me when I recall that day she 'rejected' me and when I visualise her choosing someone who does not deserve her.. If you were me, what would you do and why?

p.s. is there any chance of replied love? do we have to undergo this kind of things?

Answer 1

I don't think she will change her heart so you should keep her - if it doesn't hurt you too much - as a friend and move on.

Answer 2

I'd pine for her (in my case him) but outwardly move on. There's not much you can do. She spelled it out for you already and you can't make someone return your affections no matter how hard you try. My advice isn't the best but it's what I'd do. lol I've found that if I push myself to move on while letting myself have those pining feelings, I get over the person. Logic will take over at some point. It's basically faking it until you realize you're no longer faking. No, we don't have to undergo these kinds of things. Sometimes we all find ourselves in a no win situation. You can't tell your heart how to feel even if it's the worse thing in the world for you. Do your best to move on. If you see a chance one day, take it. In the meantime, do the only thing you can do and get on with your life. If you don't, I promise you, this will consume you and your life will be pretty miserable.

Answer 3

The one thing I know for a fact about love is that you are most likely to fall for the one person who will never return your love.
Of course you are not to lose hope that some day, somewhere, someone will love you right back. This process is only to make you appreciate mutual love more when you eventually get it.
You’ve already told her how you feel; she said she does not feel the same way.
There’s nothing that you can do, except to move on with your life. If for some reason she changes her mind about you too, she’ll be the one who has to approach you.
Your work here is done. You will sooooo love again!

Answer 4

Ok.. breathe.. Now, try to understand that she is probably not in love with you the way that you are with her. Understand that she is probably going under a ton of pressure knowing how you feel towards her. It must have been difficult enought for her to reject you but it was probably her only option otherwise she would have chosen to have a relationship with you knowing she wouldn't be happy. I guess that kind-hearted human nature makes you want her more. All you can do for now is not insist & nag on having her. If she ever wants to be with you, im sure she will let you know. You may confront her one last time & let her know exactly how you feel so that she knows & you dont sit wondering if she realises your feelings. Be gentle & honest & dont beg for anything. Simply lay it on the table & hope for the best. She will then let you know how she feels & if it isn't to be with you then that is that. You will need to go through the pain but you will get over it. Who knows, if you are kind and compassionate towards her, she might realise deeper feelings inside her.

Answer 5

I think most people have been in the unfortunate position of being in love with someone who didn't love them back. It's an awful feeling - one of the worst. My best advice would be to try and get over her - distance yourself from her. You can't MAKE someone love you, and the more you push her, the more you'll push her away. Once you're out of her life she MAY realize what she's lost and pursue you - but she may not. You sound like a wonderful, caring person, and YOU deserve to have someone love you back and treat you well too. By pining away for someone who may never love you the way you love them you're denying someone special the right to love you, and you're wasting your life away. Be strong. I know it isn't easy, but you'll survive to find happiness elsewhere!

Answer 6

We weren't born for one another, so since u love her that doesn't mean she wld love u back...don't force it or things won't be good even if she accepts u...since she rejected u, then be friends and move on....go for another girl along the way...who knows, there might be someone who loves u right now bt u didn't know. She ain't the girl for u and she has made up her mind...be mature and get on with ur life.

Answer 7

My brother i must be frank with u that i share the same problem with u but i managed it somehow by asking her if she really wants me or the other guy,though she did not say a word,so i allowed her a space for freedom to decide and after sometime,it was obvious that she needs the other not me though it was painful to let her go but i had to do it for peace to rein and she needed my blessing which i gave her before her weeding and u know who the guy was?My best friend for years,So please be a man and take a bold step.Thank u

Answer 8

I'm in very similar situation like you but the opposite, I mean there is someone that I met at uni and he recently told me that he likes me, I like him too and I would be very happy to be with him in a relationship but I told him that it's better for both of us to stay friend at least for now.

Because no 1: I'm moving interstate for work purposes. no 2: I had a bad relationship before and just wanted to stay free for now just concentrate on my career.

So after saying all that the conclusion would be this girl might have her reasons for saying she just wants to be friends. Try to ask her if she has any personal reasons! try to clarify and no don't just forget about her.

Answer 9

you can't say "someone else who does not deserve her" you know why??? coz ur not even sure if she has someone not "someone else " coz u and her doesnt have any relationship at all.
Not all we want in life we can get them, so sometimes, we just let them go tho its hard. If she will be with someone means that someone deserve her in anyways.
Be happy for her.
Move on and be happy too.

Answer 10

You're obsessing. Don't worry, it'll pass. Some of us just take a little longer to get over being rejected is all. As for her telling you that she's not interested, well, she's not interested. Move on.