We took his 8 year old to a birthday party and they assumed i must be his older daughter... What gives... We get along great.. I do not realize the age difference.. I have a blast being with him.. I am 30 by the way... do you think it will effect our relationship.. because of comments we are getting from others? Isn't a relationship more about the people liking each other than the age difference?
2007-01-23 23:37:15 · 20 answers · asked by GirlWithQuestions 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Darlin' you just do what your heart tells you and disregard all the naysayers. If this guy rocks your world, then go for it. Too many people want to get into other people's business and try to run their lives. You do what makes you happy and have fun!!
2007-01-23 23:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tami M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't notice the age difference except when people mention it, then ignore those comments! Most people find it difficult to bond with someone who's so much older than them because they are at different points in their lives, or can't relate to each others backgrounds and this is why other people are surprised by your relationship and commenting. But if you aren't experiencing these difficulties, then they aren't your problems. Don't let other people's problems become your problems! In other words, don't let other people's comments hurt your relationship.
The best way to do this would probably be to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that these comments will probably always surround your relationship and come up with a joint plan on how to react to them. In other words, agree that you won't let them bother you and maybe come up with a standard response to them that you'll both use. This way you'll both be sure that the age difference isn't a problem for either of you and you'll be able to more easily ignore the comments.
2007-01-24 07:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by penny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is about way more than just the age difference.
What most people suspect when they see the older guy with the younger gal is that he's using her for hottie sex. You really do need to be careful as a man will, not all men, but some men want to be with a young hottie so much that they don't really care about her or what she needs and making a commitment to her.
Are you really ready to be step mom to and 8 yr old? That child will become a teen soon and then there can be some tough road ahead.
If you really love him and he really loves you, then all can be well.
But if you are the only one in love, RUN. Because he will keep you around as long as he can.
How will this be for you when you are 50 and he is 70, that's a big difference in what people like to do. 50 is still very young and 70 is slowing down and thinking of other things in life.
Just be sure to take care of YOU.
2007-01-24 07:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship should be based on mutual respect & affection so if you're happy, don't let what others tell you bother you. At some point it might affect your relationship. Considering his age, you will have to look at the possibility of him having health problems or just basically running out of steam and not being able or wanting to keep up with you. Then the issue of marriage & children might come up but like I said, if you're both on the same page, don't make it an issue. Neither of you are hurting anyone so enjoy it.
2007-01-24 07:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the age difference bother you. My wife has been on a quest to get the youngest guy she can. She is 52 and her youngest so far was a couple of 19 year old guys. She had so much fun she almost missed her plane flight home.
2007-01-24 13:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the age. Everything will be okay, as long as neither of you are married. Another thing: If he has an 8 yr old, be careful; he may be the type to love and run
2007-01-24 07:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't understand age-gap relationships at all. Ignore them. Yeah, you might get mistaken for his daughter occassionally. It will not affect your relationship if you don't let it.
(Married to 18 years older, currently 30 and seeing a 67yo.)
2007-01-24 07:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's old enough to be your father. The generation gap is ridiculous. You'll never be compatible because he's so much more experienced and knowledgeable about life than you are. Although he's immature at the same time, seeing he has to be with someone twenty years his junior to feel good about himself because he lacks what it takes to be with someone his own age. Either that, or he just thinks you're hot and wants to bed you. Why do people trust relationships with such huge age differences? I would never date anyone more than one year older or one year younger than I am. The person I'm seeing is nine months younger.
2007-01-24 07:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? ? 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you were ten years younger I would say it is a little strange, but at 30 I don't see a problem. As long as it makes you happy, enjoy it.
2007-01-24 07:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Bob Peppers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it matter age is just a number right i like this 40 year old that im in school with and im 19 but he doesnt act 40
2007-01-24 07:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by valreemariecreed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋