My ex-gf and I have a 3 month old son. She doesnt let me see him. She has a really long record. She has done stuff in her past and she is also mental in many cases. She is bi-polar, adhd, still in school, and a criminal record like runaway and assult. I have a clean record, and everyone around her says I should fight for custody of my son and would most likely win. Do I have a chance? Oh, and she does have an aunt that takes care of her and my son. Her aunt was a social worker for 20 years and getting money from the government... about $2,000 a month. She interferred so much that I am not even on the birth certificate. If I take this to court, do I have a chance to win? I am currently getting a job out of state, sending money once a week, making copies of it, and getting an attorney. I am even notorizing letters recommending me custody of my sons from friends to church officials. Do I have a good chance of getting my son back?
2007-01-23 23:23:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you have an excellent chance of getting your son back. Make sure to get a DNA test done if you're not on the birth certificate. I think the only thing you're ex has going for her is the aunt. Get a good lawyer and you should be able to get custody. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-23 23:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's so bad, WHY did you make a baby with her? That's not a very responsible thing to do.
Keep a good job for many months. Get a court order for a paternity test. Get a court to order you to pay child support. Pay it regularly. Don't badmouth the ex-gf in court (or anywhere else), make the case about YOU having time with your son ONLY. When you have established that you are more responsible than an aunt who is a social worker and has regular income, you might have a chance.
2007-01-23 23:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by gelfling 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like if the mother was just involved you would have a great shot at getting y our son. But with the aunt in the middle you may have a battle. First off she's been a social worker for 20 yrs. that might work in her favor but you are a biological parent and I would say go for it. Laws have really changed for fathers now they have just as much rights in the courts eyes these days. You may have to prove all you say about the mother and then the aunt may fight you for custody. Stay encouraged and Be blessed if you truly want your son God knows your heart and He will work it out.
2007-01-24 00:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by momseekinganswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now a days, anything is possible. Make sure that you tell your attorney everything that you have stated on here. Do not hold anything back. Make sure that your lawyer also puts it down that you want a bloodtest done and a mental evaluation on your ex. KEEP SENDING THE MONEY. It will not be easy, but with the way that the courts are now days, they don't give a crap about the parents, just the children. You have one hell of a battle ahead of you but just don't give up. I am proud of you man. Keep it up. I am a single father too and I am about to go through the same type of thing that you are now. You make us all proud by stepping up and being willing to take responsibility of your kid. Good luck man and remember, DON'T GIVE UP NO MATTER HOW BAD IT SEEMS.
2007-01-23 23:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by protruckdriver71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states ( actually I think all states ) will require you to provide some sort of proof of abuse or neglect towards the child. The wrongs you feel she did to you mean nothing in custody cases unless it was abusive either physical or mentally. Then you would have to show cause that she would continue that with your child. Basically the affair means nothing to the court. Whether she did or you did or both did it doesn't matter. Nor does the reason for filing or who filed divorce. I would consult with a lawyer in your area about the taking the child abroad I am not sure on that one. Your best option is prove in some way that she is unfit to care for your child. You may be able to use your photo's and immigration stamps to show erratic behavior. Best of luck to you. I know exactly how you feel. I have 50% placement and custody of my daughter.
2016-05-24 03:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally the courts like to keep the baby with the parents ; you will need to have enough information for an attorney to look at ; if you are stable and can provide a good home, environment? daycare?? etc you are the DAD ; fight then for your son; even if for some reason it doesn't work, your son will know that you fought for him; you can petition the state for paternity but then be prepared for child support; there are father organizations to help you as well ; check into those ; good luck ; just remember this is a puppy and you can't give it back if you find that it isn't easy raising a child
2007-01-23 23:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to win sole custody, you’ll have to prove that she’s unfit or a danger to the child.
There’s no way to know what a judge will rule, but I’ll address a few of the issues:
“She doesn’t let me see him”—and right now she doesn’t have to. Until paternity is established, you have NO rights.
“She has done stuff in her past”—it won’t make her look good, but the court is more concerned with what she’s doing NOW
“She is bi-polar, adhd”—being bi-polar and having adhd does not make one an unfit parent. As long as she has those issues under control (meds, treatment, etc), they aren’t an issue
“she’s still in school”—that’s a GOOD thing
2007-01-24 01:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this but.... didn't you KNOW that she was mental when you two started doing the horizontal bop? Phycho b!tches are hot in the sack but nine times out of ten, they aren't worth the headache. As you're now well aware. You really need to listen to Tom Leykis.
As to your problem. Get EVERYTHING you can down on paper. You need copies of every bill you've ever paid and every dime you've spent on her and the child. Since you're not on the birth certificate, you'll need to sue for paternity and have a DNA test performed. If you can see your child, they sell those (DNA) kits where you can take samples from you & your son and have them tested. But don't let the ex know what you're up to or you won't be able to see the baby.
I know that this is going to pain you, but you have to be a dirty rotten bastard in court if you want to win custody.You'll need all of the dirt you can one her as you can get. Go for it. I had to do this in 1979 and I won custody.
2007-01-23 23:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 'll be truthful all custody battle are hard and most do not end up exactly like they should. I am speaking from expierience.
I think that you have a very strong case against her! Just keep doing what you are doing! And when you do go to court the first thing you need to ask for is a DNA test! Keep doing what you are doing and Best of Luck!!
2007-01-24 01:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months old? But how are you going to breastfeed him? I do not believe that you can do anything at least until he is 1 year old or older. Indeed, who would take a baby off a mother to be put into a daycare! And he is so tiny.
I think you'll have to wait at least for a year.
2007-01-23 23:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋