Do you think spanking with a belt is abuse? Abuse as I have defined it?

Question

This being a spanking done on the bottom, leaving no permanent marks (No bruising, welts, blisters...) just the spanker using a belt.

Abuse: meaning that these children should be taken out of the home, and placed in foster care. The spanker thrown in jail.

I do believe in spanking, but NEVER with belts. I have a friend who does. I think that is a bit harsh, but I hate the way people throw the word "abuse" around. When I use that word, the above mentioned better happen. I know they don't leave marks on their children. It's a different style then mine, but I don't consider it abuse. They both love their children very much, and I would consider the children to be "above average" in their development compared to peers.


Pleas answer the question with a "Yes" or "No" and then state your opinion if you wish.

Thank You in advance

lol, we are very close with them, they are like family we never had. Yes I have bathed them, when they spend the weekend with us, or when my friends are out on business. No scars, or anything of that nature.

I think it's sick someone would take these children away from GREAT parents. Not that they could, since everything they do is with in the law.

scorpio: I am glad you know these kids better then I do. Please! they are some of the smartist, most down to earth, non bratty, loveable, little munchkins I know. They do great in school, and are very social. Stop on your anti spanking begade.

"afraid of their parents and living in constant fear", lol lol lol lol. If you only knew, oh well you can't carve on rotten wood.

Answer 1

There is no way it is per se abuse. But it can be abuse if overdone--as overdoing a spanking with hands can be as well.

I do not like belts either. I think it is too easy to overdo it--welts and bruises. And if used on bare skin it is real easy.

I am strongly pro-spanking. I am also strongly anti-abuse. I certainly do not think less of people that spank their kids with belts. But I do hope they are careful and I think it would be better not to spank in that particular way.

Answer 2

i imagine utilising a belt, willow change, yardstick or any merchandise provides the spanker a probability to calm down at the same time as getting the object and so isn't inevitably spanking out of anger with purely fingers that ought to harm worse and ought to effect more suitable in a beating with the fingers because it particularly is on the spot and ususally the ascertain is mad.. A spanking on the fanny isn't toddler abuse for sure if it doesn't reason harm to the exterior. I also imagine spanking must be used as a very last hotel at the same time as different forms of disciplilne have not been effectual.

Answer 3

I think using a belt, willow switch, yardstick or any object gives the spanker a chance to cool down while getting the object and so is not necessarily spanking out of anger with just hands which could hurt worse and could result more in a beating with the hands because that is instantaneous and ususally the parent is mad.. A spanking on the fanny is not child abuse of course if it doesn't cause damage to the skin. I also think spanking should be used as a last resort when other forms of disciplilne haven't been effective.

Answer 4

I don't think its abuse if it doesn't mark etc. And a good spanking, and banging of the heads together (with my sister) never hurt me! Well, actually it did hurt at the time, but you know what I mean.

I do question it sometimes though. I never used to do this but I see it more now, especially with my cousins. If another child, for example, does something wrong to a child who is used to being spanked for doing wrong, and then that child who has been wronged, spanks that other child, what can you say? If you tell them off, they say 'well thats what mommy/daddy does to me when i'm naughty'. And they are right. It's not really leading by example is it, if you are going to tell tem off for doing exactly what you do.

Saying that, I'm pregnant with my first, and there's no doubt that it will end up with a few spanks or more when its older!

Answer 5

No, i don't think that it is abuse, because my mother used to spank me and my brother with belts, shoes, hands, spoons, brushes, pretty much whatever was near (within reason, of course), but she never left a bruise. Some parents, i think, just get out of control, and they start reacting from their anger instead of reacting as a form of punishment. Many times i have had spankings delayed, and now that i am older, my mother has told me that it was so that she could calm down. Now i've seen a boy that had gotten a spanking with a belt, and he had bruises all over him, and his head and everything, now i agree, that that was a little too much. And because of the spankings that i got as a younger kid, i have never stolen a thing in my life, i have never ran away from home, and i have never hit my mother or father. They raised us (my brother and i) very well, and they were very clear on their punishments. Now that i am 15 (soon to be 16), though, they don't spank me anymore. I get grounded, or the things that i love (tv, ipod, laptop, etc) taken away from me. But if i get too far out of line (which i haven't done yet {nor do i plan to do}), i know what to be looking for.


I just want to add, that i LOVE, and RESPECT, my parents, whereas i know some people that do not. I am not in fear of my parents, i just have a very high respect for them, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 6

Not at all. Spanking for doing something wrong never has been abuse. Spanking children without any reason is abuse.
The best implement for spanking is a belt of course. It is flexible and you can easily keep it in your closet or just pull it off your jeans when necessary. Whether it is harsh or not, it depends on you, whether you are in good or bad mood. But the view of belt always makes your children to behave. The heavy duty belt made of genuine leather has always done good job on the kids.

Answer 7

Yes! I think spanking with a belt is abuse, but at the same time, people can do just as much if not more damage with a hand. I do believe in spanking as a last resort, but It should be controlled. I think a swat on the butt for poor behavior is acceptable, IF IT WORKS FOR YOU! Discipline is in many forms, and you have to use what works best for you. It all depends on the child and their age. I can't very well see a tweenie or a teen getting spanked. With this group of kids, grounding or loss of privelages is more appropriate.Some kids (younger) are very affected by a raised voice (voice trained), some by simply talking to them, some, by being spanked.

Answer 8

No. I think you are correct when you say that the word abuse gets thrown around way to much. I think that we, as a society, have gotten more politically correct, and our children have gotten more out of hand. I think there is a definite correlation between a parents ability to discipline their child, and the child's respect for proper values and morality. I don't think that children need to be beaten mercilessly, but they spanking, even with a belt, is not abuse. I think of what my father used to say, "Why am I going to hurt my hand to punish you?"

Answer 9

In my opinion, that is not abuse. The whole point of spanking is to let the child feel it (it's actually supposed to hurt, people), and as long as there are no welts or bruising, it's not abuse.

My parents used shoes, hairbrushes, and willow tree switches to spank us! My dad even made us go outside and choose our own switches! LOL That was probably worse than the spanking itself!

Answer 10

No. I think hitting children anywhere else but their butts with a belt or your hands is abuse though. I can't stand that. I was whupped as a child but always on my butt and with a belt. But no, that's not abuse. But sometimes it can be when parents overreact about what their child is doing.