We are trying for a baby but when i found out im not pregnant he's whole attitude change?

Question

My fiance and I are trying for a baby.We spoke about it and decided that we wanted a baby. we tried but when i did a pregnancy test it was neg. I asked him if he still wants to try, so he said nothing at 1st and then he said maybe not. that really hurt me coz what if i was pregnant. I dont know how to feel or what to do. i really want a baby especially after we both agreed on it. i was so excited

Answer 1

I myself had that same attitude after every pregnancy test that the wife took that came back negative for 8 years, I believe that the male instinct is to hide his emotions by covering them up with a maybe not. I know that at the moment you feel hurt, The hurt will go away and you have to remember that he is most likely trying to hide his hurt, The best thing is not to concern yourselves in wanting to have a baby at the moment. Just know that when the time comes it will be a happy occasion. I know that when we found out we were happy and that the hurt had faded away and disappeared when we found out it was twins.

Answer 2

1) It can take 2-3 weeks before a test will pick up a pregnancy.
2) Having a baby isn't something a person should decide "no, maybe not" after committing to. You may need to find out if there are "commitment issues" before the marriage occurs. IMHO, clear the air about what's going on before with open, honest conversation to either put a misunderstanding at ease, or find out if you two have issues better discovered before marriage and kids. He may just have problems talking about his feelings (or how to talk to you about the letdown thinking he'll be hurting your feelings), or this could be a sign of bigger problems down the pike. Find out, so you know what to do at this fork in the road.

Answer 3

Try asking him what his thoughts and concerns are, there must be a reason why he has changed his mind so suddenly, until you to have spoken it over on why you may be feeling hurt when you dont have to.

Maybe he wants to book teh wedding first and have a lil bubba! dont get too dishearted jsut sit down with a cuppa and have a nice chat about each others thoughts and fears it will be fine my love i promise.

Your engaged so you should be able to tell each other anything you love each other at the end of the day.

I hope all goes well

Chel x

Answer 4

He mite be upset that you weren't pg you never no.Just ask him to try again.
And if you want a baby so bad you probally ant going to get one.So just relax and take a break and have fun while haveing sex.You and him mite want to go get checked to see if yuo guys can even have kids.Because some people cant.
And one of you too could be one of those few people that cant have a baby.
I'm sorry if any of these is mean or rude im not trying to be i'm only telling you like it is.I hope i've helped.

Answer 5

If yall are engaged that must mean yall love each other alot and having discussed that yall want to have a baby means even more. But what about yalls communication skills. I mean both of you should be very open to each other about everything. You should ask him what has made him change his mind or what he is feeling deep inside. Be understanding. See what he says. I just hope its not a commitment issue.

Answer 6

Stop trying! just relax ,really My husband and I tried for
years and nothing ! so I set my sight on my job and here he had a broken back and went throw 4 back surgery's and bingo we got pregnant but sweetheart we where marred for 15 years before he came along. Have to talked to a doctor maybe just maybe it might be your boy friend hummmmm something to think about never give up

Answer 7

Try this test....

When it comes to getting pregnant, timing is everything. There's a narrow window of opportunity during which you can get pregnant; the trick is finding out when that might be. Take this quiz to brush up on what you need to know about when to have sex if you want to have a baby. Good luck!

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1. You're most fertile when one of your ovaries releases a mature egg. This process, called ovulation, occurs:
a. Halfway through your menstrual cycle
b. 12 to 16 days before your next period starts
c. Right before you get your period




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2. If you're not sure exactly when you ovulate, you can improve your odds of conceiving by having sex:
a. Twice a week
b. Once a week after your period is done
c. Every other day in the middle third of your cycle




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3. If you're serious about getting pregnant, you should:
a. Chart your horoscope as well as your partner's
b. Learn how to tell when you're ovulating
c. Have sex in the morning




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4. When is the best time to have sex if you're trying to get pregnant?
a. Immediately after your period
b. One to two days before you ovulate
c. On the day you ovulate
d. The day after you ovulate



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5. True or False: Some women's breasts get tender when they're about to ovulate.
a. True
b. False





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6. As the day of ovulation approaches, cervical discharge usually takes on the consistency of:
a. Egg white
b. Sticky rice or paste
c. Lotion




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7. One way to tell when you're ovulating is by taking and charting your basal body temperature, which is your temperature:
a. After having sex
b. On the first day of your last period
c. First thing in the morning, before you even get out of bed




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8. True or False: If, after three months of trying various methods, you are still not pregnant, you should consult a fertility expert.
a. True
b. False

Answer 8

Think he might just be frustrated that it didnt work as easy as he thought it mght. Relax wait a while and talk about it again, or just keep trying, would think he still wants to but doesnt want to see failure on his behalf, like he probably thinks hes impotent cos it didnt happen first time round.

Answer 9

talk to him maybe he doesn't want to fail in you eyes
he probably loves you heaps and is worried about his performance or something
not to sound rude it doesn't all have to be about you

if he is worried and you both want a baby get really drunk (relax)
and let nature take its course

good luck

hope this helps dude

Answer 10

I don't think you realise the lifetime commitment that you have to make...to the child that is.
you can't just take it to the pound if it doesn't work out