Hi i have a girl friend, she often behaves like pyscho. she black mails me saying 'I will commit suicide' or she hurts herself or cries like nothing when i dont do what she says. Am scared of her attitude but i love her so much. I informed her parents about her attitude but they didnt mind. I have never seen such a mom and dad. I cannot take her to doctor or couslng. Please give me some tips to control her. I tried to immitate her but no use... Please tell me how to treat her.
2007-01-23 22:35:30 · 14 answers · asked by Vijay 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Best thing to do is to leave the relationship if you have tried to help her and nothing has worked. I had a crazy ex myself and i left her and she tried to kill herself on tylenol. Girls are just crazy.
2007-01-23 22:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by Zeo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one. You have to get her some help or you need to cut her off. She knows that you will stay with her no matter what. She doesn't care what she is doing to you. First things first, you must make her feel as you feel. This will be bad for a little while but then she will start asking why are you doing this to me. Then tell her that she should know how you feel now. Another thing, you have somewhere that you can go for a few days. You may need to give one another time apart. She will not hurt commit suicide. If she is going to then she would of done it already. She is torturing ou and you should take that. My b/f and I are going through the same thing. The way he fixed it he was just of a @$$hole to me. Then he would ignore me. Make sure you get mad not pussy out and take it. She will beat you to death mentally. This will make you go pshyco. Try this out and if it doesn't work then bye bye to the g/f.
2007-01-24 07:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to "change someone else's behavior" is through changing your own behavior.
What I mean is this...you are obviously rewarding her for bad behavior. STOP!
Reward her for behaving appropriately and go over the top with it!
So to speak.
Ignore her completely when she behaves in a way that is inappropriate.
She does this because she is able to get your attention and therefore control you. Once she realizes that it does not work anymore, she will stop.
However, I want you to understand that her "bad behavior" will increase before it begins to subside. Do not allow that to interfere with your plan. Be brave, be strong and above all be loving. This is for her own good.
I can definitely diagnose her with Borderline Personality Disorder.
It is really an attachment disorder stemming from childhood.
Good luck to you...you will need it.
2007-01-24 10:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by sapphire_velvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By giving in to her, you enable her bad behavior. Too bad you love her so much- I would have said let her go. There are so many people out there who want to have a great/healthy life- not some strange, psycho, manipulator. You are starting young to have such an unhealthy situation/pattern develop in your relationships.
2007-01-24 06:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by gawd0 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cannot control her nor help her unless she admits she has a problem and wants help. She has emotional problems and it appears she needs psychiatric help.
You have TWO options...deal with it and take her for what she is OR leave the relationship. If you stay...DO NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT HER ATTITUDE. I suggest you leave. If she refuses to see her problem and seek help, it'll only become worse. If she threatens suicide, so be it. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. She chooses her actions, you didn't force her to do anything.
2007-01-24 06:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by S H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, tell her if she really loves you she should stop her behavior. Sometimes it might help if you DONT give in, when she is throwing her fit. If she says shes going to commit suicide, tell her "your parents didnt raise you so many years to kill yourself, how would you parents feel?" you can also say... what would your parents say if they found out you act like this? if you guys are having a conflict you can ask her to calm down, and you guys can disguss the conflict peacefully. communication is very important in a relationship. Sometimes couples are just not made for each other. it doesnt hurt to try other people... its not that easy to change people, its either you learn to relax and deal with it... or leave... It might be just because shes young... wait till she gets older... one more thing... girls like bad boys... so try this... ignore her next time shes throwing a fit... and act like you dont give a crap about her anymore... walk away and ignore... dont call... dont talk to her... UNTIL she talks to you first... dont listen to her threats... i PROMISE if you can hold out longer... shes going to crack.. and give in ;)
2007-01-24 06:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Random Friend 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you care for this girl very much and kudos to you for trying so hard to get her help and stick with her.
are you in high school? if so-try talking to a school counselor, the nurse, or a teacher you trust-they can help get the ball rolling and get her the help she needs since her parents don't seem to want to help.
you can also try taking her to the nearest public health clinic or hospital and tell them she's threatened suicide-they will help her.
i know that you don't just want to walk away from her for fear that she will hurt herself and for the fact that you love her too.
when someone is sick with mental illness-all they know is what is in their head-intimidation will not effect her and might make her worse. take the steps to get her the help she needs-if this doesn't work or she doesn't want to admit she needs help and work with you to make herself better-then you must do what is best for you and walk away as a last resort.
alot of times people will see this as an act for someone to just get her way-i've seen this just with the comments people have left. anytime someone threatens suicide-it's a cry for help and should not be taken as a temper tantrum and ignored.
i wish you luck-i know how this must be
2007-01-24 06:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by prncessang228 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need the advice of a professional, find one and tell them about your friend. It is a shame that her parents aren't the least bit concerned! Do not try to control her yourself!
2007-01-24 06:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from this manipulative person and her weirdo family.Get a restraining order,change your locks and phone numbers QUICK!
2007-01-24 13:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is responsible for her actions.Do not blame yourself if she does something to herself if you leave that relationship.
2007-01-24 07:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by miske 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋