So there's this girl I am very interested in and I know that she is interested in me, but I'm not sure how much yet. We've gone out once in a date type environment (dinner and drinks) and both she and I had a very good time. I think that something very good could work out here but I'm a little worried because she just got a new job that will put her about an hour away. She is going to be very busy the next few weeks (with quitting her current job, moving and starting the new job) and while it is potentially the very beginning of a new relationship I'm worried that if I don't let her know how I feel it might not get the chance to take off. I was planning on taking it slowly, maybe a date a week until we got more comfortable around each other, but now I'm not sure what to do now. I don't want this really good chance to fall apart on me before something can come out of it.
2007-01-23 22:34:00 · 2 answers · asked by Halo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've got a couple of options here:
Volunteer, as her "friend" to help with packing, moving, etc. When you're both working up a sweat on these chores, spill the beans...
"Oh, by the way....this is what I've been thinking/feeling..."
Or,..
When you're between moving chores and you both are tired and relaxing over a pizza and beer, spill the beans....
Or,...
Invite her out to dinner after about two weeks when the pressure and novelty of the new job have settled down.
Tell her you want to celebrate and congratulate her on her newest accomplishments and life change. You want to catch up with her and see how things are going. You want to give her, as your friend, a treat and encouragement in her new venture....Catch up on all the new news in her life...and then spill the beans....
Pick an opportune time in the evening to say that you like having her as a friend and that you want to keep that friendship going no matter what...and, ...
...you've been realizing lately that you would like to have more than a friendship with her and might she be interested in that too...?
Based on this situation's particulars, and based on your own assessment of it, it seems to me that a good deal is on the line here for both of you and momentum lost will leave you both with ZIP.
Right about now, assessing this situation as "he who hesitates is lost" might not be inappropriate.
Get busy, and good luck.
2007-01-23 22:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slowly..that sounds like a good idea..its not as if any other guy can get to her first because she will be too busy..Good Luck!!
2007-01-24 06:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋