(luckily to know that i fell in love with him)
2007-01-23 22:33:04 · 15 answers · asked by deanalee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the sooner you tell him the better coz if he finds out by himself you are in deep sh*t. He will think you were even cheating on him, even though you did not, just tell him you were nervous and did not know how he was going to handle it if you had told him you were not a virgin. Apologise nicely and ask him how he feels about the whole situation. its better to be certain than live on the edge, worrying everyday if he gonna find out. If he decides to leave you coz of that, jus try to sweet talk him nicely and if he refuses move on coz a least what you will have learnt from that relationship is that lies get you nowhere and you wont repeat it in future. Hopefully if he decides to stay with you he wont try to use it against you in the relationship coz that wont be enjoyable to you, he must not make you feel you owe him something coz you lied. At least before you talk to him i have enlightened you on one thing, be truthfull from the start of a relationship coz lies jus lead to more lies
2007-01-23 23:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, tough situation you're in. you shouldn't have lied to him to begin with, and you certainly shouldn't have kept feeding this lie as you became more serious. But, relationships are based on honesty, so you really should tell him the truth, even if it is 9 months after the fact. If he is a decent guy, he will be more upset about the fact that you lied to him, rather than the fact that you're not a virgin. You may have trust issues as a result, but these can be worked through. EVERYBODY has lied at some point in their relationship- if they tell you they've been completely honest, they're lying lol! So, again if he is a decent guy, this is a reason to be upset with the fact that you lied, but not a reason to break up with you. Everyone has a past. Your past has led you to him, and for that he should be grateful. If he does break up with, screw him- you deserve a person who is willing to work through issues with you either way. good luck, I'll be sending good thoughts your way.
2016-05-24 03:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that it does depend on the guy. He should love you no matter if you are or not. Since you lied to him, his feelings will be hurt, and you may lose a little trust.
I had a friend who said she was a virgin. A couple months later I found out she was pregnant. I had the feeling she was lieing, but I was still upset at her for a week. We are still friends. The two of you should be alright, just be honest and talk it out. Hiding it from him may not help your conscience either.
2007-01-23 23:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by MEMtiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to work out what the chances are of him finding out,,you do not state your culture or where you are from so it is hard to advise as some traditions are more important than others..if he will never find out,,say nothing,,it wont help and nothing can give back your virginity.if however there is the smallest chance the truth may out,,you must tell him and then deal with the consequences the best you can,it isnt the end of the world,,not for the majority but as i say,,,we do not know where you are from or the importance placed on your guaranteed virginity,love or no love.
2007-01-23 22:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U lied & y,what were u covering up?it going to be hard 4 him to belive u but if yo reason is real then mayb u will convice him.damn it sucks
2007-01-23 22:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry u lied and its definetely eating at your conscience. but rather dont tell him it will fade away with time. keep yourself true to him and that is what is really important right now
2007-01-23 22:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. If there's really not a need to tell him, and it would just hurt his feelings, then don't tell him. He's better off thinking that he was the only one for you. Just make sure you check yourself for STD's and such just in case.
2007-01-23 22:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him you didnt want him to think badly of you........but really that is something that you dont lie about.
2007-01-23 22:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to tel him, if he truley loved U he can understand.
2007-01-23 22:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by a_ebnlhaitham 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do u want to hurt him? dont tell him if u hv not told yet.
2007-01-23 22:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋