or if he wanted to talk and sort things out via text - not had a reply yet - now i am scared but i want to talk about everything and see if it can be sorted by getting it all off our chests
2007-01-23 22:22:23 · 16 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didnt mean talk over text messages but i asked him via text message
2007-01-23 22:23:38 · update #1
Well, if you feel seriously enough about it, then ask him face to face...
Good luck!
2007-01-23 22:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you for asking what was going on and suggesting to talk it through. It's natural to feel scared and apprehensive as you want to know what is going on and want a chance to put your side across but there is also a bit of risk involved as you don't know what he will say.
Assume that he will reply and that you will get a chance to speak face to face. Don't fret over what you will say or try to plan it as this can go round and round in your head. Instead think about how you really want it to work out and focus on looking after yourself and getting busy with real distractions.
If for some reason he doesn't respond then you can always write it all down- just for your own benefit but to get it out of your head. I find it helps to make my thoughts clearer and my mind free-er.
I hope it all goes brilliantly and that it is resolved in the best way for you. x
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2007-01-23 22:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman has the strongest insticts. It can detect when someone is angry , happy or guilty. I think you are ignoring your instinct. Sit ina quite place and listen to your instincts. If they are screaming 'it's over ' then you have to live with that. It could be for the better anyway. If the sixth sense, which is your instinct, says there is a chance of working it out, then do so. I think you just want this guy to confirm your worst fears.
The faster you come to terms with the truth the better you will be to move and and find a better guy and a more communicative oneat that.
2007-01-23 23:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when did you text him? Could he just be busy or out of credit or something? If its bothering you this much just make the call and talk to him - he may not even have gotten the text - you could be stressing over nothing - go on hun - ring and ask him to meet you for a chat and hopefully you'll soothe things over!
xx
2007-01-23 23:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and talk about other things first. Don't bombard him with the question, is it over. You can get a feel of him by how the conversations is going. Before you end the conversation ask him if he is going to give the relationship another chance. Be honest with him.
2007-01-23 22:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by DariusAA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Geri
Men can be horrible sometimes.They wana talk when it suits them. dont text him again so that he can start wondering. if he doesnt text you back say by Friday then just forget bout him. You then deserve better than that. if he wants to talk bout it, cool but tell him its beta to sort out a problem straight away rather than leaving it for a day or 2.
Good luck
2007-01-23 22:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lady_Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really want it to work and you really want to be with him then go and talk to him, send a letter do anything to make him listen, although you cant make him talk and if its what he wants, that he doesnt want to be with you, you will have to accept that and move on. You can find someone else but try with him first. I hope it all works out xx
2007-01-23 23:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should know when it is all over. U cannot sort it. There is nothing to sort. Better to make fresh start with someone else. It is less messy and more cheerful.
2007-01-23 22:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean or anything, but you can want to talk all you like but he wont talk or respond until he's ready to....so give him some time and if you get nothing, write to him. that way it's at least off your chest?
2007-01-23 22:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Chariddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i would say your relationship is definately over. As hard as it is move on and forget about him if you don't pester him he may realise what he has missed and will come running back. get out there and have some fuin and enjoy yourself.
2007-01-23 22:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by Missbutterfly:-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing lasts forever; move on and meet somebody new or, stay single for abit and have a laugh.
2007-01-23 22:32:42 · answer #11 · answered by moo_i_rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋