I want to write a sensier love letter to my bf, who's been together for 9 months now. He took me to Spai, to his parents house in Xmas, best friends wedding, and Iceland for Valentine day. He loves me very much as I do to him.
But I have a problem. I'm moving to my home country in April, and moving to LA for work. I've been telling my bf this, but he still believes that I'll stay in UK. I do want to tell him how I need him to realize the fact, and if I don't get any strong words of commitment wanting me to stay, I can't turn down my job. I must write this in letter, so he would understand clearly of my needs.
Should I include my serious message with my love letter, or should it be separated?
One is very positive, one is very challenging to read. Should I give him separately?
I want him to keep this love letter, please give me your advice..!
2007-01-23 22:04:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When we talked once, he told me it's my decision if I want to stay in UK or not. That is very true...
He says he wants to meet my parents and attend to my brothers wedding back in Japan on April...I don't know why he says this if he knows I'm moving out from UK..!
2007-01-23 22:14:15 · update #1
No I would keep both seperate. I would tell him how special he is to you in the letter and after he has read it I would then talk to him about your future plans. However you have been together only a short time and whilst you care for each other very much its quite a short time to expect such a big commitment. If you think the realtionship has a good future I would stay put. However seems you have been offered a good oppertunity to work abroad etc.... needs careful thinking but I would not want to leave the person I love very much. Just make sure he's worth hanging around for. Good Luck! But no I would keep the letter seperate - whatever happens between you he will always know how much you meant to him.
2007-01-23 22:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by S C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen dear, life is all about priorities, organise them for your sake, if he really loves you he will understand that. I know how difficult remote relationships are, since im in one of them right now, but u have to make ur mind up and he has 2, u will see what will happen with time, love is about reaching ur full potentail ( both of u) u as anindividual, him as an individual, and u 2 as a couple.
For the message do what will feel more comfortable to do, to regret doing something is better than regretting not doing it.
2007-01-23 22:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by heartbreaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
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2016-04-24 10:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to tell him how you feel to his face. If that's not possible then do it in a letter, the same letter. If you aren't going to get an engagement ring soon then go back and get your job.
2007-01-23 22:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow..this is tough..
but here's wat i think k.. as much as separating them would sound easier for him, i aint sure whether it'd be good in the long run.. well, when he reads ur love letter, he's definitely gonna be positive right?..cuz now he'd be sure of ur love for him.. but somehow i heva feelin that it may, at the same time, create higher expectations of ur relationship n commitment to him... well, i dunno..
but why're u writing a letter instead of meeting him?... i mean, in the movies, one always gets really hurt when one's lover leaves without sayin goodbye face-to-face..but i dunno real life, of course.. but if u dare, i guess u outta say it to him face-to-face..like, tell him the truth now before he expects too much.. it'll hurt him like hell, i guess..but maybe it won't hurt as much as if u've wrote him a love letter before that...only to hit him with a "written goodbye"..
i aint guaranteein a argument-free solution here..if he's really on to you, he might jus argue n plead u to stay.. i mean, maybe everyone would do the same thing.. but if leavin the country is what u think u outta be doin, then u outta do it, right?.. guess u've made ur priorities.. u jus needa stick to em..
well, i aint qualified to advice u on this..so pls consider ur decision carefully k..cuz my advice might jus mess up ur life..
but as for me, i'd rather be hit hard with the truth n reality now than to get lost in my own dreams n expectations only to be disappointed later...
2007-01-23 22:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by deathbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't givre up moving ; you will live to regret it. Long distance romance cAN WORK AND YOU CAN ALWAYS MOVE BACK IF THE JOB IS NOT ONE YOU WANT. iNVITE HIM OVER FOR A FEW WEEKSand see what happens (sorry about the capitals.)
2007-01-23 22:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hold back on the serious future talks for at least a few more months as he may see you as rushing things which may scare him.
2007-01-23 22:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should talk to him face to face because you are not a good speller and he wouldn't understand what you mean.
2007-01-23 22:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋