I have had a 'bed' friend for about 6-8 weeks now. It has been and is still amazingly good. We talk for hours too, he clears my head and always seems to understand where I am coming from. He is blunt, honest, not the sort of person that wants to mess my head up at all. I did tell him a while ago that his friendship was more important to me than the 'act', but things seem to be changing a little. We have slowed it down, no need for the urgency. More feelings I guess. Enjoying each other but have not spoken about emotions. Last time I saw him I sent him a text saying that he really is a good guy and how much I enjoy his company. He sent one back saying the same and this 'it is more than just a s**g'. I want to spill the beans that I am getting attached....although I like the pace we are travelling at. Basically, I know I would be hurt if he found someone else. Gentle advice please, this is all very new to me.
2007-01-23 22:01:38 · 10 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a chance and ask him out. The regrets of what you should have done weigh on you forever.
2007-01-23 22:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...you wont believe it i have just been through a similar thing, only we spilled the beans to each two weeks ago...
i know exactly what yuo are feeling and i suggest you step back to the texting stage where he basically told you that there is more than what you think you two are about.
wait for a nice opportunity and tell him how you feel and you'll see from then on, it'll be smooth sailing...
sounds like you two are having a great time together, but just be careful cos the moment we revealed each other's feelings i freaked out a bit and was so scared, but even with that he managed to calm me down and told me to take it easy and that he's around cos he wants to be, is not a child and has continued to be ever so supportive since then...
i think its the ones you least expect to turn into long relationships that end up turning into them, and the nice thing is that you are becoming good friends as well.
2007-01-24 06:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Chariddie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO> Do not spill the beans . Let him be the one to make the emotional moves. Eventually he will ask you out but even then do not let the emotions take you over; time for that if you are actually seeing each othr as a couple in 6 months time. Let him set the pace and do not follow too eagerly; men still like to think they are chasing you even if it's not fashionable to admit it.
2007-01-24 06:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you have already done the ground work... you have worked out how you feel and begun to let me know slowly to gauge his reaction. That is fantastic as a lot of people would avoid it and not even get to this point.
From here in my experience you do have to take a bit of a risk and risk him not replying exactly as you would like... but then you won't know if you don't say.
He seems like a great guy towards you who you can really talk to so be open and honest about your feelings now and assume that he will respond in the same open and honest way.
I wish you lots of luck and hope it all works out brilliantly. x
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2007-01-24 06:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6-8 weeks in bed, and must been knowing together before that time...so it's around 2 months in total.
I usually don't start relationship starting from sex, but it sure is very important aspect in relationship.
He does still want you, and you want him too...so meet him up, and tell him if he's interesting in giving it a go for a relationship.
From the sound of it, he might agree with you.
2007-01-24 06:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a little bit longer before you tell him your feelings are getting stronger for him. Say a couple of weeks at the most. Good Luck :-)
2007-01-24 06:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take each day at a time ,it sounds like he feels the same ,hes probably just as scared as you in confessing his feelings ,theres no rush just enjoy each other xxxxxxxx
2007-01-24 06:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out before its too late. Lifes all about grabbing your chances.
2007-01-24 06:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ritch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't beleive in a guy/girl friendship because what ends up happening is sex. trust me
2007-01-24 06:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think its great u should tel him how u feel lol jc
2007-01-24 06:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by johnc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋