Dating Dilemma, Drunk when I met her!?

Question

I have a dating dilemma, I met a girl on the tube last friday, I was horribly drunk from an evening of cocktails. I gave her my number but I don't remember doing it, I can hardly even remember getting on and off the tube.

I have arranged to meet her tonight after work, I need a good excuse to leave if I don't find her physically attractive enough, I don't want her to feel bad either.

Obviously, if she not drop dead georgous but is funny & great to talk to etc.. then great!

I know it sound bad, but you have to have some sexual attraction.

Hello, thank you for all your answers, I did meet the girl, and she was lovely, I don't think anything will come of it but it was just really nice chatting with her, we had a really nice night out.

She did know that I was drunk, I apologised and said I didnt really remember her, she looked a little strange for a bit but I think I got round it!

Hopefully I'll see her again and we can be good friends because we have quite a lot in common, I think I'm a little to younge for her, I'm 21, shes 31...I would probably be okay with it, but I could tell she wasnt.

So all in all a good night, wouldent get as drunk as that again when wanting to meet girls, I'd like to know what she looks like next time!

Thank you all!

Answer 1

If you get there and she is not your type ask what she likes to do , eat etc and what ever it is look disappointed.

For example if she likes to eat meat, say you could never have a relasonship with somebody who eats innocent animals. Say your sorry but there proberley isn't any point continuing with the meal. You hope she understands.

That or be completely weird, text her telling her you'll be there with a rose. Take a tulip and when she points out it's not a rose insist it is. Tell her her hair is the most beautiful auburn unless it is. If she asks you why your acting weird say you may have a slight drinking problem then stare at her wine glass asking if she's going to finish that. If she gives it too you talk to it and say things like hey baby its been a while.

Or arrive and pretend you phyco ex is around. Tell her your sorry but you have to go. ask for her phone delete your number and tell her its so your ex won't steal her phone for the number. (which you can assure her she does it all the time) tell her you'll call her once its safe and you ex finds somebody else. DON'T point out you ex whatever you do. otherwise she may approach you ex and you'll be rumbled.

On the otherhand you might fall head of heels in love with this gal and not need this advice.

Answer 2

Get a mate to ring you an hour after you've met her. Work out a code between you, if you like her then just have a quick chat with your mate and carry on the date. If shes horrible then your mate can turn the phone call into a problem, eg pretend he's your flat mate and he's arrived home but has lost his keys, so you'll have to leave to go and let him in. (But don't over-dramatise this conversation will look obvious!) If you think you need longer than an hour to decide, text your mate and put him off ringing a bit longer (obviously descretely in the bathroom!).

Or if you know immediately you don't like her, buy her a coffee then just be really apologetic and say you shouldn't have given her your number as you actually have a girlfriend, but you were really drunk. Just say you wanted to meet her today face to face just to apologise, as you feel really bad. At the end of the day you are only meeting her from work, its not like you've both got ready and come all the way out just to tell her this. You will come out looking like a nice guy for having the decency to tell her in person.

At least if you don't like her both of these strategies will save her getting too attached to you.

PS - actually like Shelly says above if you do like her turning your phone off in my first example probably better!

Answer 3

It's not sad at all to meet someone online. Increasingly more and more young people are finding love and making connections this way - hardly surprising when so many of us use the Internet nearly every day. I was in the same situation as you once, although it was the other way around, I was tempted to lie about how we met and he was prepared to tell people we met online. Don't take his lie too personally, he perhaps feels embarrassed (not of you!) of how you met because maybe he's never had an online relationship before and has never "believed" in them so to speak. That was the case with me, anyway - I was always the kind of person to sneer at online relationships until I made a great connection with a guy I got to know in a chat room. And here we are, two years later, still together and now proud and grateful of how we met. I think you should tell your parents the truth. Think about it: won't they be much more concerned for you if they find out you were lying? You're effectively saying to them "it's something to be worried about" by not being honest (at least from their parental perspective). Don't give up on your relationship because of his lie - it might well just be out of shyness and worry that his parents will rain on his parade by saying online relationships aren't the real deal. Parents are from another generation and they don't always understand how things work today - my parents were worried I'd get hurt but now they're happy for me because they see how happy I am and how strong my relationship is. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 4

Oh please - you do not have to have an instant sexual attraction ; that can grow and come late. I do not care what she looks like or seems to be like the first date is always tricky. resolve to see her three times and then make up your mind. by making up your mind too quickly you could be losing someone who actually is a soulmate. Too many people do that - for the first 4 weeks of dating my man I phoned my friend after each date saying how do i dump this guy . I am so glad I did not. I have never been so happy in my life (he obviously will never know how i felt at first.). go on - be brave and give it a try. incidentally i suggest you take her to see a film tonight - let her choose - then you won't get any awkward gaps in the conversation. Good luck.

Answer 5

Well you agreed to meet her so I suggest when you do meet her (whether she is attractive or not) straight away say you have to be somewhere for dinner later and you can only stay for say an hour. If you find you get on really well and want to spend the rest of the evening with her then pretend to cancel your "dinner appointment". Good luck - hope she's nice

Answer 6

Have an arrangement with a friend to ring you at a certain time. If you want to leave you can say it was work that called you, if you don't you can tell yur mate "sorry cant talk at the moment, gotta go". I know it's mean but it worked for me when I did the exact same thing!!

Answer 7

listen you should'nt have arranged to meet her if you can't even remenber her, she obviously likes you or she wouldn't have called you. unless shes a complete moron she would have noticed how drunk you where and still wants to make an effort with you. i don't think you need a prearranged plan just give her a fair go and if shes not for you then just be honest and tell her x sorry if it sounds harsh but its the best i can come up with x

Answer 8

I would just be upfront with her - tell you remember her vaguely but just to avoid any confusion or embarrassment on your behalf when you meet - could she mms you picture of herself over the phone - lie and say you have a vague idea of her - but you just dont want to make the mistake of approaching the wrong lady!
Any normal person will see the reason behind this and should have no problem texting you a picture of themselves!
Good luck and I hope shes hot!
xx

Answer 9

Why make an excuse to leave early? its only one evening, just stay there if you decide you dont like her then let her down gentley but if you leave the date early you will make her feel bad what ever, so the best thing to do is be a gentleman and stay till the end. xx

Answer 10

Just get your mate to phone you 1/2 after you have met her,that way if she is a minger you can say you have a family emergency and have to leave! If she is a babe then tell your mate that you cant talk now or something!!