Ok...after completely just giving up on love, I met someone...We have only been dating a few weeks, but we have gotten very close. We are even now exclusive. He is so nice to me(almost 2 nice sometimes!) and I really like this guy! But now I am having doubts..I dunno if maybe I'm just not use to be treated like this or what..I am now feeling that maybe he just is the kind of guy that attaches himself to girls and maybe his feelings for me aren't true..We are very comfortable with each other, and we get along great! Sometimes it feels like I have known him forever..I have been hurt so much in the past, and I just can't figure out if these doubts are coming from my own fear..I'm so afraid that maybe this could be the real deal and I am going to screw it up because I don't know up from down right now..What do you guys think? btw I'm 26 and he is 27 so we aren't just a bunch of "kids"..I mean, is it possible for guys really to feel or act this way so soon? and for the question of sex..no..
2007-01-23 21:58:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you're not just scared, you're just being careful and you should. specially the overly nice guys-they're the one to watch out for because once they get what they want then it's buh-bye time
2007-01-23 22:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, slow down, take it easy. If you enjoy each other's company hang out together more. get to know each more. It sounds like you he really likes you. You have to try and trust again, maybe some guy treated you like dirt in the past. It doesn't mean that all guys are like that. Its possible for guys to be in love for real,not all guys treat women nice until they get what they want out of them. Try to go with the flow and not worry so much. Don't ever give up on love. Even if it doesn't work out with this guy, if you give up you're going to be missing out on somebody wonderful.
2007-01-23 22:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurts from the past could cloud our judgment and inflict fears that hinder us from reaching our ultimate happiness. i am on the same struggle that you are on. all i can say is, you are both in the right age. he seems like a nice guy. you have reasons to be scared and doubtful but you have to stop associating your past experiences with every guy that comes your way. although it takes a while to fully recover but you have to ask yourself, but most often people tend to dwell longer recovering that they don't even recover like me. im struggling. it doesn't have to be perfect. yes you might get hurt again, even much worse, but it all depends on you. you hold the keys to your future. if you are scared of getting hurt again and also at the same time scared that your fear might screw up what could possibly be the real deal then evaluate yourself.... which of the two fears can you easily manage???
if you are so scared of getting hurt again, then pause for a while and evaluate things and plunge yourself into a lot of peaceful time with God and yourself..
if you are scared of losing the real deal... believe that God will preserve what he has already for you when you are ready.. don't get into anything by pressure.. get into it whenever you're ready..
2007-01-23 22:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is funny, becuase you are just scared since its "too good to be true". these things do happen. once you start analizing this to death you will kill it yourself and find a million reasons why NOT to be with him. you should take it easy and have fun. you guys arent gettin married tommorow. you say he is too nice. whould you want someone that is not nice? would that seem more "normal" ? you got luck, and its great. i had the same situation and we are together for 2 years now. dont think. just do!
2007-01-23 22:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by mouse1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your doubt are caused by bad relationships in your past. if he treats u well and your not use to it, u will question it. relationships aren't suppose to be difficult and full of trouble, they are suppose to go smooth. don't fear it, reach out to it, and just be yourself, don't rush it, and take it easy with this one, not too many expectations at first. maybe it is your time to meet Mr. right, after so many Mr. wrongs.
2007-01-23 22:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you have been hurt you can't give up. If this guy is making you feel cared for, enjoy it you deserve it. Who knows things might work out. don't give up on love cause you have been hurt before. I believe there is someone right out there for everyone it took my till my 30's to find the one right for me.
Good Luck & please don't give up.
2007-01-23 22:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nagging doubts do not help u to move on in ur life.
2007-01-23 22:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are overltly cautious.
2007-01-23 22:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be courage..life is not fear
2007-01-23 22:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋