My daugther went to nursery with this girl and they where the best of friends for a long time, but now they have started school this little girl seems to have turned on her, i've been into the school a few times now and have also spoken to the girls mum as we are quiet friendly but things are getting very strained between us now, it doesn't help matters that this little girl also has behavioural problems, i don't know what else to do??
2007-01-23 21:47:06 · 14 answers · asked by *°â?¢.smudge.â?¢Â°* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You need to go back into school and make an appointment with the headteacher and ask them for a copy of their anti-bullying policy, record the times you have been into school or telephoned and what action was taken, and if the school are not going to do anything then go to your lea (local educational authority). And explain to your daughter that it is not her fault and try to get her to play with another child and bring this child home or take them to a play centre after school - i hope it all stops asap and good luck
2007-01-23 21:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
i am sorry to hear that, the school should be onto the other girls parents, what i did when this happened to my son, was invite a few friends round and create a group of friends with other mums and exclude this child, and when this child asks if she can start going out with the group tell her no until she learns her behaviour is no acceptable, i am sure this child will start on another child soon enough but if if all the children stick together she will soon get the message, also if the teacher gives a talk of how to behave towards others and keeps repeating it so its not just a one off talk that can help, i know its hard to see your child go through this but just be supportive, obviously this child has problems at home and if its not nipped in the bud now it will get worse, good luck and best wishes x
2007-01-26 10:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by trouble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I f I were you I would invite this other little girl home for tea after school and plan some things to do of which you have to join in too. I have done this a few times when my daughter has come home from school upset with being bullied and it soon stops.
Failing that tell your little girl to stay away from her and get the teacher to transfer your daughter to another class.
Explain to your daughter that none of this is her fault and not to take it too personally. You must try and intervene as the longer this carries on the more likelihood it has of effecting your child's social confidence.
Good Luck.x
2007-01-24 00:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Me! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little kids change friends all the time. It is natural, they have short attention spands. And if you and the little girls' mom are friends, you all shouldn't let the daily changing of friends between little kids get in between you all's friendship Now, you need to talk to the teacher in charge and tell her/him that you think (or know, if you do) that your little girl is getting bullied at school, and that you want them to do something about it. Don't stress though, trust me, it is totally natural. I know some triplets (identical girls), and they just turned 8, and one time when i was with them they got into an argument, and one of them said to the other "i am not your triplet no more, now i am just her triplet". It was so funny, becuase they look just alike! i have even had a little girl (3 years old) come up to me and say that i was getting on her nerves and that she wasn't my friend anymore. Within the next hour, she got in trouble and was right up under me, so i asked her" i thought that you weren't my friend any more?" and she responded "you're my friend now, i like you". So again i say, don't take it seriously and let your kid make some new friends, the little kids are just trying to find their own paths.
2007-01-23 23:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have just left my little girls school in tears because of this, it breaks my heart that i have to make her go to school when she is being beating up, she was so scared going in this morning.
She is 6 and started at this new school in november, since then 3 girls same age, but bigger, she is tiny, have been slapping her kicking her and punching her, no reason whats so ever. Spoken to the school, there more than useless, apparently these girls have social problems as if that makes it ok to beat on my little girl.
I would say as there is no violence involved, or is there, try engourage them to be freinds, come for tea or something, because if they used to be freinds that migh help, sorry i know i didnt really answer your question, but i do know how you feel.
lots of love
2007-01-24 21:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by hayles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 5 years old the teachers in your daughters class are more than adequate to handle anything. As she gets older being popular is the best defense, taking some type of self-defense class next best.
2016-03-28 23:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this is my worst nightmare when my kids start school and girls are the worst because they are so cruel. My son went through this in preschool and I tried to reconcile him with his friend but this boy didn't want to be friends anymore. I just explained to him that sometimes kids just don't want to play anymore and helped him to form new friendships. Seeing as this girl has behavioural problems her mother probably wouldn't deal with another issue very good naturedly. My best advice is to help your daughter find new friends, but to accept the renewal of this lost friendship in the future if this girl so wants. Good Luck.
2007-01-23 21:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by cupcake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that parents need to protect their children especially at this age. Get involved and deal with the matter asap you don't want your child to think that it's OK to be treated like that because when they get older they will become loaners and that's not cool.....or beat up on at school.....tell your daughter she is too good to hang out with a child like that encourage her to see the difference sides of people so she can understand that it OK if someone turns on you.. Let her seek a new crowd....
2007-01-24 09:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by come on now 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the kid wants attention , so she is bullying your kid to get it.
The teacher should not let this happen, go to the school
and see what goes on in the classroom.
They are both so young, they can still be friends and get
along with a positive attitude.
2007-01-24 00:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 5 years old children change friends often. My daughter is going through the same thing. Most likely her mother is distant because her daughter has been telling her mother things about your daughter true or not.
2007-01-24 00:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by lizzie s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋