My husband has been redundant for 8 months now (he's at quite a senior level so jobs are few and far between), I'm working all the hours in the day to help with finances, we have 2 energetic small children to look after and we're facing having to sell our house in the next couple of months if things don't change. I'm finding life VERY hard to cope with. Is anyone else in the same situation? Any tips for being more optimistic and not seeing the doom and gloom in EVERYTHING?
Oh, and I'd appreciate that anyone with a crystal ball have a good look in it for me!
2007-01-23 21:31:02 · 10 answers · asked by cat on a hot tin roof 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just wanted to add that he's opened a imited company in case he finds contract work - he's spent the last 8 month trawling the internet for jobs, speaking to endless headhunters, chasing every single lead possible.
He's even applied for jobs way below his salary range but they won't employ him because he's too experienced!
2007-01-23 21:41:48 · update #1
Has your husband considered a new direction? Really thinking about what you would like to do, and not simply sticking to what you know can sometimes open up a different direction for you. Taking training in a new skill can provide a certain amount of money towards expenses. If there is any chance of your husband working for himself using existing skills, you can often get start up assistance of various kinds.
Citizens advice bureau can help with all manner of things, but it is sometimes difficult to get an appointment. Do contact your Mortgage provider to re-arrange things regarding your house. These arrangements can be temporary or permanent - please let them help you. If you prefer, and you have contacts for Financial Advice - talk to them again. Don't let the situation become so desperate that you can't see any way out. There ARE answers out there, and one or more of them WILL help you. Talk to each other, talk to people with the knowledge to help. DONT GIVE UP!
2007-01-24 00:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will feel silly when you do this - but it WILL help. Start an appreciation diary. At your 1st attempt you'll probably have difficulty listing 10 things that you are either grateful are so or are not so. Talk to each other about the things that originally attracted you to one another. Each of you should examine yourself to see that those things are still true. Discuss with each other the hypothetical situation of having to develop an instructional curriculum for your children about how to deal with this situation. Small children are much smarter than we realise. They have so much opportunity to observe and listen. You are teaching them if you realise it or not. As has been mentioned correctly by someone else, the God of the Bible really does exist, though there are many that dispute that fact! Spend a little time verifying prophecies that have already been fulfilled. For instance, 3000 years ago Ezekiel wrote that there would no longer be a prince OF Egypt. There has not been a president of Egypt OF EGYPTIAN DESCENT since! A prophecy was given to the ancient city of Tyre, a city about the size of modern New York City, America. God said "I will scrape you off like the top of a rock". 300 tears later Alexander the Great scraped the soil off of the mainland and made their island a peninsula and conquered them. You can read about it in the encyclopedia Britannica. A few minor suggestions: sublet a room of your house to someone of good character; there are individuals and companies that will pay for instruction in what your husband knows; there are companies whereby you can sell your house to a relative or very good friend for only what is owed against it (this will have the effect of lowering the payments and, if this person is agreeable, you can stay in the house making reduced payments and, hopefully, buy it back from them when circumstances permit). Ask God in prayer together to help. When you pray don't use rote prayer - talk to Him.
2007-01-24 01:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by euhmerist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't wish to offer something "Below" your husband. But with my work I have times when contracts are difficult to come by. So as I back up I have a Taxi licence. Then when ever I need the money I can just go out and do some extra hours. It takes the strain off the family when times get hard. you can make £500 a week doing it which isn't the greatest of money but it takes the pressure off, which is nice.
Just make sure you support each other and enjoy the good times with out dwelling on the bad things in life or it will drag you down.
Good Luck all the best.
ps. As for the crystal ball. if you find it I'm looking for the numbers for this saturdays lottery lol
2007-01-23 21:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by cwiltshire 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately and this is not what you'll want to hear you may never get over this.
My father was made redundant in 93 and couldn't get another job it eventually lead to the break up of his marriage, he hit the bottle and is now considered a world class loser.
The first year is critical. If your husband does not get a job within the first year he will lose his drive and desire to get one, he'll slip into apathy and afetr that 10 years will have passed and he'll be out drinking and you'll still be the only bread winner.
He will have to bite the bullet and take a lower paid job and start from there
2007-01-23 21:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a possibility for him to be self employed?
If your situation is so bad why doesnt he take up any job in order to meet the need of the hour? By the way, how is he spending his time now since 8 months?
Maybe this is an opportunity for him to change his profession....when one door closes...a window opens somewhere....
Be hopeful!
2007-01-23 21:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by LHP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"My husband has been redundant for 8 months now (he's at quite a senior level so jobs are few and far between)"
well, if things are tight he might want to swallow his pride and accept a job at a less than senior level.
2007-01-23 21:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn to jesus From the beginning of the world to its end, there is no place you can
look and not see Jesus. He is everywhere. He is everything. "He is
before all things, and in Him all things hold together."
(Colossians 1:17) he will help you
2007-01-23 22:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try praying and attending church. That really helped me out. It's also nice to help the less fortunate. Then we see how great our lives really are. Never give up hope!
2007-01-23 21:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Christian 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Just hang on as long as I can I guess."
Elisabeth Taylor I loved her. Hisszzzzzzzzzz
2007-01-23 21:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something unexpected.
2007-01-23 21:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Invisible_Flags 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋