I'm very insecure...... me and my fiance knows each other for six years now! But I'm still wondering if h loves me and I want to hear him say he loves me and that I'm the only girl for him. I know I'm jealous but I'm working on it and it seems I'm getting somewhere! I love him very much, am I going to push him away from me with this attitude?? What can I do to be more secure?????
2007-01-23 21:30:06 · 8 answers · asked by angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you tell him you love him, he should at least give you some signs that he loves you too. I mean, I don't think he would marry you if he didn't love you, but people need to feel loved sometimes. I think an extended cuddle session with lots of caressing and sweet talk is in order. He might open up a little to that approach if you aren't too pushy. He might be one of those guys who doesn't like to talk about the way he feels. Good night!
2007-01-23 21:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you have serious self esteem issues. I would advise you to seek counseling for the problem before it drives a wedge between the two of you. Communication is the most important key in any relationship. Talk with your fiance and discuss your fears in a mature way. Tell him what you need and invite him to do the same. Perhaps a couples counseling would also help. The most important first step is to admit there is a problem, which you have already done. Now its just a matter of moving on from there in a healthy direction.
2007-01-24 05:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to say he loves you more. If he's been with you for 6 years of course he loves you. You have to trust him unless he's given you a reason not to trust him. You are going to push him away with your insecurities. Relationships are built on honesty and trust and open communication With out these there's going to be trouble down the road.
2007-01-24 06:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to Know in your heart that he loves you. Do you know that? Second, do You trust him? if you answered yes to both of these then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. But if you answered no, well you might want to re think the every thing. Also if your man is anything like me he my feel comfortable with you and feel that you know that he loves you. finally if you trust him you shouldn't be Jealous of anything and know that he still wants only you.
2007-01-24 05:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sacred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its so hard not to be jealous i mean come on your only human. But sometimes you just need to be more secure about yourself. I mean ya'll are going to get married come on i don't think he will propose to anyone he must be deeply in love with you.. if he's willing to get married with you, and spend his life, future, and dreams with you. Just take a look at that.......also be more secure within yourself.
2007-01-24 05:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by kika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont keep telling him u love him because once u say it too much then he is going to think that u are jsut saying it to say it. so on the special ocassions say it and let him say it to u, dont make him say it. well good luck
2007-01-24 05:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by quikblue11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well uhm... this is only what i think.. and I'm just trying to help.. but uhm.. i think.. that you should learn to trust him just like he trusts you... and if you want to hear him say that he loves you.. why not tell him... that's the easiest way... good luck! peace out! :)
2007-01-24 05:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im very insecure also, i feel like always my boyfriend doesnt love me. but when i feel this way, my boyfriend goes out of his way to prove he cares about me like writing me a letter or calling me to continuously say he loves me
2007-01-24 05:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by answer! this 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋