I get on with most of my boyfriend's mates, but at least 3 girls in the group and one guy have come out with odd remarks such as:-
He uses women
What are you doing with him?
He prefers his mates to you
These people are supposed to be good mates of his, so what is it all about? The guy is the most disturbing of the lot - how can he be so two faced and 'drop him in it' with me? This guy actually invited me away for a holiday with him - what a jerk!
How would you deal with these troublemakers?
We have been together about 6 months and it is very much a casual thing so why can't people just leave me alone. I am well aware of the score with him and happy nonetheless, but these stupid comments do make me unhappy.
Should I just stop socialising with those people - its not as if I dont have my own mates to hang out with.
I enjoy his company and he is good in bed so I have no intention of dropping him for a few months yet.
What would you do?!!
2007-01-23 21:09:41 · 17 answers · asked by Saucy B 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its obvious his mate is after you.I would ignore & try to avoid them
has they sound like jerks.
2007-01-23 21:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK use this tactic..the next time your with your boyfriend and his mates...bring it up...ask them in front of him what they meant, put them on the spot....because i learnt that using this method shows you that they are no good people because they will deny that they said anything, girls especially, they are jealous...don't take any notice to them, but do mention it to your fella and get him to confront them face to face....they are not his mates if they talk about him like that, i think he should consider looking for new friends.....because these ones seem to be backstabbers and are not genuine..also tell your fella that his mate has asked you to go away with him, blow the lot of them up...because they do not deserve a friend like your man...yeah i think you should stop socialising with them, there's too much negativity and i don't think you need it to be honest, if your happy with this guy then stay with him but refuse to hang around with these people when your with him, they are no good...there is a better class of people out there..your too intelligent for that lot...don't lower your standards
2007-01-23 21:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're right and maybe the bloke's just the same as your fella. Maybe they're a bunch of blokes, all thick as thieves, with no real loyalty or conviction as far as relationships are concerned.
The girls may be trying to warn you.
Or,
The girls are jealous of you and the bloke's jealous of your fella so they want to split you up.
It doesn't sound like much fun for you, you have to at least share the burden with your fella and tell him what's being said, that would be the only way you could move on together. the alternative would be to go it alone but you sound like you really likeyour man so why let others spoil it.
2007-01-23 21:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by PvteFrazer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was seeing a bloke whos friend was doing this to me, he fancied me himself and was trying to stir so that we would split up. I found out he was saying things to my boyfriend about me too so you need to be careful because i bet this lot are doing the same. The girls, as girls are, are just being bitchy and jealous and jumping on the band wagon. Tell your boyfriend about these comments but make it lighthearted and not like you are trying to cause trouble. Tell him you dont want any hassle you were just worried in case they were saying things to him too. If he likes you he will listen and will all work out, i told my boyf and he laughed it off but i could tell he had taken it on board. I relaxed because i wasnt worried about it anymore and i managed to deal with the situation a whole lot better. Eventually these bullies will give up when they see how strong you are as a couple, make a point of never arguing in front of them and looking really happy together. I wish you the best of luck x
2007-01-23 21:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are having a casual thing, then maybe he is seeing other woman....and using them. From what you have said, it doesn't
sound like its serious.
If I were you, I would just look after myself and not worry what else he is up to. If his friends comment about it, just say "i know the score and have an agreement, judge all you want but keep your remarks to yourself, I don't need to hear them thanks".
The thing is, everyone sees things differently, whats okay for you might not be okay for another, maybe his friends are the type of people who would not be okay with your situation and want to warn you about him.
2007-01-23 21:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they r jealous!
Ignore them they just don't want either of u to be happy.
Still hang out with them if u like as long as u can ignore their comments. But if they start to bug u then just drop them their not worth it.
Have u told ur bloke wot theyve been saying. if not maybe u shud he mite have a word in their ear holes or maybe u'll find its happened before.
2007-01-27 09:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by kickhimharder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably would ask him about some of the things they are saying about him, without divulging who said it. I would definitely tell him about the "jerk" who is trying to date me. You sound very cold though, when you say "he is good in bed so I have no intention of dropping him for a few months yet." Probably you need to check up on yourself too. Looks like you are in it just for the sex.
2007-01-23 21:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I enjoy his company and he is good in bed so I have no intention of dropping him for a few months yet."
I think you answered your own question, there really is no problem cause your gonna dump him anyway. Maybe they think your using him and there trying to protect their mate?
2007-01-23 21:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by moo_i_rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that you could say you dont inteand on getting rid of him for a few months makes me think you and those mates are all being 2 faced to him or you just have to much pride but anyway i answer the question becarefull of the girls they may be trying to still him and be more carefull of the male he may be tryinf to still you only to hurt you boyfriend, be wise
2007-01-23 21:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If u love him do not listen to odd words, the guys are jealous of him they are his enemies not friend.
no boy doesn't like girl even if he does due to loving u he will stop so forget about his friend just face ur love life. i advise u stay away from those socalled friends of him they are intruders.
2007-01-23 21:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋