I got angry about even very small things very easily. What can I do to stop my anger?

Question

Also, do you know any good websites about Anger Management?

I keep that anger INSIDE. The other person does not know.

Answer 1

http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html

http://www.pe2000.com/anger.htm

good luck with it

Answer 2

The term anger management commonly refers to a system of psychological therapeutic techniques and exercises by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state.

Healthy adults need to be able to hint, to use, or to pretend "anger": either management or mismanagement (or both), as is appropriate. Competent teachers, law-enforcement, and other authority figures are especially skilled in anger management. Teams of such practitioners may decide beforehand or in real-time, to play "Good-Bad Cop" roles.

Courses in anger management are sometimes mandated by a legal system. Courts typically require eight to 12 hours of classes for most offenders. There are currently no national or state standards. Therefore, some people may not receive the help that they require.

Typical anger management "techniques" are the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. As the issue of anger varies from person to person, the treatments are designed to be personal to the individual.

The excerpt above is from the source below:

Accept the things that you cannot change.
Change the things that you can.
Be wise enough to know the difference.

Usually lack of moral support is a source of anger. Being unable to get someone else or others to cooperate or do as directed or suggested leads to frustration and anger. Learning to be less dependent on other's help is one way to avoid situations that may lead to anger or frustration. When you want it done, do it yourself. The rest is up to each individual.

Answer 3

First thing you can do is address the real reasons behind all the anger. usually when something sets you off.. subconsciously your giving yourself an excuse to blow off some steam. anger usually resides somewhere much deeper inside that manifests itself and continually builds up if you dont confront whats bothering you and either do something about it.. or maybe even having to let go of the pain someone has caused you and somehow learn how to forgive them. Or maybe the real anger is with yourself. maybe your disappointed or felt like a failure for not coming through with something you had hoped. If the following things ive listed are not the roots to all of your anger.. maybe it is best to try and go take some Anger Management classes around your area. good luck to you.

Answer 4

Is there a history of this "Type A personality" in your family..?
They all died young, didn't they? At least all the ones in my family, my mothers' side, seem to have. Make sure that you have a different approach to a disappointment, an upset. You are either 'going postal' on people in bad situations, or inanimate objects. We've all seen Basil Fawlty thrash his little red car with a branch he pulled off a tree. We laugh because it's so absurd, a grown man trying to punish the psyche of a car. It's mechanical, it has a mechanical problem, it will need a calm, cool mechanic to fix it.
If it's organic, it's likely to be a person who has annoyed you. You can blow up at them, and lay down the law. Trample loudly over their explanations of what they did and why they did it. And you can leave them resentful of you, scared to ever show any initiative, less they get screamed at for doing so. Or you can be the liked, like-able, calm, approachable, reasoned, seasoned individual, who may only be in charge of half a dozen construction workers, but who has the respect and trust of them all. "A stable character means rarely having to say you're sorry." Or you can just be all Jade Gobby, open your yap, and create an INTERNATIONAL INCIDENT!

Your choice! Good luck!

Answer 5

Hey man trying to stop your anger is not ever easy but try channelling you anger to something useful... take up martial arts, jogging, going to the gym... here you use that angry energy inside you to push harder and train harder, this will help use up your anger and make you feel better for having achieved something... if that is not your thing take yourself out for a walk, think things over and understand what the problem is and the best way to solve it. both work but i think you'll prefer training!!!

Answer 6

you could always try the old fail safe of counting slowly to ten when you feel yourself loosing it.

it works for me and stops lots of needless confrontations.

as for anger management it depends on if you're looking for a course or just something to read, check out the yahoo link for a list a sites to visit.

good luck,

the first step to resolving a problem is admitting you've got a problem.

xxxxxx

Answer 7

Try injecting a little laughter into your life, honestly some of the questions and answers on this site can cause more than a smile to creep across my face. If that doesn't work try to isolate a particular problem which might be bothering you and if possible resolve it. Hope this has been of some small benefit.

Answer 8

i used to get angry alot more than now, alot of anger is really hurt coming out. you need to speak about it with someone keep a diary as well each day and write about what is upsetting you and that will help you to release you thoughts and understand but speak to someone caring as i think you are hurt really and confused. i did and stop getting so angry.

Answer 9

You should try to tolerate with you own self first
then try to have a bath at least twice a day
try to spend much time with people you really love
avoid arguing with anybody
try not to concentrate on trivial matters
think of goodness of other people first
if you are in a real situation and got angry , try to change your position from upstanding to sitting or posing or even stretching .
do some activities to get rid of over-feelings

Answer 10

Consider taking up yoga or meditation you need a calm out look on life in general. Peace man.
Oh and dont sweat the small stuff.

Answer 11

Only one way Bro figure out what you are really so angry about and deal with it.