i do visit thailand alot an would really like a long term relationship with an ordinary thai girl,im well aware of the bar girls and red light scene but this does nothing for me at all.
I would like to meet a girl who works not in a bar,i would like to think that not all westerners end up marrying a bar girl.
I know these girls are poor and need money but i am looking for a different kind of thai lady is this possible?
im sure not all thai girls look at us like we are atms,and there really is love somewhere amongst it all.?
2007-01-23 20:40:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Thailand
It usually won't happen if you are in a hurry and specifically looking for it. I was working in Malaysia and spent most of my weekends gallivanting around SE Asia. As was said once you get out of the tourist trap aread that cater to sex industry finding a nice girl is quite easy, but romancing a "good girl" takes some time.
Although the easiest and best way to pick up a good local girl is to learn their language. When I was first flirting with my wife she turned to her friend and pretty much said "he's just trying to get in my pants" in thai, I responded "after we're married" in thai and she turned the oddest shade of red I've ever seen and the rest is history.
I've been together with my Thai darling for about 13 years and I'm still anxious to get home every day :)
2007-01-24 05:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by x_ill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you probably need to stay there six months or join a marriage club (which seem to be full of bar girls). I have a few friends with Thai wives, some were bar girls others werent. In each case where the girl did not work a bar the bloke spend time there. The girls like European men as are facial features are more diverse than Asian people and Thai men have a bad reputation with the Thai girls. I dont have a Thai wife but if i had my time over again i would. Been briefing my sons ready!
2007-01-24 03:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by dbharrold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
(ANS) In my opinion if your "heart is open" & your motives are sincere I'm sure you have every possibility to meet someone who you can love & who can return your love. I think what you desire is what many many countless western men also desire.
I also think the red light (sexual tourism) scene in Thailand has given western men a VERY bad image or reputation too. Especially for a single man genuinely seeking a loving relationship.
You know life is strange sometimes & when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex, you cannot say Oh! I want to choose one (a woman) like this! or who has that!, frankly this way of thinking is doomed to failure, disappiontment & sadness.
Men often get caute up on an ego level with wanting the right shape, the right size, blond hair, or whatever it is. A nice looking package on the outside but in reality its the woman on the inside thats more important in the end. Its what you cannot see on a first meeting that vital, if there is chemistry with another person, is there attraction, could there be intimacy and so forth.
It really doesnt matter if the person (girl,woman, partner) comes from Thailand or Birmingham, or Brussles. What matters is the relationship you have with that person (the rest is mostly superficial and pretty unimportant). What matters is how much love you have to share with this person who ever she is, where ever she is.
**All that matters is love and an open heart & she will come.
IR
2007-01-23 21:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, once you get out of the red light districts, there are many many many Thai ladies who would like a kind considerate Western husband.. I live upcountry and I see it every day. I am frequently asked if I know of any foreigners who want a wife.. Of course, the first thing that you have to offer is the possibility of a better life - - thats just how it is - accept it and get used to it.. The truth is that real love takes time and in this type of situation, it will take a commitment to understand her culture and language and since you are coming here, the burden lies with you.. If she is not orphaned, then her family, her parents will come first.. As one of the children, you are expected to lend some support, not right off of course, but if you marry that is one of the obligations of your wife and if you want a happy wife, you should expect to comply.. It does not have to be alot - - according to your means.. And there is a different sort of logic here that needs time to understand and sometimes, somethings, will never make sense, but you will be best advised to be easy going.. ahhh - so much to learn - - but is it possible - Absolutely - learning the culture can be enjoyable too and a nice change from the Western world.. All my best to you...
2007-01-24 00:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do u want to marry a Thai girl ?
I am sure that there are probably girls who might marry for love , but doubt very much u will find one,
of course the majority are after money and a passport... seems u only go to tourist places and these are the only kind of girls u are going to meet, but then if u did go to the non tourist areas u wouldn't stand a chance anyways , these people tend to marry their own , they have a completely different way of life and a completely different culture ...
Not a chance mate !
2007-01-23 20:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, Thai love links is an excellent site to search, but you have to be carefull of Thai ladies who are looking for a sugar daddy. I am married to a Thai woman and many of her friends have asked if there are other Farangs at home they could meet.
Just be honest, sincere and dont send money or give away your heart too soon.
2007-01-27 05:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by kenjinuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible to find love in thailand. my girlfriend is thai and she isn't and never has been a bar girl.
i went travelling in thailand and fell in love with the country and the culture before i found my girlfriend.
i wasnt looking for a girlfriend but sometimes when u are not looking for something is when u find it.
i believe love takes time and effort but is most definatle worth it.
if u want to meet someone its good to know a bit about their culture and language, and not just realie on them speaking english - now i can speak and read thai (although not fluently yet) which is good for both of us.
we have been together for just under 2yrs now, i have met her family (family will always come first in thai culture) and she has come to my country to meet mine, and with a bit of luck we will be getting married at end of yr
all the best.
2007-01-27 00:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by เดรป 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ThaiLoveLinks.com is a Thai dating and Thai personal site that helps people to find Thai singles for friendship, dating, romance or marriage.
Enjoy! I hope you can get some good one :) Good luck
2007-01-25 03:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Louis S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make a long story short: most western guys looking for a lady here will never get one in their own country (diff. reasons) to start with but they don't mind to marry a hooker which they never would accept in their home countries and asking for a "virgin",different womanl in Thailand. A serious, well educated Thai-Lady incl. her family (very important to them) don't want foreign(farang) men. With Bar-Girls, as long as your cash is flowing you are most than welcomed... Look, you might go to rural Thailand,meet a wonderful girl but you have nothing in common:do you speak the languages, are u prepared to eat fried insects,supporting the extended family (incl. the lazy brother), accepting her kids fm previous "engagements" etc.
2007-01-24 00:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if that one is serious that answered your question, why not get to know them and maybe he can set you up with someone...or if that's too risky try to make friends with a thai family in your home country. i'd bet money they have a single girl somewhere here or there...
I had a friend that was from Laos.. i knew for a few years, and they set me up with a introduction... i talked for TWO years with her and then finally met her..ended up marrying her. all of her family helped me with the paperwork and fees!!!! And shes well educated, and very, very pretty..
im thankful to meet such a nice family!
2007-01-25 11:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by KB31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋