hi guys, need help on this plz.
my parents are taking me to see a girl this sunday ...... i am very confused as to what to look for in a girl.......
had virtually no relationship in my life so don't know what to expect and what to ask in these kind of situations so if you can help that will be highly appreciated.......
what sort of questions to ask the girl and what sort of things/qualities i should be looking to get a perfect match for me.....
thanks
2007-01-23 20:32:52 · 18 answers · asked by SANDY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You'll know the right girl when you meet her.
2007-01-23 20:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Married couples should actually only share three things in common --- a sense of humor, a respect for good fiscal management, and a willingness to enjoy and learn from each others different skills and abilities.
But you've got a ways to go. Don't look for the perfect match. Not yet. (Not ever, perfect matches just club you on the head-- then you'll know it without doubt.)
Just try to be human and honest. She'll probably be just as freaked-out as you. Be a friend and listen a lot. Try to empathize with her as a person, not as a wife or possible sex object or fantasy goddess. And listen a lot.
Zero in on anything that is a common, enjoyed interest. Like painting, photography, music or bug collecting -- or of MAJOR importance -- a sense of humor. Then let it grow from there. Be yourself, and let her be herself.
2007-01-23 20:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Boomer Wisdom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The entire approach is wrong. It is no proper business of your parents to try to place you with any particular female; you know, better than they, what you should be looking for (although your question says that you don't know that yet, which is fine -- give it time, and you will draw your own conclusions). The most important thing is: do you have something to talk about -- some common interests? What are you into? What do you spend your surplus time or money on? How about her? I am good friends with a perfectly delightful lady, who, had we more common interests, I would have been delighted to marry, but we don't. At this point, what you need most is experience: get to know as many people as you can, so you can get a better idea of what makes them tick.
2007-01-23 20:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well the qualities to look for in a wife are
1) Compassion & Understanding
2) Sensitivity towards you and your children
3) Beautiful from inside and outside
2007-01-24 13:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by SidBridge 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you parents are together which is rare these days. Look for the same qualities that you see in your mom, and you can even ask her, or your dad. "Good" girls are hard to find, but they are out there. Good luck.
2007-01-23 21:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The perfect match for you would be a girl that will help you break out of your shell. Look for that girl.
2007-01-23 20:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she becomes your wife, the two of you will spend a lot of time together for many years. That means she should be patient (and so should you), and be someone you like talking to. You'll be doing a lot of it over the years.
If you like her first, love will follow.
2007-01-23 20:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rusting 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1st of all congrats,
you cant look every thing or even most of the things on a 1st date more over on 1st dates every1 act in their best behivour. 1 question i supose might help you ask her what does she thinks about joint family or she whats her have own family that means you and her and your kid, yrs after you 2 are married.WELL best of luck
2007-01-23 22:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by vishal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Conversation. It is so important that you can talk to her, about the big stuff just as easily as the little stuff. Physical attraction fades, lust fades, etc. etc. But if you always have the ability to really enjoy talking to one another, then that will last.
2007-01-24 02:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear friend, you dont have to worry .The girl you are going to marry is already prewriten you will marry her only it can be love or it can be arranged,but it is already recorded that you are going to marry this girl it is writen when you got birth.One more thing you are not going for any quiz programme , if you like a girl accept her as she is, she will lead the way or you both will lead the way .all the best for your marraige.
2007-01-23 21:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by snehajaya 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Firstly just chill nd relax..The question u have asked depends on person to person...d moment u see her u need to ask yourself dat can u spend ur whole life wid her??coz i believe marriage is a life time commitment so relax nd analyse widin urself wat qualities you are looking in ur wife....dnt go on standard questions like hobbies,blah blah...talk to her also meet her atleast twice nd thn decide......
2007-01-23 22:54:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋