I don't use myspace, but recently made a profile. To make a long story short, on my boyfriend's profile, there were many many MANY comments from a specific girl, with messages that I think are unacceptable to be giving to a man with a girlfriend. He must not have minded, though, or he would have deleted them and not have accepted her friendship. The messages spanned a long time, thanking him for gifts he mailed, talking about plane tickets, "I love you," some sexual comments I won't mention, etc. From the comments, it seems that they had quite a relationship. The comments calmed down, but all of them took place in a span of 4 months, all of which that we were together. It's been almost a year since the comments.
Has it been too long for me to question, even though we WERE together during that time?
Is it silly to be concerned/upset/hurt over stupid comments on a website?
And does online-dating (if that's what they were doing "count" as cheating, in your book?
2007-01-23 20:07:25 · 10 answers · asked by Beautiful Mistake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just so you know -- I did just find out, tonight. I wanted to know if asking about comments on myspace would be pathetic. =/ I sure feel it..
Thanks for the advice guys.
2007-01-23 20:36:42 · update #1
i believe online dating aside from a relationship is just as much cheating as..."real-life" dating...however, almost a year is a long time. that said, its also a long time in which the same thing could have been occuring still. true...it might be he fell even deeper in love with you and that's why the comments ceased. in which case if you ask him about it, hopefully you guys are at the stage where even if he did get offended, nothing big would come from it. afterall, trust is everything in a relationship. its not silly to ask him. be concerned, show him you're concerned. if he flilps out, thats all him. thats a red flag as well. not to be pessimistic...it is also just as like for him to have found another online profile thing that you are not aware of, like facebook of something, that he could be keeping this kind of thing going. it is a digital age and alot of stuff can be accomplished with computers.
i say ask him. if he's offended, tell him you're offended. he was wrong in what he did, and if he truely wasn't, he'll have a plausible alibi.
one thing though...if you JUST found out about it....DEFINATELY raise hell. i would. if you found out about it awhile ago...why did you wait?.......
2007-01-23 20:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by zeek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I would be extremely upset with him. Whether he is cheating or not is a mystery that only you can decide, but coming to that conclusion based on some emails from a site he registered to isn't fair. He may just be teasing some women or feel the need to see what it would be like to have an online affair. Either way, he is wrong for even thinking about another women, much less leading them on the way he is. Confrontation is the best. The sooner the better. You do not want to continue on this way, allowing him to believe he is being secretive. You need to be honest with him and let him know what you know. I wish you the best.
2016-03-28 23:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume the worst and try to discuss it as calmly as possible with him, letting him know you set up a MySpace page, ran across his MySpace page and you saw his interaction with this girl and it made you feel confused and you would like to understand where he is coming from on this.
Most guys don't consider anything they do online or where they never really intend on meeting a girl to be cheating but just like to "test the waters" and "keep their game up" when they feel insecure about their current relationship. As it has been a year and the flirtation only lasted 4 months, it sounds like he tested the waters and decided he had a good thing going with you and likely stopped posting comments on her page and responding to her. Even so, you need to establish the parameters of what is considered cheating/not cheating going forward.
As it has created trust issues, If your relationship is to survive, you do need to ask him about it and see what his responses are and find out if it was just an online flirtation that sounds like it may have been more on her part than his, or something more.
2007-01-23 20:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It obviously bothers you or you wouldn't be asking this question, my answer is...if it bothers you then tell him, a healthy and strong relationship requires good communication, you can not expect him to know how to satisfy you if he doesn't know what bothers you. Accepting a "friend" on Myspace doesn't exactly mean it is serious, but if there was talk about gifts he sent, plane tickets and "I love you" than of course you should question that and he should answer, gifts and plane tickets sounds like a little more than "on-line dating" you deserve an answer no matter how long ago it was!!!
2007-01-23 20:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by dannydolphin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is cheating....you know it is or you wouldn't be so hurt an upset about it...i would bring it up an talk to him about it. If he says why are you just now asking me about it say it has been bothering me for a long time now and you need some answers. If he don't understand that then maybe there was more that just an "on line thing going on "
Good Luck
2007-01-23 20:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by texas_krystle_23 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-24 00:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by bad t 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I found this website with free audio & video chat rooms, they have a room for cheaters there, maybe you should try it out and get other cheaters opinions - http://www.whoshotandwhosnot.ca
2007-01-23 20:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Cupid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u know what they say...better late than ever. he could have had sex with the girl and just mailing after the sex.
2007-01-23 20:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by disco ball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry for this problem....
keep going....
2007-01-23 20:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOO MUCH TALKING!!!!!!!!! you have a big pair of teeth and mouth and HANDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-23 20:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋