i want to tell my mum about my new boyfriend. thing is as soon as i tell her my nan will be on the phone to me lecturing me etc. they just don't let me live my own life i'm 17, 18 next year. how can i make them see that it's my life, i cant keep doing things to make them happy. it makes it worse coz i woz the 1st born daughter and 1st born grand daughter. they're just 2 overprotective over me. plz help.
2007-01-23 20:03:05 · 16 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You lucky thing, you, having people who love you enough to care about whether you get hurtt or not! Though you think you're an adult and know about the world, and all it holds, you are still very young and really haven't lived in the REAL world. Do yourself a favour and actually listen to what they're saying, it may save you some trouble. If I'd listened to my mother about one guy when I was 18, I might not have been raped. If I'd listened to my father when I told him I was getting married, I might not have shackled myself to a loser drug addict. Your mum and your nan have had a lot of experiences over their lives, and though it may disagree with what you think, it may be worth your while to at least listen to what they advise.
Give it a go. And in the very least, if they see you're actually having an adult conversation about it and trying to be receptive to them, they may actually form the opinion that their little girl has grown up, and is more able to tackle the world without their help, and it may make them take it easier on you! Act like an adult, get treated like an adult!
Good Luck!
2007-01-24 00:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by CheeseFest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way its lovely that they are that protective of you but I know its very frustrating for you!
I think the best thing to do would be to tell your mum first - then ring your nan yourself and tell heryour news.
If they start the lectures - just tell them that you appreciate the fact they're looking out for you and you're lucky to have people that care around you - but at the age you are you would like them to give you a bit of freedom to live your life the way you see fit - tell them you have no doubts that you will make mistakes and be hurt at times - but thats all part of life and we all go through it. Tell them in a world such as todays that you need to have your independence and be allowed to break away from the apron strings
By saying things like the above the will see that you are preparing yourself for life ahead and if at all reasonable they will realise that you are now in fact a mature young woman and hopefully will step back a bit.
Best of luck
xx
2007-01-24 04:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answer u if I'm your sister not you and your older sister , first you must be honest with your mom and choose the good time to speak with her , abd be sure that the guy not playing with you , so don't give him any thing ,and be hard of him sometime to know that he loves you for you not for something is his mind (you know)and share every thing with your mum maybe first she will get anger but after that she will respect you for your honest
I hope the best for u
2007-01-24 07:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey!!! Dun forget that all these while they are the one who looked after you. Gave you love and attention and now when you have a bf you wanna forsake their attention and love, huh? You can get many bfs but not your parents.. you can only have one mum and one dad. They are just worried that someone might hurt you... be nice to them and you will be blessed!!!
2007-01-24 04:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask Ur mum and nan what they did when they were 17 - 18 and then say ... this is what i want 2 do and this is my boyfriend ,
2007-01-24 04:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by a perent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the third born my brother & sister never let me forget as mam & dad were strict with them.Think they learnt from there mistakes & were easier on me.Sorry you will have to put up with it or do not tell your mam then your sure to get peace.
2007-01-24 04:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down when no one is around and let her know how you feel about this person- Maybe just say he is a friend for now!
2007-01-24 04:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your still in education maybe you should worry about that instead of how you can jump the council housing waiting list.
2007-01-24 07:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you have found a new bf and that you want to live your own life and they should stop being over reacted they will care for you tho
2007-01-24 04:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by beci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Amy
All they are is guilty of is loving you, it's hard for them letting you go. However they will be concerned that your new boyfriend will only want you for one thing. I
2007-01-24 04:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋