My son is fascinated with his butt?

Question

This is a totally serious question, so PLEASE only totally serious answers.
My 2 1/2 year old son keeps putting things in his butt. He pulls his pants down, puts toys, his hand, food...everything in his booty crack. This is rather embarrassing, and I don't know how to address this. I tell him "no", but then he does it again.
Also, he walks up to people and puts his finger in their butt. Seriously. I tell him "no, you don't touch people like that" but he still does it.
How do I address this? I know some children have fascinations with the penis...is this similar?

I can't just ignore it. When his dad or I turn around to do something, he sticks his finger in our butt. This has been going on since he was about 18 mos.

Answer 1

I realize this is probably not funny for you, but I had to laugh when reading this. But don't worry I believe you that this is a serious question because my little cousin was the same way at roughly the same age (he was 3 I think). He also used to pull down his pants and scream "get ready for my fart!" Yea... sweet angels little boys can be...
He probably thinks it's funny because a couple of times he's gotten laughs from this behavior. He knows it gives him attention and so he enjoys it. Even a negative reaction from you is soemthing to him. What we did (and it started working fairly quickly) was to have a talk with him (you've probably already done this) explaining why it is not funny, not nice, and not acceptable to put things in his butt or touch other peoples. Then tell him from now on when he does things like that he will get a timeout/sent to a naughty spot, whatever you call it. Also make a list (in order) of privilages that will get taken away everytime he does this. Next time he does something, don't yell, or anything. Just pick him up, with out saying anything and put him in the assigned naughty spot and walk away. This way he is getting no attention whatsoever. After a minute or two go back to him and ask "DO you know why you are here?" And tal;k about it. That's his first warning. Next time he does it, same thing, he gets a minute longer, and a privilage is taken away, gameboy, TV, a favorite toy, whatever, just follow the list you made together.
The least reaction he gets from you, the less fun it is to do. ANd the more things taken away the quicker he'll realize it's not fun.


Edited to add:
He's not gay, that is rediculous-- people are so immature!

Answer 2

My son is the exact same way, only he is also fascinated with his penis also. We deal with it just by telling him no, and doing something to distract him. I dont believe for a minute he is 'gay', but if he grows up to be that way, I wont love him any less. As far as punishing him, I wouldnt do that, because it could cause him to be ashamed of his own body. Only punish when he touches somebody else's body. Kids do bizarre things that nobody understands. Usually it is just a phase, trying to learn their bodies and surroundings. Now that my son is potty trained, and understands more that his bottom is dirty, he does it less and less. Just be patient, he will out grow it. By the way, my son is also 2 1/2yrs old(28months) Just dont have an over the top reaction, a simple no or dont do that is plenty. He continues doing after you say no, because he enjoys the response he gets from you.

Answer 3

Umm....this is kind of upsetting. Usually when children start doing things like this it's a sign that they might have been sexually abused. I know children that touch their genitals that is completely normal because they are curious but something like you are describing he has had to seen somewhere. I know as a mother myself this is probably the last thing that you wanted to hear but you have to take this very seriously!! A two year old wont just "come up" with something like this. You should ask him questions about why is he doing that and who does that or where did he see it! You might even wan tto try getting him seen by a therapist.

Answer 4

I think Kristina had the best suggestion. I was going to suggest smacking that butt every time he puts on his "show". Yank them pants down and leave a big red hand print. He'' lose interest in his butt quick enough.

Too many parents are afraid to spank kids these days.

Answer 5

my two boys stick there bums out to be cheeky and laugh and pretend to fart one is 2 and the other 5 i think boys are just like that with there bottoms but i would be a little more concerned if they were trying to stick things in there you could properly try time out or taking something he enjoys away from him every time he behaves like that so i hope this helps you.

Answer 6

I think the best thing to do is ignore it, unless you have to address it out in public when he's touching strangers. But at home try not to acknowledge he's doing it. If he see's that your not paying as much attention to it he'll mostlikely stop.

Answer 7

Kids do weird things. When my brother was around that age he CONSTANTLY showed people his butt and penis. He would say "see my butt, see my peepee" to ANYONE who was around. I think kids are just exploring their bodies without any sense of shame. I think your son will be fine once the novelty wears off.

Answer 8

well you just have to tall him to just do it at home an d that he dont touch no one els
my so likes to play with his winky and i just tall him stop and he dose that any way but i keep on to him and he dont do it that much no more
like one time i get out of the shower
and he gose for me i sid no that mommy privet and then their was this one time he went up to mygrand ma and put his hand on her cheche and then he said che che and i sid that sgrandmas che che
he got that from when i use to go up to him an d pinch his che che and then he thought that it was ok so i stoped and now he dont do it now mo

Answer 9

It's not signs of him turning out too be Gay trust me i went threw the same thing with all my boys...It's normal ignore it and eventually he'll stop because it's not getting your attention.

Answer 10

Well I dunno how else you tell a toddler how not to do that but to keep on repeating it & by punishing him. My advice to you is to talk to a counselor or a psychologist. I've never heard of this b/f so it kinda caught me off guard... Good luck.