should i tell him?

Question

we break up before 4 months ,now he is dating,but i still love him and cant forget him ,i get ill with depression becaused of that ,im seeing a chrenk and i take medication now ,but i feel i won't recover unless i get him back,should i tell him im ill with depression cause of this?

Answer 1

NO! You don't want him back just because you are sick. You want him back because he wants to be back. If he comes back because you are depressed, then eventually he will resent you, and break up with you again. It's like getting married just because the woman gets pregnant. The man ends up resenting being forced into a marriage. Your ex would resent you and in time move on to someone else. You need to LET GO of him, and move on with your life. YOU will only "NOT REOVER" because you don't want to! If you are on medication for depression, then work with the medication! Do something! Get moving! Take a walk! Go to a movie with a friend! BUT DON'T GO GET ANOTHER BOYFRIEND! It won't be fair to him, you still have the baggage from the previous relationship, and that garbage will affect the next relationship if you don't allow yourself time to get over this one first.

Answer 2

No he has moved on he has a relationship, do not just show up and ruin the entire thing.
Would you enjoy it if you were still with him and his ex showed up and said "I want you back" bla bla bla, it would put the relationship on the rocks and you would hate her.
Do not do this do not interfere, you can easily recover without him maybe you are having depression from other underlying issues maybe its not him maybe its abandonment issues maybe its something like you felt good around him being the type of person he is.
Find new people who make you feel good find new boyfriends, do not go dumping things like this on him to make him feel guilty and try and steal him back, interfering with other peoples relationships is the most horrible thing anyone can do to another person, if you made him cheat on his current girlfriend then you are the lowest of the lows.
He clearly got over you so talk to your shrink about ways to get over him, this is totally unfair on him and his girlfriend. I cant believe someone out there could be this selfish and cold to think of ruining someone elses happy relationship

Answer 3

No, you would only be trying to make him feel guilty and come back to you. That is immature and cruel . Seriously keep seeing your shrink, the ex is not the cause of your depression you are and you need to learn how to deal with it.That is why you are seeing your shrink right? You need to work on feeling good about yourself before going into a relationship or even dating again. When you feel better about yourself how you feel will be reflected in your attitude and people are drawn to happy self reliant people,not clingy and depressed people. Start doing other activities that help your self esteem,exercise, eat right get a hobby,even volunteer with animals or children. You can do it!Let him go and free yourself. You CAN do it!

Answer 4

That would depend on whether you're a selfish person. First, if you love someone you don't want to make them feel bad. Second, if you can't get over another person to the extent you say you haven't, then the problem lies with YOU, not them. You need to find out why you seem to feel you need this certain person in order to feel happy - then FIX THAT, so you can go on and develop a truly healthy relationship with someone else. You also need to understand why you'd want to use your own illness to manipulate someone you claim to love into doing what you want instead of what they do, because that's not right. It takes time to do this so don't become discouraged, just stick with your therapist and take your meds as prescribed. I can tell you from my own personal experience that YOU WILL FEEL BETTER, it just might take a while.

Answer 5

not that you're "ill" with depression. NO WAY. That might scare him off. Just tell him you have been really missing him lately and ,if he's not involved with someone else, see if he'd like to rekindle things. It's good that you're seeking help, becuase you cannot let something like this keep you so unhappy for too long. Especially if you were not together for all that long to begin with. Believe me, once you get over it, you will be a much stronger person. -Not that you need to "forget" him, but you can't let it affect your ability to live life. And if he's a jerk or says things to hurt your feelings, than it's better to just cut him off altogether, as tough as that may seem. So I hopesome of this helps you. :)

Answer 6

I would just let him go hun.
Things happen for a reason....there is a reason to everything.
We have to meet a few wrong people before we meet the right one...so your right one is out there somewhere...and you'll find him some day. Right now though...it sounds like you need to find yourself. You can't know anyone else on an intimate level until you know yourself.
I promise things will work out for you.

"Any man worth your tears won't make you cry in the first place."

Answer 7

This is something that you have to deal with.
What good will it do if you tell him? Do you really want him back because he feels sorry for you?
Time will pass and things will get better. If not, then most people in the world would have their life on hold and not be happy.

Answer 8

I went through the same thing, and it didn't effect him at all. Come to find out that with time things can get better. I dont know why your relationship ended, but Give yourself time and let him go. If he comes back ask yourelf why he left in the first place, you can talk about it with him, but dont take him back. You deserve better then that. Good lluck and God bless.

Answer 9

Stick with you therapist, and the meds. Also, don't go back to the guy, there are many fish in the sea. It will take a little time, and you will meeting another and fall in love again. You will look back and wonder what you ever saw in this guy.

Answer 10

Of course no one has ever successfully forgotten someone who was once in your heart. The only thing you can do is to take a vacation and relax yourself. In doing that so, you could either find someone to love or find out that you're crying for such a potato-head. Trust me, if you won't remove him in your system, it will sure destroy you.