This place is so empty?

Question

my thoughts are so tempting,
I don't know how it got so bad.

My friends won't talk to me anymore because of my alcohol problem. The girl who I really liked won't talk to me anymore either.
I feel shattered. I feel depressed. I feel alone.
Not even counseling can fix this problem. Dear Lord....and the girl will probably never talk to me, ever.
Anyone been this path? What did you do?

Answer 1

my brother is going thru this right now.
He is separated and getting a divorce.
He doesn't have any friends. NONE!
His daughter wont talk to him, but has an OK relationship with his son.
He was staying with my Mother for awhile, then got his own place and his drinking has gotten really bad.
He cries all the time, he gets angry.
He has isolated himself to his apartment.

I wish I knew what to do to help him.

But since you are asking, it means you are wanting help.

Do everything you can to get help for your Alcohol problem.
Find out where the nearest AA is and go to a meeting.

Good Luck to you. People like me do care!

Answer 2

Quit drinking one day at a time. I joined a group that meets in Church Basements. Prayed a LOT, which is funny, because I'm not even sure that I believe in God. Felt alone a lot for quite a while. Started going out to coffee with people from the basements. Gotta a couple of confidants. Things got better a little at a time - I made a lot of changes, in my life and in my thinking and actions.
I never did get the guy back - he fell in love with another girl, and truth be told, I was happy for him, even though I still miss him quite often. We are freindly in a way. Someone new came along. I fell for him. Its not working out. Life goes on.
Try getting some help with the drinking - then once the fog has lifted, work on your thinking. Life can change drastically over time, which, at the time will seem like an eternity.
Good Luck

Answer 3

I have been right on this path... your gonna have to keep drinking until you fall down hard enough to actually feel it... your blind right now because of the compulsion of the addiction and nothing will stop this until your ready to stop it yourself... It took me over 4 long years to really see my own problem and before I reached that jumping off point of wanting to drink myself to death and nothing until then could be done to help me... I was suffocated by the compulsion to have that drink and felt like a fish without water without it, it nearly killed me until I woke up to see myself in the disgusting way I was.. I had been back and forth to AA meetings and went back again to find it different because I was different in the way of wanting to do ANYTHING to save myself from the torture I was living every day... I have been sober since then and now the reality is for me that if I don't want to suffer through that then I don't pick up a drink because for me one is to many and a thousand never enough... I hope that you fall hard enough to wake up before this kills you :) :) :)

Answer 4

Make the statement now that you don't want to be sad anymore and attempt to make up with your friends.

Forget the girl for now, love yourself enough to help yourself.

I've been through this before, until I got sick of myself being so pitiful.

Try counseling again, maybe a different one this time.

Good luck sweetie.

Answer 5

I've never been in your situation, but there is an old say "There is no reason to cry over a spilled water". Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you should look on the bright side that you're still alive. As long as you're still alive, you still can re-shape your future.

Answer 6

Try to find some other people who will listen to you and to whom you are willing to listen. and will drink. I have done this and will continue doing this.
When you get drunk, everything comes out...your fears, your heartbreaks, whatever But, in my estimation, those things need to come out to cleanse your mind, your system, your soul.
My friends and I get drunk, argue about real and stupid things, but then the next day we get up and go to work,
Just try to deal with your problem. Or maybe you don't really have a problem. Find a true friend with whom you can drink and let it all out.You'll feel better and your friend will better also.
You can IM or email me if you want. Please try not to be depressed. I care for you.
I've been there and got out of it. Please talk to me,

Answer 7

yes alot of us have been down that path. You need to decide you are going to get better, Then you make a plan to get out of this. Step by step you will get thru this.

Answer 8

it got so bad because of alcohol.it is a depressant the more you drink the more depressed you ll get.me and everyone i know has been there.its your choice pick the alcohol or being happy its your choice.

Answer 9

it aint da end of de world mon. things change, they did for me. used to be a drinker and don't even think bou it no more
u just gots to believe in tyour selfs mon. dat girl be talkin to u mon, it just temperary dat she hold back she tyring ti test u mon. just be patient. and therapy help mon. it do so do dos group meeting i went dar and they aor works
good luck mon

Answer 10

get your friends back by going to A.A.
you're right, counseling can't fix this problem, only YOU can