Plzzz help ....... how do i get over my ex-girlfriend ???

Question

my girl friend cheated,looted,plundered,betrayed me ..... she behaved just like a playgirl ... the girl for whom i have given everything i had is now gone ..... now i hate her more than ne body in my life .... .....whenever she comes into my mind i get into a fit of rage ..... plzz tell me how can i derive her outta my mind ... forever


P.S. For any one interested can look into my earlier questions .... it narrates a tragic love story from the very begining ....

Answer 1

Realize that she does not define you. You must begin to know yourself as a man. You must realize that your life is yours and only you can choose.

Married, divorced, cheated, stolen, loved, cried, the good, the bad and oh, all that ugly is just a part of your life. It does not define you, unless you let it.

Move on for yourself. If she did all that, then you only do yourself disservice by putting all that energy toward her. Let her go.

And hey, here is a radical idea: Forgive her! You did some bad sh*t too, I am sure. Get into her shoes for a minute. Realize the sh*t she deals with, remember she had some sh*t go down in her life, and that she is not perfect. And neither are you. But you are strong, you are a good, strong person inside. Get in touch with that person. Lay out a plan and move on.

Until you do, nobody is going to want to date you. Move on, keep on movin' on and life will bring on the next phase.

Answer 2

I totally understand your feelings,my friend. It takes time but trust me you will be OK with it. Here's some ways that I used to forget my ex:
1) Find some one else who Worth's it.
2) Cry! that makes you feel better and helps you relax,never keep anything inside yourself,take everything off!
3) Tell someone close who listens to you and cares about you like a best friend or a relative. So you will feel that you still have people around you who are always there for you. And that gives you more confidence and pride.So you will feel that she was never that important in your life.
4) Tell yourself! Tell yourself that you don't care about her anymore.That's what i did to get over my ex-boyfriend! It really worked!
5) you already hate her,so you don't care about her. You actually feel sorry for yourself and the time you spent thinking about her.
But don't because that CANNOT change anything. So be proud of yourself.That wasn't your fault. She cheated. She didn't worth your love.
6) You have 100% control on you feelings, if you want to forget her,you can.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Hmm.

I guess you could kill her.

Or not.

But understand, however she treated you, she's not alone. Women are like that. Some have standards and will just screw you over a little. Others take delight in seeing you in pain. But they're all motivated by just one thing... self-interest. (If they have kids, then you have to add "interest in the kids".)

If you live in one of the socialized Western countries, face it: As a man, you're obsolete. Women have voted themselves everything they need from the government. (They just don't seem to realize that the same thing is going to happen on a government scale as happens when they go out and buy themselves everything they want on a credit card...)

But I digress. To paraphrase Heinlein, "Never appeal to a woman's better nature. She doesn't have one. Invoking her self-interest is the only way to gain any leverage."

Answer 4

First of all you have to forgive her to move on...besides there were signs of her character whether or not you want to notice the signs. One thing that is true in life... people actions speaks louder than words...if she said to you "I love you" but certains actions of what she did or did not do left you in doubt then this was a signal. Listen, if you dimissed what was actually happenning rather than what you wanted to happen then you can not put all the blame on her. Live, learn...everyone gets their heart broken once or twice in their life. Next time look for someone with qualities that are respectful, trustworthy and love you unconditionally for who you are..

Answer 5

This is something I think about and maybe it will help you. If the thought of her "controls" a reaction or behavior of yours... well, then, you have given her POWER. POWER over you. Don't give her that power. Take it back. Do you see what I'm saying here? Quit thinking about her. Stay busy. Get around other people. As SOON as a thought of her comes into your head... catch it... stop it.... redirect your thinking and focus on something else. You WILL get over her. I sure hope you think better of yourself than to go back with her. Best wishes.

Answer 6

im not even gunna bother reading the rest of your questions just gunna cut out all the crap..... while you may hate her... you have to just wake up and decide that your going to let go (forgive) whatever u wanna call it.. that doesnt mean that you have to like what she did or ever like her... just that you have to let it go........ if you dont all the things that she did wrong are going to eat the **** outta you and your gunna find yourself treating anyother females by the way you feel for her... with hate and anger..... and believe me it will show through!!!!!!

let it go relax and take each day as it comes and you will know when your ready to date again...... if that means a one nighter with a chick from the bar more power to you..... if that means just chillin with your friends till the right girl comes along then fine but youve just gotta let it and her go... cause if your still this upset over it then you havent even let her go yet.....

be honest with yourself.... if it helps write it all down..... if you have myspace or something blog about it..... and tare right into her.... believe me writing a million pages about nothing but your bitches and complaints will make you feel a zillion times better and once its all off your chest just stick it in a cornor or a box somewhere... then its off your chest (not outta your mind) but not so close you have to obsess over this.... and when the time is right toss it burn it delete it whatever works for you..... the power of healing is within yourself........ I know God said Forgive and forget but believe me its much easier to forgive and be done with something or someone than it ever is to forget their indisgressions..

best of luck

Answer 7

Once you realize that you are too good for people like that then you won't even want to waste your time thinking about a girl like that from the past... There are a lot of good girls out there... You'll be thankful one day that she's gone.... I didn't read your love story... I'm sure you were in love, but look what she turned out to be...

Answer 8

Time. And courage.

And yes, all love stories are tragic.

And yes, all us old men look back and say, "Gee that was great but boy was I stupid to fall for that silly b____!"

You'll get over it, and you'll be really glad you did. Many other, more productive adventures await. Go for the healthy, productive lady of your real dreams. Onward! Talley ho! Time to get your dead a__ in gear and be a man about it instead of a sniveling victim....

Answer 9

Time heals all wounds. My advice is don't retaliate or try to get even with her, but let her and the pain go- Give it to God. I am sorry you are going through this, but one day you will find that you haven't thought about her for a week! Then you will hardly ever think about her. What I'm telling you is time tested and true.

Answer 10

Moving on is tough:

(a) You have to force yourself to do the things you like to do.
(b) Spend time with friends and whatever you do, don't keep talking about her or the break up -- instead, try to talk about other topics
(c) Go volunteer or help a friend so you can get out of your own head and be helpful to someone else