I was just wondering if other people still believed that? My husband and I do, and have lost alot of friends because of it. I think that alot of times, when there is a relationship between the sexes that there is some kinda of intamcy, and in a since then it is an emotion affair. Just wondering if there are others out there that believe the same?
2007-01-23 18:21:46 · 13 answers · asked by Thia K 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
In the book of Timothy we are told to "avoid the mere appearance of impropriety."
You are welcome to be friends with members of the opposite sex as long as other people are around. For example, if you were married and your neighbors were married, would you go to a movie with your neighbor's husband, just the two of you?
We need to be careful and draw strong lines between our relations, or we are asking for trouble. I would urge you to read the book "Every Woman's Battle," it goes into great detail about this subject.
2007-01-23 18:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's impossible for men and women to be just friends. It's maybe different depending on the individuals involved though. I think some people have a hard time being just friends with someone of the opposite sex without it becoming more intimate while others can easily have friendships like that without it ever developing into anything beyond friendship.
I personally have quite a few friends of the opposite sex and it has never been a problem, we have stayed friends and not gotten more intimate. My husband also has female friends without problems. I have one friend though who always seems to become intimate with her male friends. I think she is probably one of those who can't be just friends with the opposite sex, she always goes one step further.
I'd say it all depends on the individuals involved.
2007-01-23 18:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your question in the right category? Well I have a friend that had a boyfriend that became paralyzed from the chest down and she still married him. They adore each other and best friends. They have been married for about 10 years and have never had an argument or disagreement about anything. I have a few guy friends (not planning to marry them) and we get along great without any intimacy. In fact I think intimacy would ruin the friendships.
2007-01-23 18:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible, just not probable. You are asking for opinions, so, here it is. The only female friends that I make are considerably older than I am or they are overweight. I do this so that I KNOW that I will not become physically attracted to them. Once the physcial attraction gets in the way, it just become too much of a pain to continue. Its not that the relationship is not fruitful, it IS that it becomes a major nuisance to experience such feelings. Who actually allows mosquitos to bite them so that they can enjoy the itch?
(btw, i am married. that is why i have no interest in those feelings)
2007-01-23 18:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by kylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my humble opinion men and women cannot be very close friends. I'm not against any of the sex or anything but Nature is nature and a man's nature and woman's nature just cannot change. I'm not against man and woman being social with each other but they shouldn't have too close a friendship in case of other difficulties later on. because as I said, one cannot change the nature of man or woman. If somebody does tries to, well, there is bound to be disaster.
2007-01-23 18:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Knowledge Seeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I can only speak for myself.
No, I can never be a true friend to a woman. I always have to worry about maybe developing a thing for her, and if I do develop one, I have to figure out how to get rid of it. Women's ugly side tends to come out if you let them know [in my experience].
After that hurdle, there's my need to be the sensitive friend [I'm also the cynical one]. I can't help but want to help someone else, especially the women I know, and some people see it as an advance. Also, since I'm sensitive, I have the urge to want to be supported at times [Men suck at this. They suck at it....], but unless I'm dating someone, I can't really expect them to listen to me, or do the hug ritual.
And all of that's before "Sexual tension," comes in.
2007-01-23 18:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For Chrisian point of view I agree with you. The closeness can lead to other things and could jeopardize your faith. For the world it's different there are no rules that needs to be followed.
2007-01-23 18:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think couples should be friends. I would never be alone with a man unless someone else was present; be it my husband, the wife of the male friend, etc. It's just asking for trouble!
2007-01-23 18:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've had many friends that were men.
Some of them intended to be only friends.
A few of them became "too" friendly.
But...it is possible for women and men to be friends.
2007-01-23 18:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would of never believed you untill it happened to me, she is just "one of the guys" to me and we are like really close but im completely physically unattracted to her, yes shes ugly but still shes a girl aint she...
2007-01-23 18:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋