Hello! I`ve a bf and actually he`s very busy,with important things, works.I love him, i care for him and hence i understand him. He spends little time with me but the time we spend together is great.He told me he had bad experiences in his sentimental life and he doesnot want to go through this again this is true for me too...,He tells me he loves me and is sincere enough to tell me that his studies are a priority in his life, he wants to complete his studies, have a job and then think of marriage i think the same too , and he says that he doesnot want to make a promise of marriage that he doesnot know if it will happen later because through years many things may happen.In other words he is not thinking of getting married very soon and nor am i.i think that the idea of not marrying at an early age comes from his family background because even his elder brothers and sisters which are not married yet.From deep within me i know that he is the one i`ve been waiting for.Please help.thanku
2007-01-23 18:16:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you guys are in love and have fun together -stop worrying-have fun live life and if it is meant to be it will be-get an education-then make life decisions-love can last a lifetime-school should be taken care of first
2007-01-23 18:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by nicoledave44039 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very reasonable, compassionate, and intellectual. I feel that what you both are doing is great, and that is not rushing into anything.....but, you have the heart for a family of your own now. Respect both him and yourself by reasoning the possibilities of a family right now. Right now we struggle with paying a rent because of where we live, Southern Calif, and any more children would devastate our finances.
On the other side, make sure you take some time out for you two to get intimate. If he refuses, or has no time for this, then maybe you should reconsider....Many marraiges are made because it just worked out that way, but think about your emotions and what you want out of a marraige. It seems from what you wrote that he dominates the intamacy climate, and that might be hurtful to you in the long run if you want to get close to him.
I'm still not sure on this, based on what you gave me, but I would say a big wait and let him choose a family (with you) or his career, and I'm sorry to say, it isn't your health he is looking after here.
2007-01-24 02:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds like you kow the answer already. Go with your heart. If its working for both of you, go with it. But I would be planning your futures together, not seperatley THEN getting together later. Build your lives as Husband and Wife finish school and then have children
2007-01-24 02:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by HappyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an insane relationship. You need to get out of it immediately. You need to get far away from this guy He is a nut case. Leave him in the dust.
2007-01-24 02:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Idle Chitchat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound like you have good heads on your shoulders. Let him focus on his studies without drama, play it out and see what happens.
2007-01-24 02:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express good friendship and be open hearted to maintain level of sensitiveness...
2007-01-24 02:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by logan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just keep doing what you're doing.
2007-01-24 02:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by A_Patriot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk with your partener..comunication is the key
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2007-01-24 02:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
que sera sera
2007-01-24 02:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by earthgirl766 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, dont move in with him.
Thats a killer..
2007-01-24 02:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋