I used to have a sincere interest in this guy. When I say sincere, I mean that I used to like him to the point where I kinda wanted a relationship with him. Now, me and him never dated but we are really good friends. I talk to him at least 3 times a week. I no longer want more than just a friendship with him but sometimesI think I do. I finally realized that all I want from him now is a sexual relationship. Im pretty sure he feels the same way. Me and him have never done anything remotely sexual with eachother except for the occasional verbal flirting. Is it weird that my interest in my friend has gone from wanting a relationship to just wanting a sexual relationship? Also, how would you let the guy know that that is what you want from him without looking weird?
2007-01-23 17:22:12 · 12 answers · asked by ALeoStar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its natural for two people who are good friends and who spend as much time together as you do to go past "platonic" feelings. However, just realize that when you change over, you can't usually go back to being "just friends". If you somehow do, don't expect it to be the same. Hope it all works out for ya!
2007-01-23 17:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years ago when I was still single, I had a similar friend. It was a good friendship. One day when we watched a movie at the cinema and came home (to my place), it was just supposed to be microwave dinner, more tv and he buzzing off to his pad. We ended up having fabulous sex. (Earlier we had the attraction but did not take an active interest in pursuing it because we weren't bothered so much by it.) I told him I did not want a relationship with him. He was happy to hear it...lol. We often got in bed together (it was a WOW! each time) and continued to be good friends. I moved to a different city and we lost touch over the years. Sometimes, rarely, it is possible with a good friend. Sometimes it ruins the friendship. It depends on what kind of a guy your friend is. Talk to him, he will probably like the idea of the physical pleasure along with being your friend. :-)
2007-01-23 17:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look that is a hard thing cause being a girl some times they may take it the wrong way. if you just have sex with each other. you need to talk to him and feel him out to see if you think he is just using you. or r you using him. if you are true Friends then it don't matter if you do cause he'll respect you and u respect him. that way it stays between u all. any u may always have that friendship in the long run
2007-01-23 17:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by wildsexydreamer69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It not only will look wierd, but it IS wierd. Most people go from friends to lovers, not friends to SEX without strings! While it might sound good, WHY would you destroy a good friendship with a guy (that deserves a medal) for something that you could get just about anywhere? I think if you two decide to try this, one or both of you will regret it.
2007-01-23 17:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird at all. As a matter of fact it could be considered as a natural progression form one level of your relationship to another. If you are pretty sure that he wants it too then kiss him in a way that he will never forget the kiss as long as he lives. Tell him that you want him and the rest should take care of itself.
2007-01-23 17:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touch him gently and be patient. He thinks of you as a friend and may not want to destroy that with a physical relationship which often happens.
The best thing to do is to touch him gently and get a little closer physically. Nature will eventually take it's course, but he may want to talk to you about it, so try to not act surprised. Just say, well why don't we try it a step at a time and see where it leads.
2007-01-23 17:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe on friendship between men and women. But if that friendship grows, will surely end going to bed together. You always want your best friend to have the best from you. And viceversa.
2007-01-23 17:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by robertonereo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not weird that all you want is a sexual friendship, if you think he wants it too then just make a move
2007-01-23 17:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
interesting question...i think i know how you feel. it's awkward. but have you thought about how your friendship may become after a sexual relationship?
2007-01-23 17:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judge Judy would advise that this transition you are planning will point to a life course where there is a substantial probability that your life is going to be miserable. Don't do it!
2007-01-23 17:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋