I have been attracted mostly white women...how do i stop?

Question

for some reason they have always attracted me, or vice versa but i have dated a lot of them and i sincerely regret doing it, as it makes me sick thinking about it. what can I do to be "unattracted" and not fall for them? I am an african-american male.

Answer 1

We cant help who or what we are attracted to it just happens. But to say you regret doing this and it makes you sick. I think its more along the lines of what "white" girl your attracting to yourself. Is it a certain type of female? Not all people are the same regardless of color. Maybe you should try to go out with someone who is a total opposite leaving color out of it. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

To each is own. Why would you want to stop? If that is what you are attracted to, then why stop? Maybe you just haven't found the right woman. Love is color blind and sees no flaws. I'm Hawaiian, Japanese, and Puerto Rican and my husband is a strong and hansome black man.
I can see you saying that if you've have all bad experiences or if one did something crazy to you but if that is what floats your boat then hey, you can't help what you like.
If it's society that is causing you to feel like this, society doesn't have to live your life for you, society isn't going to be the one sleeping with you or marrying you or making you happy.
I wish you all the best no matter what you decide to do.

Answer 3

It's not that all white woman are bad it's just the ones your have dated where not for you. Dating is trail and error this time on the date if either white or african-american: Try following my 5 biblical principles for finding your soul mate see if this helps: Ask yourself:
1. Does she love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does she honor you? Will she do things just to make you happy? Will she try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust her to the fullest? She is your best friend and you are hers? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? She understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29

I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. God Bless!

Answer 4

Stop watching television. Hollywood is ridiculous.
But does it really matter what race your attracted to???
The way I see it, there's plenty of people out there of all colors, backgrounds, religions who are attracted to one another. BUt it seems to bother you , I'm not sure why, only you know the answer to this.
Just try going out w/a variety of different types of women if you want to give other types a shot. I don't understand why it's "making you sick thinking about it". Do your parents or family disapprove? hmmmmm.....at a loss for words, don't know what else to say. It almost sounds like you feel guilty. If so, no one should feel guilty about who they are attracted to, unless of course that other person is married!!

Answer 5

Your DNA is encoded to where you are probably more visually stimulated to white women than african-american women. There isn't anything wrong with it. Besides you should go for more personality than looks. Your best bet would be it to hang out in more 'black' orentated clubs, movie theaters, neighborhoods, and what not. I know where I live, I can count all the black people on one hand, but if I go 1 hour Northwest of here I can count all the white people on one hand.

Answer 6

If you're sincerely attracted to Caucasian woman, more power to you! And, you shouldn't force yourself to stop or be ashamed about it. The only time it becomes a problem is when you begin to say that white woman are BETTER or MORE ATTRACTIVE than black woman or when you get with a white woman because you don't like characteristics of black woman. If you find both black woman and white woman equally attractive and you respect and appreciate both of their qualities, there is no problem. And, by the way, I am a black woman.

Answer 7

I am a white male and I live in a pre-dominantly African-American neighborhood. I think what you need is to go out and get yourself someone of some kind of animal mind, and go to town, man! They are all good, and some are more good than others. You need to get acquainted with all flavors of skin. I love them all. Every new touch and new breed is a new adventure.

Answer 8

well first i say why does it matter what they look like on the outside what should matter is on the inside anyway that is how it is suppose to be second i will say if you don't like white woman then stop looking at them and if you do like white woman then grow up and face the facts not every black person winds up together and not every white person winds up together you like who you like it is the heart ... the heart wants what the heart wants and you can't fight that ..... some guys like white woman for allot of reason's just like white woman like black men for a reason i know that one day maybe this world will look past the racism and look in to the way it is today stop dwelling on what the people did a hundred years ago or more ... i think everyone white and black need to grow up and face the facts that we are all on this earth for a reason and it is not to see how many men or woman we can hurt by hateful words and harsh comments just remember you love who you love and you are attracted to who your heart desires i just hope you think about what you said about it making you sick at the thought of a black man and a white woman together get over yourself and just do what your heart wants to do fallow it love who you love no matter what they look like or what color they are ......................

Answer 9

Um, why does that make you sick? Is there something wrong with white women, or women of ANY race for that matter???? That being said, you're attracted to whom you're attracted to. Hmmm, I thought segregation was a thing of the past...my bad, I guess.

Answer 10

My dude I feel white women and spanish women all too hard. I know where you're coming from, but don't kill yourself over what you like. Accept it and enjoy it. My problem is a littel different. I like them a lot but most of them don't even look my way. So be happy they like you just as much. And for all those who inspire you to feel the way you do.........I flip the bird to them..........They have no right to judge you for your actions. What you're doing is not hurting anyone. Don't stop loving and dating them until you find one that satifies all your needs and you Marry her. Do You Pop!