Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and I love him very much. But throughout the relationship, there has been times when he has been getting upset with me over things that he shouldnt be getting upset about. if he thinks that i have forgotten something that hes told me, he will get upset and not tell me why. i dont feel that the things i do that make him upset are actually things that he should be getting upset about. this seems to bother me alot because i feel bad and at the same time i feel like i havent done anything wrong. I dont know what i should do, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2007-01-23 17:10:57 · 14 answers · asked by sk8ergurl7819 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
communicate
2007-01-23 17:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are in the grasp of a controlling individual who is silly, self centered and immature---taking advantage of you and you need to get away. First of all, I guess you are young and have no idea what the word LOVE really means--so stop using it. You are hooked on a guy in a relationship that is on a downward spiral. True love does not make a person feel the way you do at this time. I could tell you that communications is the key here, but I think it will be a waste of your good valuable time. Think about it and move on......you will be happier elsewhere--believe me. This guy needs to grow up and mature--or else he will have a lousy life. get moving here before you get in too deep and ruin your self esteem.
2007-01-23 17:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him and have some time alone and away from each other! This is the way you will spend the rest of your life unless you end this now. Can you imagine what would happen if you did something he really didn't care for or what about your kids when they do something wrong then what? I would say this is a red flag for you dear!
2007-01-23 17:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quote: "it made me feel really bad." you're in a relationship with a guy you love, but he's making you feel bad about yourself and things between the two of you. do you honestly think that's a good thing? if you still think that your relationship is healthy, realize that the way he acts is way of controlling you and manipulating you. he's making you feel bad, he's keeping control of the situation, and as a result, he's getting what he wants. if you insist on being in a relationship with someone who treats you like this, you should at least talk to him and explain how this all makes you feel. but also understand that you said that he's not abusive. maybe he isn't physically abusive, but manipulation and belittlement is only the beginning of emotional abuse.
2016-05-24 03:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he maybe going through something and don't know how to express his feeling, so anger is something that he shows to you because you are the one right there that he take what ever he is feeling out on. Talk to him ask him whats really bothering him. Its probally something that don't even have nothing to do with you. this also may sound crazy but he mite just need to smoke him one.
2007-01-23 17:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy doesn't respect you for your thoughts, ideas, desires and even your shortcomings (we all have them and each partner must respect the other's dificiencies). i know this sucks to hear but you may want to find someone who respects you. there are good guys out there and sometimes they are hard to find but rather to be alone than with in a relationship someone who cannot appreciate you for who you are and wants control so badly that he makes you feel bad about yourself.
2007-01-23 17:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by David W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him and move on. You are worth much more than how he is treating you. If you FEEL you still want him, then be prepared to live in this fashion.
2007-01-23 17:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by wnc861 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you 2 need to communicate first, before you do anything.
2007-01-23 17:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think dump him if he doesnt wanna explain to u his feelings just do the same thing ot him go up to him and say im breakinupwith you and if he asks why dont explain to him why
2007-01-23 17:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by punkbaby94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dont worry just let him speak about him self and speak what actually feel , and for u , u continue ur good work
2007-01-23 17:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by shivium 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋