We broke up about 8 months ago because we didnt have much communication. I know he still likes me. The signs all say it. But I think he whants to ask me out again but he is just to shy because our last relationship didnt work out to will. But i think if he askes me out, this time it will. But sence he is so shy i dont know how to get him to ask me out! HELP!!??
2007-01-23 17:10:28 · 9 answers · asked by RONNYBOO! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why can't you ask him our if your so sure he wants you back? whats wrong with the girl asking the guy out?
2007-01-23 17:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you win your ex back? And do you even want to?
Steps
1.Create some space between yourself and the ex. After taking the time to let your ex know you wish things could be better and you need some time, stop all phone calls, emails, text messages, etc.
2.Take some time to reflect on your own life. What improvements can be made? Be honest with yourself. Have you been selfish? Demanding? Argumentative? Angry? Jealous?
3.Once you've figured out what you may have done wrong in the relationship, resist the urge to call the ex and show off your newfound self-realization. You could be wrong. Actions speak louder than words. Just BE the new improved self.
4.Invite your ex to talk to you. Express regret things weren't working out between you and ask if you can talk about it now that you have some perspective. Ask if what went wrong was related to what you've been working on. Your ex may have a different perspective!
5.If you agree on the things that went wrong are the things you've changed about yourself, offer to try again as long as both of you can work on whatever is left unresolved.
6.Don't forget your ex could have improvements to make! If they were perfect they could have helped you work on your problems while still being together. Don't just cling to your emotions of wanting to be loved, work at understanding each other.
Tips
•If you find yourself obsessed with your ex, experiment with your thoughts. Think of someone else that you like just as much or would like to know. How are they different?
•View your relationship as a third-person. If you saw how another couple were and they behaved the same as you and your ex, what is wrong? If you think it is wrong for "that other couple" then how are you viewing you?
Warnings
•Avoid rebound relationships and one-night stands. You probably won't make your ex jealous enough to come back, and you'll only be adding more confusion to the mix.
•Relationships are about two people. Any one of them can end a relationship - both have to want to be together. You can't force someone to love you.
2007-01-24 03:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still like him and you initiated a break ask for forgiveness and let him know that you still have room in your heart for him the shyness will stop and you will corp up very well, though gender balance is there but we ladies we have to go by the man's decision, I mean to a certain extent, and as far as love relationships is concerned. They are our superiors and we always have thier shoulder to lean on and wipe away our tears as a sign of confort to take away the grief/annoyance. Please go back to him initiate the outing: ask him can we go for a cup of coffee or a sost drink, make sure you pay the bills and tip the waiter or waitress if you can. Good luck, dont give up he is yours.
2007-01-24 01:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by ConRob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How comes in last 8 months u didn't find a better guy...
BROKE means BrokE....
Find a guy and try never leave him.... it will never be the same after broke up...
So, respect your self esteem and forget him ASAP
2007-01-24 01:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW i had same problem except different my situation can relate to yours in that I would definitely sk out this one girl if she put more into letting me know that I would not get shut down.. catch my drift. Guys arnt that smart and girls have to be very forward about their intentions for us to pick up on it.!!!
2007-01-24 01:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by tobosahge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you might be waiting forever. Why wait, just ask him out. The least he will say is no, and you will not miss that opportunity.
2007-01-24 01:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Trese 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY dontu ask him out instead of gettin so nervous on how to make him like u again, BE CONFIDENT~
2007-01-24 01:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by punkbaby94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out. (Duuh!) Seriously, give it a try and see what happens.
2007-01-24 01:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's passive u should be active.approach him n talk sincerely,i think he w'd accept u one day.
2007-01-24 01:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋