Ex won't make up her mind?

Question

We have been broken up for about 5 months. At first we still hung out and still were like a couple. In November she found someone new, and it didn't go well for a few months. Now we are talking again and hanging out. We have slept together once 3 weeks ago, but I know it was a mistake, but I don't know if she thinks it won't happen again. She doesn't tell her boyfriend anything at all. I do have feelings for her and she knows it. I feel like I am being used. One day she will tell me we don't need to talk a lot. Then she wil call me for the next 4 days straight. She tells me she misses me, and would like to know if I miss her. Is she just playing games, or is she just really confused at what she wants?

Answer 1

To me it sounds like she has mixed feelings and is sending you mixed signals. This is not right at all. Sleeping with her is a HUGE mistake simply because you know she has a boyfriend and because of the fact that you and her are not even together. If you believe it was a mistake then you shouldn't of let yourself make that mistake besides it probably just made things ten times harder. You slept with her and she STILL is with the other guy, shouldn't that tell you something. She is playing with your heart and that shows that maybe she doesn't care for you in the way that she should, especially if you care for her. If i were you i would move on and find someone who cares for you in the same way you care for her and won't play games with you. MOVE ON! your wasting your time waiting for something that she is making impossible. You never know who you could meet if you keep waiting for someone who obviously doesnt care that you are waiting for her. Sorry this is so forward and i hope i could help you see things clearly!

Answer 2

She is confused and you need to ball up and decide for yourself if you want to be treated like this. She already left you for this guy, and now is shifty about being your friend or lover. I hate to say it man, but you gotta move on and not take this disrespect from her. I know it will break your heart, but once you lose that trust you can't go back that easy. There are plenty of cool girls out there and you just need to chill out for awhile and once you're ready, go get a nice new hottie. You might be missing out on the girl of your dreams while you sit and think about your ex. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

she's probably just as confused as you are. It takes a lot to give up a relationship especially if you keep hanging out together.

when my ex and i first broke up we hooked up all the time. It was only when we took some time away from each other that we were able to truly be friends.

It sounds as if part of her still loves you at least a little bit. Youre both going to have to sit down and talk about this seriously or youre only going to continue to feel resentful.

Good luck dude. ^^

Answer 4

She is confused, you are not! Think straight. You are kids, there is no rush. A true relationship is one that stands the test of time. Dont throw yourself at anyone, and dont let yourself be used. It is good to have feelings for someone, but it not good to let her use you. So tell her point blank. That I care about you, but I am not willing to be taken for granted, when you finish up with whatever you have on your plate, then sit an decide, whether I am worth it and then come to me. And mean that you dont go to her again!

Answer 5

She probably does not mean to play these games with you, but the truth is, she has a bf and when things do not go well with him, then she calls you. Yes sounds to me as if you are being used. Her attention and energy puts her bf first in line. Let her know that if she ever resolves her situation with her boyfriend and her decision is to let him go, then for her to call you. In the mean time tell her you do not have time for these kinds of games. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

She's confused AND playing games. Friend? Lover? Buddy? I suggest you tell her she gives off mixed messages and that you would appreciate it if she would take a bit of time off and make up her mind as to where you are in her mind. DO NOT SLEEP WITH HER or tell her endearing things. You broke up for some reason - if you need to stay friends, give it plenty of TIME for the emotional ties to dissolve.

Answer 7

If you want her back ignore her in every way possible. This is standard psychology. If there is a chance of reconciliation, in time she will make a strong move. If you think there is no chance, use the friendship for dependably good sex. Contrary to the expression, there is nothing wrong or immoral about "using" someone for sex while you wait or look for a more permanent relationship

Answer 8

She doesn't want to let you go, yet she can continue on with a relationship with another guy. How sweet of her to throw you her crumbs. Don't stand for this treatment. You only get treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. Find a girl who wants to be with just you. If she cared about you at all, she woudn't put you in this position.

Answer 9

OK your her safety net that go thing cause sounds like she the one that not sure what she wants . so this is what i can tell you to do.let her know your true felling for her and then let her know that you'll always be a Friend too her . you need to move on with your life does she want you in her life as a mate or a Friend . give her about as much as time as u can deal with it. as far as sex you need set up bounders with that so u she knows you aren't going to be there for her comfort toy. be true about what you say always no matter if you think it going to hurt in long run she either care for cause it or she just say---ck it and move on . let her know what she going to loose in long run

Answer 10

I think she is confused! She confuses me! If you can't go on like that tell her! She has no right to treat you like that, and I am not sure why you let her. She would respect you more if you tell her you deserve to either have her in your life, or not. But, you have to be willing to go on with out her if you tell her that.