we have known each other for some time, He is single and 32 and I am 21。I am one of his most impressing student. He knows i have crush on him, until last week I sent him an email to ask him out（ since he is not my prof now）, and he replied saying that "You are a lovely young woman, and I enjoy talking with you when you visit my
office. But for several reasons, I need for our relationship to remain
professional. " He doesn't teach me this term, but i still take course under his collegues, and if we involved ppl will prob think we r hooked up since i was his student.. and obvious it is bad for his reputation if he involves... but i just wonder does he feel like me in romantic way, and r there any chances if i wait
2007-01-23 16:51:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i used to ask his phone number, he was embarassed and told me he is not allowed to do so...
2007-01-23 16:51:56 · update #1
If I was in his spot I would do the same thing so long as you were a student at that school.......he's just protecting himself.....you must understand, if there is an accusation thrown at him, it might not only get him fired from that school, but it could also ruin his career......some serious stuff there. Wait until you're out of the school.
2007-01-23 16:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, maybe not. But he is giving you a sign with his actions thus far that even if he does like you (and the signs say no), he won't act on it. He is telling you outright no right now.
Why wait anyway. I don't know how long you've got in school left, but you can just as easily try for someone else who is available now. Who knows what's out there for you, you may even find the love of your life. And if you don't, you'll have had some fun while you wait for this deal.
But from what I've read here, this won't happen. It's time to let it go.
2007-01-24 00:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right.
I believe your feelings are real.....but a relationship between a professor & a student just does not work. There has to be a clear line between teachers and students.
I suggest you think about his good points and look for them in others. After you have graduated you can ask him again.....but part of the training to be an educator involves understanding the lines that cannot be crossed.
I had a favorite teacher who wisely said: 'I can be your friend...but not your buddy.'
2007-01-24 01:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Twainbrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may like you or he may not. But he seems really uncomfortable with taking your's and his relationship any further. I'd respect his wishes and keep it professional. I know it's hard to do, but it's best for the both of you if you let go, because he's not comfortable, and it's not fair to you to have to wait indefinitely for him, and this way you can deal with each other regularly without any tension.
2007-01-24 01:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by ss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you trying to do this to him? he has already answered you. i think it's a selfish thing to do, persuing this man when obviously he has taken the high road and explained to do that he cannot involve himself with you.
don't "wait" for him to come around to you under pressure.
have a heart and look to date someone who is not one of your teachers.
2007-01-24 01:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by annenymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you as a student and as nothing more. As a professional he has a responsibility to his students as well as the university. Please don't continue pursuing him.
2007-01-24 00:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is very politely telling you he's not interested. Reread your question to yourself. You have your answer. No.
2007-01-24 01:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not like you the way you want him to.
2007-01-24 00:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ..... you dont get it do you
2007-01-24 00:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋