Can a bad relationship that included emotional abuse turn a person asexual..? I just got out of a bad relationship six months ago and I'm still having problems being attracted to people. It seems I'm only physically attracted to one type of person...and its really really hard trying to find that type of person... I can't change who I'm attracted to.. I've tried to be less "picky" but it doesn't work. I'm worried Mr. Right will never come along.
A few of my friend's friends have asked me out, but I don't find them attractive at all. One person seems to have a somewhat decent personality and all, but he kinda reminds me of my cousin.. and I'm not attracted to him, I seem to be attracted more to people who look like the complete opposite of me.. and I can't really find anyone like that...
Am I doomed?
2007-01-23 16:27:21 · 15 answers · asked by Rae-Rae Nikkoles <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1st of all. Its normal for a person that just have a bad broken relationship to experience hard in attracted to somebody. I myself broke out last August badly and just recovered from it. During that times even though I like someone, I dont feel like approaching her, my best friend even tried pushing me but only budged a little. Time will heal your wound and when you're ready, you 're ready.
Dont just throw yourself to someone you're not attracted to, it is just a beginning of a bad relationship, enjoy your life and keep praying, soon you'll meet your Mr Right. Just enjoy your single time.
2007-01-23 16:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Alastair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If you're at least still attracted to A type of person I'm sure you're not turning asexual. Time heals all wounds as they say and alot of what makes a woman horny is emotional. I found it hard to feel attracted to a man who was treating me like crap but then off on my own eventually my libido came back ten fold! I think you just need to give it some time. Enjoy adult films, masturbation or just being single for the time being. You will probably find you will attract more people as you don't NEED to attract someone. There is always time to find the person of the "look" you are wanting. Instead spend the time fully healing and bettering yourself so when Mr Right comes along you're READY!
2007-01-23 16:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, I'm not sure what "asexual" is but if you are picky, so be it. If it gets to the point where it's been months and months and still your not feeling anybody you could possibly be setting your standards too high. But like you said it's only been 6 months since your break up and maybe your simply dont have that person out of your system yet. Or you may not want to settle for anything less than what you had......hey, it makes sense. Dont beat yourself up or worry about it. It takes time...and lots of it. Dont force yourself to date someone who your not attracted to. That wouldnt make sense. And hell yeah an emotionally abusive relationship can mess you up. I have been through the ringer and I have a hard time trusting men. My feelings get hurt easy because I dont want to get hurt like I did in the past. Every man you have a relationship with leaves an imprint on you whether it be good or bad. So most women carry around the remnants of past relationships for years without even realizing it.
LOL, I like your honesty though..
2007-01-23 16:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doomed. You are not alone in the way you percieve other people. I know that it sounds cliche', but try talking to a therapist about your feelings. Being emotionally, physically, or sexually abused has quite a bit to do with how we view other people and the world.
Not only that, but I'm usually only attracted to one type of female, but I don't have a history of emotional abuse.
2007-01-23 16:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad that you are taking the time to evaluate your likes and dislikes before you get into another relationship.
Maybe you are asexual, maybe you are just waiting for your standards to be met.
I applude you.....most people just hop out of a bad relationship into another one with the same results.
Continue to take the time to find the kind of person that YOU really like. Settling is not fair to you OR the person that you settled for.
dont worry, you will find him.
and just know when you do, you will appreciate him that much more because of the wait!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-23 16:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doomed. Just give it a little more time. Don't be desperate to be with someone right now. Take some time to heal. Being single is not bad at all. If you know what you like go for it, but learn from your mistakes and know that looks isn't everything.
2007-01-23 16:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse is a number one factor in turning asexual. Perhaps you need to give yourself some time to heal before trying to find your next partner. Speaking to a counselor might do you the world of good. Perhaps your partner has gotten you to believe that you deserve being abused. No one deserves abuse of any form.
2007-01-23 16:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Fellina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you buddy but your girlfriend is right. You cannot turn someone gay......did someone turn you straight? No you've always been straight, right? Just because gay people have to hide their sexuality and pretend to be straight until they come out of the closet doesn't mean that they've turned gay. It means that they're not lying about who they are anymore.
2016-03-28 23:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doomed!
It's common to come out of a relationship not ready to meet someone new. Stop thinking about it, join a club or get a hobby, do things that please YOU and don't worry about meeting anyone. When you are ready, it will happen.
2007-01-23 16:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you least expect it...expect it.
Quit worrying, go live your life and you will attract possitive people when your "in the game".
Take care of you, be the best you can be.
You'll be fine.
2007-01-23 16:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋