Is it possible the married/engaged couples on Eharmoney are getting married are taking big steps because, the matching process on the site is so slow that the minute they see someone they get along with they just jump on the opportunity and marry them?
Could it also be that these people are soo into the thought of marriage that they are just quicker to jump the gun the minute the system spits out someone who they get along with and cant help but to think to marry them?
2007-01-23 16:18:13 · 6 answers · asked by Gina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do u know of anyone who met on Eharmony who have been married for 5 years and more? r they happy and is it still a perfect match?
2007-01-23 16:20:29 · update #1
Online dating is a noble concept, but in practice you are much better off in person than you are online. There is not a single good implementation that I have come across that has a large enough following for most people to actually benefit from using it. It amounts to a big waste of time and/or money ESPECIALLY for men. This is because most decent women generally do not have any trouble getting dates and so they will refuse to pay to be introduced to men. From what I have seen of dating sites (of course I didn't look at the men's profiles), the women on Internet dating sites are usually strange, fat, and/or single mothers. There are a few decent women, but I refuse to pay much for the opportunity to be introduced to only a few women who probably will not like me.
I've heard some bad things about most dating sites, but Eharmony is one of the worst ones. I think some people might have luck with it. But the biggest complaints I've heard against it have been that you can't do your own profile searching (they pick matches for you, at least if you're a man), that inactive profiles are not marked, and non-subscriber profiles (people who cannot reply to you without paying) are not marked. All those factors taken together mean that you could have some undesirable matches, and you have no idea if they even read your messages to them. Not that I'd know all this from experience, because after filling out their enormous questionnaire (which took at least an hour, I'd say), they refused to accept me. They claimed that their matching system wouldn't work for a certain percentage of the population. Somehow I suspect it has something to do with me not being willing to date just ANYBODY, but having a few definite standards. I've also read of others that this has happened to. It might be worth a try, but if I were you I would quit if I didn't get at least one decent date per month out of the service. Good night!
2007-01-23 17:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin actually met his wife on eharmony. His first marriage ended in divorce and he wasn't happy, when push came to shove, like he was expecting to be. His new wife is fabulous, much more personable than his first, and she is a much better match for him, in my opinion.
They've been married for 9 years now and own a few businesses together as well. They're definitely going strong.
2007-01-24 09:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't kidding it takes forever. I have two full-time jobs, so I have very little time to meet anyone. I thought I'd try out on-line dating and e-harmony seemed like the most likely one to get someone. After a year and no matches my confidence was pretty much blown through (not one person matched up? What was up with that).
I quit after that. But now that you mention this, it occurs to me that is their plan. Hold the customers off until they are completely desperate and have no confidence, then shove them together. If they ever think of leaving, remind them how long it took to find this loser and they won't leave.
Quite the little money-making conspiracy. I'm glad I left before I got suckered in.
2007-01-24 00:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not to fond of dating sites either but who am I to judge. I did have a friend that met someone on Eharmony and she talked really highly of him. They met eachother and a month later they were getting married. The marriage didn't last 8 months.
2007-01-24 00:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh..personally I don't like online dating sites. I believe you should find someone on your own time and not let a computer program do it for you. I found my fiance online but that was through a mutual friend. We've been together for 4 years and we live in different countries, and I'm moving there this fall. I've known lots of people who have online relationships that are successfully married, but none that come from online dating sites.
2007-01-24 00:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not on eharmony...but my best friend met his wife on this telepersonals chat line in Atlanta. they have been married for 12 years.
these people are not desperate. i think it is a great option to look for someone. no weirder than being set up by a friend...some people are busy, or just don't like the meat-market bar scene.
2007-01-24 02:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by atlas shrugged and so do i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋