that she wants to be able to dance with her guy friends... she assures me its only like fun dancing, at the bar.. i believe her as we trust eachother very much ... i used to be against dancing with other guys .. but i think i trust her and she won't do nething am i stupid by saying i dont mind if she dances with her guy friends at the bar??
2007-01-23 16:14:06 · 7 answers · asked by bob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She should not want to dance with other guys if she has one fellow already that loves her and if she cannot stay away from dancing while in University, than I really don't think she cares for you.. and yes you have every right to say you mind her dancing with other guys.. and no you are not stupid if you tell her so but you are if you tell her that you do not mind, not to seem jealous. Do you want a wife one day to take one day or several days a week or month to go bar dancing with her guy-friends from University. I don't think so.. and how will you stop her tomorrow.. you won't be able too.. it might become an habit that you will not be able to stop and have to stomach it every week.. Good Luck
2007-01-23 16:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and I are 6 hours apart so we've had this sort of discussion lots. In the end, if either of you give an ultimatum or makes a "rule" the other is probably going just end up doing it anyways and lying, or they won't do it and resent the "rule maker". Try coming up with a compromise that works for both of you. If you both can't (or won't) meet in the middle on a simple matter like dancing at a club, that doesn't bode well for more significant future issues...
2007-01-23 16:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by mainebabe03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really wants to, there is no way you can stop her. Trust me on this. Been there, done that. You have 3 choices.
1. Accept it.
2. Dump her
3. Accept it and look for women to dance with. Obviously she won't have any grounds to object and you will be on an equal footing. Also, if she ever cheats on you, you won't feel isolated and can probably fall back on some other girl who wants you.
2007-01-23 16:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre not being stupid because if u try to restrict her too much, she'll leave you. i know your concern though because most dancing that i do/have seen can be very...problematic if one of those people is in a relationship. i would try to establish some mutual ules so that something doesnt accidentally happen, like a 2 inch rule or asking her not to drink so much that she doesnt have control of what shes doing.
2007-01-23 16:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by b2k4ever08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it, Get drunk, go to a strip club, get a lap dance, and move on.
2007-01-23 16:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup but then again u dont want to seem like the jealous bf
2007-01-23 16:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by lilac. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. if you trust her and she loves you nothing will happen don't worry.
2007-01-23 16:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Aija 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋