i just broke up with my boyfriend. He hurt in so many ways but how do i get over him if we were...?

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going out for 3 years. he is already moving on. i keep calling him and he is always on the other line with the other girl. he sweet talked me and i fell for it. i love him but hate him for what he did to me. He goes to my school and frankly, i don't want to see him but i miss him for a crazy resason. he's done things so out of character. it's not the person i fell in love with... he changed. the other girl is not even his type!!! i don't get out much so how do i get over him? I cry over him every night because i actully thought that we had something. How do i get over him? i am not a got get em kind of person. HELLP i can't stand the tears!

Answer 1

its simple, stop calling him, stop wasting your time on someone who treated you wrong. the most important person in your life is yourself, and dont forget that. you get over him by liking yourself and how you make your friends and family happy by being around you. getting rid of him should make you more happy since you dont have to worry about someone treating you wrong. the more you can walk around school being happy and not letting his stupid acts bother you, will show him that he wasnt that important and will most likely make him think he made a mistake. if he sees you are hurt and depressed he will think he won......if you can show that you are happy and have put him in the past he will have to rethink what he did.....dont put in on yourself, move on, be happy and show him that you are better than he is.....:)

Answer 2

Honey you need to stop THINKING about this guy. I mean really - stop - thinking - about - him.

Feeling immediately follows thought, so if you think about him - you WILL feel bad because of the situation.

Get busy, join some clubs or groups that do things you like, go spend time with friends and family every single night. Tell your friends and family what you are doing and enlist their help in keeping you busy. If you belong to a church, get really active with it. Spend time with your pets, if you don't have a pet, think about getting one. Get some good books, make some new friends (clubs or groups help with that). You need to occupy your mind and your time and CONCIOUSLY direct your thoughts toward good, positive things that are not related to him every time you start to think about him, your breakup or the relationship.

This will be hard at first, but keep at it, don't let yourself think of him. The longer you can do this, the easier it gets and before you know it you will have moved on and forgotten all about him.

Answer 3

if he's changed that much then just try to remind yourself that the person you fell for 3 years ago isn't the same person he is now...its called growing apart. As for getting over him....nothing works but time. But sometimes a little tequila, chocolate, or retail therapy helps ease the pain 8-)

Answer 4

for one stop calling him, that just makes things harder on you. get a hobby, something that wont remind you of him, get new friends ones that go out more and have fun, just keep remembering the reason why you broke up with him in the first place. dont think so much about the good times you had cuz then you'll fall into a pattern in the end in your mind he'll be your prince charming and you'd confince yourself why you broke up with him in the first place, why dont you get a job if you dont have one already might help keep him off your mind, get a new wardrobe, spend more girly weekends together, get movies out etc etc do the things that make you smile and forget about him!!!

Answer 5

Getting over a relationship is an experience most of us have to go through at some point in life.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Allow yourself to grieve over the loss. Grieving includes going through feelings such as sadness, anger, shock and acceptance.
•STEP 2: Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to get over it quickly. Depending on the length of the relationship or how important it was to you, you may need weeks, months or longer to get over it.
•STEP 3: Take care of yourself. Get adequate rest, eat right and get some exercise.
•STEP 4: Nurture yourself. Give yourself permission to relax, take it easy, and do whatever makes you feel better - such as taking walks, baths or naps; listening to music; reading; or watching movies.
•STEP 5: Plan pleasurable activities with friends or family ahead of time (especially on weekends) to keep you busy and get your mind off the loss.
•STEP 6: Consider joining a support group to be with others dealing with similar feelings. Ask your doctor for a referral.
•STEP 7: Talk to your doctor about possibly taking medication if you're having trouble sleeping, or if you're experiencing anxiety or depression. Or discuss the options of herbal supplements
•STEP 8: Get a journal and write down what you have learned from the relationship about yourself, relationships and life.
Tips & Warnings
•If the relationship was very significant for you, you may never get over it in the sense of having no residual feelings about it. Over time, the feelings will become less intense and you will be able to think about the relationship without it being so painful.

Answer 6

Blah, blah, blah. Sorry for being rude. I feel for ya, but what do you want to do here? You can't pine for somebody who already has somebody else. Well, you can, but what's the point?

You're a minority statistic, BTW. 70+% percent of all breakups are initiated by women/girls. I didn't say that to make you feel worse. I thought it might cheer you up that the odds are in your favor that you will break a heart more often than yours gets broken.

To advance mentally: take time, get to know yourself, like being single, and then you can meet a nice single guy and it's like evolution.

Or you can hit up on a few guys until you find a shallow, unfulfilling rebound and break his heart, fulfilling a kind of karmic cycle. It's easy for girls/women to do this. Much easier than it is for us males.

Your choice.

Answer 7

hes odviously over you, so you need to just move on... don't dwell on him because thats what he wants from you... the worse a man treats a woman the more she has to have him... the better a man treats a woman she thinks theres something wrong.... now you're pis sed at me but re read this and really think about the people you know and how there man treats them

Answer 8

I have just gone threw the same thing, and it will take time. You appear to be young, you are very hurt, please don't call him or try and make any contact. I am also going threw this and it is so difficult!!!! It's so hard to move on when you care.......... Good Luck, spend lots of time with family and friends.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

THERE IS MORE GUYS OUT THERE , THAT ARE TEN TIMES BETTER THAN HE EVER WILL BE AND I CAN TELL YOU ARE A SWEET YOUNG LADY PLEASE REMEMBER , JESUS LOVES YOU AND SOME SWEET GUY WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER !!..GOOD LUCK!