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Question

I met this girl at the beginning of the school year who was in a relationship that ended about week or two ago. I felt a connection to this girl I’ve never felt before and I was happy when they broke up because I knew they weren’t a good match, but i hated seeing her cry. I decided to wait a week or two before I asked her out so she could get herself together. over the weekend though I thought about how I’ve spent my whole life waiting and never been able to make a move because I was too shy but when I thought about how if I waited too long I may be too late and never know whether we'd make a good couple and I decided I would at least let her know I like her on Monday. So on Monday I was talking to her and she told me that she and a friend of hers had decided to try dating and that he was a partial bf. After I heard that I couldn’t stop thinking about how I always missed chances due to my shyness and even now when I found a girl I was making an effort to see everyday, I walked with her to her bus, and would do anything to see her smile and again I’m too late. My question is am I too late or do I still have a chance since she said he’s only a partial boyfriend? Should I tell her how I feel? I can’t take this drama someone please tell me what I should do.

Answer 1

to be honest, her new guy is probably a rebound. whether it works out or not with him, having you confess your feelings on top of everything else may be a bit much. soo i would hold off. continue to be her friend. dont be the jerk that moves in when she is most vulnerable. that may be what he is doing, or not. either way i would say continue to be her friend.

however there are ways of showing you care without being overwhelming. send her a nice valentine, be a gentleman (hold doors open for her, etc.), tell her she can always call you and that you are there for her.

anyway, what it comes down to is go with what your instinct tells you to do, aka your heart. good luck!

Answer 2

You tell her anyways, and if this means something to her, then it will always be in the back of her mind. Remember, you are not thinking of something wrong, or cheating her etc. You are serious about a relation. Also remember, that what is right for you will always wait. The fallacy of any relationship will never stand the test of time, because only what is true will hold forever.

The other guys in her life maybe trying to take advantage of her, and she is no fool, sooner or later she will see this. The point is are you hoping from person to person, searching for love. Then stand still, because love is like a butterfly - chase it and it takes flight, be gentle and it will rest on your shoulders. The sincerity of your heart will draw her close to find a genuine relationship, which you must make clear to her when she comes to you. That is better for you, than chasing her. You have already spoken to her, send her small reminders, like cards etc. to remind her that "you are there" whatever happens, that's what people like to know that there is someone!!! However, please dont let her trample your feelings or walk over you to suit her cause! That will be an indication to you if she is worth it!

Answer 3

You should tell her exactly how you feel and that you've always felt this way but, out of respect for her you didn't want to come between her and her now ex. When you learned of their break-up you wanted to give her time to heal and now you want to be with her. Ask her sincerely, could you be in her life as the other partial boyfriend if she likes you. Couldn't hurt and if she says she would like to be friends with you then you still have a chance because, you'll have the inside track on her feelings and know just what to say to her because, hey she's your friend and that's where most relationships should start if they are to last. Accept whatever she says and run with it and stay close to her.

Answer 4

Lets try something diferent, its never too late, why dont u try to walk her somewhere thats a little long ways, or just make sure u have time to talk, and arent gonna get cut off, so u can tell exactly what u just wrote here, its worth a try, if she doesnt take u that way dont feel bad, ask her if you too can still b friends and look for a new love, theres beauty everywhere!

Answer 5

You should never give up! Theres always a chance in dating her, even though she does have a boyfriend. You can always stay friends with her, you never know what will happen between her and her bf. And you might just be there to comfort her. Just wait a little and see what happens, her feelings might grow for you. If you trust your gut, you should tell her how you feel about her. But dont come on to strong. Best wishes!!

Answer 6

Well, many times I would leave a club or leave someplace where my eyes were magnetically drawn to a beautiful Gem of a lady. All the way home I kicked myself, saying " Ishoulda, I shoulda, I shoulda went up to her", never knowing what 'coulda' happened. I then would start approaching with this thought-If I get shot down, at least I won't have to kick myself anymore! At least now I know.
It's more frustrating to think of the 'what ifs', than it is to know you at least tried.
If she says he's 1/2 a BF, that's still a BF, but it leaves the wonderful world of opportunity open. She also told you she is to 'start dating', perhaps giving you a hint to her soon, if not NOW availability.
Go Get Her!!
(I dont want anyone kicking themselves)

Answer 7

tell her or better yet ask her out to lunch dont wait because time does fly by and this may b the only time you would be able to make a move before its too late.

Answer 8

Make sure she knows that you like her. The least you can do is that, so she knows that you're always there for her when she needs you, and you're shyness won't get in the way if it happens again.

Answer 9

kk its never too late tell her how u feel its worth a shot and if things go wrong come bak and tell us and we'll help u then

Answer 10

tell her asap. that way, she'll know and can make the next move. plus you'll stop freaking out about what could have been.