why dont people like to talk to you when youre depressed? how are you suppose to get help?

Answer 1

We're talking right now. If you need help,give one of these numbers a try.

Mental Health Info Source 1-800-447-4474 Mental Health Resources and Information

National Institute of Mental Health 1-888-ANXIETY Mental Health Resources and Information

Suicide & Crisis Hotline [phone] Help for Troubled Teens

National Hope Line Network 1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention

SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO

Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors

Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens

Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens

VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500

Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline

National Crisis Line 1-800-334-4357 Crisis Help Line

National Youth Crisis Hotline [phone] Youth Crisis Hotline

And you can always talk to Jesus. He's a great listener!

Answer 2

Either listening or talking to a depressed person - - - who is chronically depressed , is difficult, especially if you are in contact with this person all the time. I find I can listen a lot better than I can talk to them. There is SO much negativity radiating from that person that it truly does suck your energy. But the energy goes nowhere, because it sure doesn't go to the depressed person you are listening to!

And as far as talking to a depressed person, to try to help them in some way, goes nowhere too. You cannot reason with a person who is determined to see the glass half empty ALL THE TIME. Eventually, you just think "What's the use? They won't or cannot seem to help themselves...."

The best way to get help is to go to someone who is good at helping people by way of cognitive therapy - - - - that way, hopefully, the depressed person can learn to help themselves. I really think with time and effort, depression CAN be lessened quite a bit with the right therapy.

Answer 3

I used to work as a psych RN and have had Major Depression for the past 6 years. I think that it's just human nature. I don't think that people don't like to talk to depressed people, it's that they don't want to hear complaining and negativity and your depression as the only topic of discussion.

You have to talk to someone about your problems but I would only do that with close friends and relatives an addition to your counselor and doctor. Even then, we have to limit the time that we do that.

Everyone has their limits about how much they can hear about feelings of sadness and hopelessness before they start to feel down or sad themselves. When I was at my worst, it seemed like all I was able to talk about was my problems.

I was so happy when I got better enough that I could force myself to talk about other things and when I could listen to other peoples problems. Force yourself to look for interesting things to talk about so that people will want to be around you. Look as cheerful as you can.

Some people have a mistaken idea that if you are depressed that the thing you need to get better is to "talk about your feelings". You will even hear some mental health professionals say that.
I used to work as a psych RN for many years and would sometimes hear my colleagues say this to patients.

Expressing feelings in a way that releases them is helpful for someone who typically holds in their feelings. In recovering from depression ther is a process that includes: catharsis (getting feelings out); insight into the thoughts, attitudes and behaviors that contribute to the depression; and then behavior change that includes changing the thoughts, attitudes and behaviors that have been causing the problems.

Also people who have serious depression need medication to increase the levels of chemicals in their brains that have become low and are the biological cause of the depression.

I hope something I have written has helped.

Answer 4

People are attracted to happy smiling people who will entertain them.They don't want to be brought down by someone unhappy. You find out who your real friends are at times like these. If your manic depressive that becomes a burden on everyone else. The defense is we all have our problems. Talk to a professional if you can't count on family or friends.

Answer 5

I think because it makes them look at their own lives. People don't want to feel down because they feel helpless OR they don't want to face their own insecurities/problems. People would rather live life in the fast lane and ignore it. Best places are to go to online forums, support groups if you don't want to see people face to face. There are numerous help lines like lifeline if you want to speak to someone via phone. You can also call Adult Mental Health to make an appointment to speak to a qualified psychologist. Also if you see your GP they can recommend a Psychologist/Psychiatrist who may bulk bill near you who you can talk to. These types of people will help you more than chatting to a friend. Also I recommend seeing your GP about medication if you're not on some already.

Answer 6

When I notice a depressed person, I take it as an opportunity to educate them about mental health and hopefully make a life changing difference in their life, but.... when I pick up on the fact that they are the type of person that actually "enjoys" wallowing in self pity with no intention of HELPING themselves to get better, then I can turn and walk away just as fast as I went running to their aide.

Sadly, there are too many others calling my name for me to spend too much time on just one.

Answer 7

Some people may be afraid they can't say the right things to you. Some people are afraid the depressed feeling may rub off on them.

Answer 8

People get depressed when they talk to someone who is depressed. It is like we zap them and take their good energy and replace it with it with our bad energy. The way you get help is by going to your Dr. and teling them what is going on with you and they can either help you or send you to someone that can help you. It is a big step and I know you can do it. I am glad I did, as hard as it was to get up and take care of myself. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

i think most people don't like to be affected and feel depressed as well and also people may not know what is the best way to help you thus they choose to leave you alone.

you can get help from counsellors, they are professionals who can help you by listening to your worries or sorrows and giving you advice.

Answer 10

a lot of times they are either having too many problems of their own, or they just dont know what to do to help you. iv had the same deal with someone lately, i thought they were my friend and they wanted to help. but aparently i just annoyed them with all my crap and they told me to leave them alone. some people just dont know how to help you, but i think the best thing is to just have someone who doesnt care about your problems but looks at everything positive in you. i helps to bring that out. sometimes those people are just hard to find