I'm completly obsessed with my gf and i love her to death. But, it seems like she doesn't do the same stuff i would do for her. I always want to talk to her 24/7. She talks to me a lot but, is always the one to get off the phone. And I always plan way ahead of time to see her but, she waits until the last minute and sometimes can't see me. I feel like i love her more then she loves me bc of stuff like this. Am i right? or are people just different?
2007-01-23 15:44:46 · 18 answers · asked by yungpuller 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obsession is not proof of real loving. People that obsess over a loved one night and day, 24/7 are not really in love, they think they are. When you are in love, you can carry on doing your duties in life and trusting that you will meet again. True Love can feel safe and warm inside of you. You will always feel connected even in long distance and for a long separation.
You need to find out why you are obessing over this girl and get control over your life. If you do not you will lose in the end. No one, male or female wants to feel pressured, closed in, surtinized, etc. even if she loves you. And just because you are not secure, because obession is a form of insurity, does not mean you love her more and she loves you less.. She might be more mature than you and realize that beyond you she has a life, a family, school, and outside committments and she probably feels that you know this and would not get upset that she has a life. I doubt she would be happy to know that you are wasting so much time thinking of only her. Let her know that you too have a life, and do something with it to make her proud of you.. Women love a ambitious and hardworking young man. And if you still feel she is not doing enough for you and is not talking or thinking enough of you as you think she should then you should leave her alone and move on.. maybe then you will find someone that will do nothing all day, but talk to you on the phone all day and think of you all day..
2007-01-23 15:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear God, are you in trouble. Reality check: we' ve all met yout ego now, but what's up with your gf? Can I call her Caprice? Thanks.
Dude, I feel for ya, but you've made a bed that you're gonna lie in until she turns it over, so let's see if we can turn this around:
Take her out of the picture for a second: what did you do before you met her? Do that. In addition, think of some things you'd like to do if you didn't have her in your life. Do those.
Okay, now that we're working on making you more interesting, are you respectful? Are you generally kind? Do you open doors, hold her hand, etc? Nice romantic dates every now and then? If so, good. Now try this: let some time pass before you call or let her call you. Don't spend a lot of time yaking on the pnone0--there's no body language on a phone.
Dress well, be interesting, and have a life outside of her.
Win or lose in this relationship, and you benefit from being a better person.
2007-01-23 15:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are always different, and they show their love differently. You may be a little crazier about her than she is you, but that doesn't mean she doesn't like you. One thing I have to warn you about it not to get too clingy. That is the one thing I can guarentee that will make a woman run for the hills and that is someone who will not give them enough room to breathe. I don't mean ignore her, but give her a chance to miss you. Don't not talk to her each day, but try to be the first one off the phone. A little space (and I mean little) can go a long way in realizing how much you want to be with someone. Again...I am not talking about playing games in any way, shape, or form, but just give her a little more space. Planning way ahead of time is considerate, and I like that about you. Don't change that. But at least make the little step of just getting off that phone first or something equally mild a shot. You don't want to be too unequal in this love relationship.
2007-01-23 15:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right! you do love her more, because ur up her behind all the time...thats how my gf was towards me, and to some people its just irritating, and u may not be giving her the proper chance to love you! everyone needs some personal space, give it to her! if you throw yourself at her that will most likely cause her to not like you, make sure u lay off a lil bit, make her go after you, i know its hard TRUST ME, i've been through this for 3 years, and got out of it recently, NOT BY CHOICE either, so i know where you're at with this, just give her some space, my ex never gave me any and i hated her for it, and that ruined everything, just dont be up her a hole all the time, be a man and act like it, even tho u may feel something else on the inside...be smooth as they say! wish u the best of luck
2007-01-23 15:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.................how old are you? If you still live under your parents roof, then different rules apply. But I have to say, My brother and stepfather absolutely hate taking on the phone. It's to the point where they get agitated and they become belligerent. Some people just don't like talking on the phone honey. And maybe she is a procrastinator like myself and that's why she is always last minute. Just be straight-up with her, and ask her how she really feels. Good Luck
2007-01-23 15:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ILL TELL YOU ONE THING FROM EXPERIENCE. she might get annoyed by you if you try to be on her way too much. Try giving her a little space, but at the same time, show her that you really love her by doing subtle things such as smiling and saying ok hun. do your thang. This is more love-showing than calling her 50 times in a row. Sometimes, if you hold on too tight, they slip away. You gotta be on top of your game hommie.
2007-01-23 15:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by akkash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great you care about her, but perhaps her need for constant attention is not the same as yours.
Try to balance your life with other activities and other friends here & there.
It actually refreshes the relationship! :)
Relax and enjoy!
2007-01-23 15:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no people are different and it seems like you are letting yourself get lost within her honey you still are you and not her be you and live your life too i cant say she doesnt love you any less because she just may be a different kind of person. dont worry
2007-01-23 15:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, that sucks. I guess I don't know what to say... except i'm sorry :( I hope you know that you'll find the ONE you absolutley love that it hurts and feels so good at the same time. (believe it or not)
2007-01-23 15:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by kuenn7287 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋