Next yr she wants to sign up for a fun practical arts class and drop band. She took piano lessons for 2 yrs-had to quit because of family situation. She studied Suzuki method violin & viola for 4 yrs in elementary school, and trumpet for 2 yrs in middle school band. She is a great kid, kind and good to others. Very smart-straight A's come somewhat easy for her.
Some people have said they were glad parents forced them to stay with band, others told me they wished their parents would have made them stay with band. Never heard anyone say they wish they did not stick with it. What should I do?
2007-01-23 15:41:34 · 14 answers · asked by Mom Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit down and discuss it thoroughly with her. Make sure you really listen and understand her reasons, then make the decision together. If she really wants to quit band and try other things, there's not a thing wrong with that. Now's the time for her to explore all possibilities and interests. Time and credit requirements don't allow them to have all the extra classes they would like.
My daughter is an incredible singer, and she took choir in school. She now says she wishes she would have taken an art class instead because she would have kept singing anyway.............and she could have had the guidance and experience in art too. She's now 27.
It's a tough decision. Just be sure you really explore the options and all the pros & cons WITH your daughter.
Best wishes! :)
2007-01-23 15:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a junior in high school and have been in band since middle school and i dont regret it at all. i hated middle school band, but high school made it all worth it. even with all of this, if your child doesnt have a passion for something, nothing you or anyone can do or say will make her love it. i would encourage her to visit the local high school band and talk with some of the members and see if she likes it. it creats so many opportunies for her, but so do other activities such as drama club or sports. if she does decide to quit, make sure it not because she's doing what her friends are doing and get her into something else productive, not just home ec. or something
2007-01-23 16:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by b2k4ever08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she still do extra-curricular activities? If so... I think the best situation is to leave the decision to your daughter... having fun in what you're learning is the most effective and best. It seems she already has a lot of musical experience, so I don't think band would affect her too much. Those last questions you asked were questions for late piano grade 7-10ish. Band does not affect life as much.
2007-01-23 16:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by justsomerandomson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have her finish the year and explain that it's because she made the committment to the band and needs to honor it. Then, next year, let her try some new things. She already knows that she's good musically. Sounds like she wants to find out if she's good at other things, too. Trying new things will only serve to make her more well-rounded as an adult.
2007-01-27 07:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jaye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I play in elementary school and middle school band for five years
I'm a junior in high school now
when it came time in 8th grade to select our classes, i dropped band. i had a hard time deciding to do it, but because most of my friends were, i followed.
i always thought that if i really missed it, i could just join again come my second year in high school.
honestly though, i've never heard of a case where the former band student goes back to band after a year off.
if i were you, i'd try to keep my daughter in band for at least one year... just to try it. A lot of kids find high school band different than middle school band.
bribe her.
2007-01-23 15:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in her situation.....would you want to do something you dont want to do? sit her down and ask her why she wants to quit band and why she wants to take practical arts. if her answers to that sound reasonal, then you should probably let her change classes. if her answers dont make good sense, or are just stupid reasons, then try to reason with her how the band class may help further her learning in other areas. she has been taking music for a long time it sounds..... a change may be a good thing. i always get my nephew to listen to me when he wont listen to his parents by reasoning with him and thinking on his level so i can give him reason to behave or do what he is being asked. dont always look at your daughters situation as a mom, look at it how she is seeing it and walk her through her options like you are her. best of luck with it.
2007-01-23 15:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let her venture out and do her own thing for a year and to see if she "sticks" with the program of her choosing. She may not like band and it may hurt your relationship if you force her to do something she doesn't like.
You've got a great girl there! She trying to spread her wings a bit, I know it's tough, but you've go to let her fly!
2007-01-23 15:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would allow you daughter to do as she wishes. If there are other interests she wants to persue, she should be allowed to. At a later date, she may decide she wants to take up music again. However, if you force her to stay in band, she will only begin to resent music. Music should move the heart and inspire naturally. It should not be forced upon someone.
2007-01-23 16:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by stampadhesive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she's been practicing music for 8 yrs. I say if she don't want to stay in band don't make her. Let her do something differnet to expand on her likes & interests.
2007-01-23 18:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ghost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a talented and good kid. Let her finish band this year but leave next year open. Just try to insist that she pursue something enlightening.
2007-01-23 15:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋