Stuck In A Problem: Should I, or Not?

Question

Ok, here's the deal.

First off, I'm quite shy, and not the Brad Pitt of the teen world. Anyways, I'm in the Drumline, semi-social with friends, and I lift weights and jog every other day. I think(hah) that I can be a gentleman..(open doors, pay, LISTEN, etc.)

Ok. So. Here we go.

There's this girl(I don't have any classes anymore with her, and only see her after school usually), that I've had my eye on.

I just found out about her this year, and she just found out I exsisted around last November. I haven't really approached her...I don't know exactly what to say(remember, I am extremely shy around people I don't know...and I hate it..anyways).

I want to express some how that I am at least interested without stalking or seeming creepy, and I don't want her to pass away(although there will be many more, I bet.)

I don't know what exactly to do. I think I should atleast talk to her before I do anything major...

Suggestions?....I just need to be alone w/ her to show her who I really am

Answer 1

I would call her up one day. Rehearse what it is you want to say... even write it down if you have to... and then call her. Ask her if she'd like to get coffee or something. Definitely meet in a neutral place.

I use to be PAINFULLY shy, and I had this mad crush on this older guy in high school. I liked him so much I made myself sick. So, I found some crazy inner strength and called him up one day. I asked him out and he said yes. He had no idea of who I was. It didn't turn out in the end because I was so young (I was a freshman and he was a junior). BUT! It cured me of my shyness. It just took one huge event to make me realize that the worst thing they can say to you is NO. But at least then you'll know that you can move on if she does say no instead of making yourself crazy about her. You sound like a very sincere guy, and I wish you a lot of luck! Just remember to be YOURSELF. :)

Answer 2

You sound like a good guy who has given this a lot of thought and probably someone she would be attracted to. You are going to have to get the courage up to just walk up and say hi. The first time that's all you have to do. Then make it a point to say something to her every day. You can probably tell by the way she acts when you do that whether this could go anywhere. Then at some point you should just walk up to her very confidently and say I was wondering if you might want to go get some coffee sometime or whatever it is you want to do with her. Make it real casual and short. That way she won't think she has to spend an entire evening with someone she doesn't even know if she likes. You are going ot have to make the first move, so just do it. Whta's the worst that could happen?

Answer 3

Since your so shy, it probably would be best if you sat down and wrote her a nice letter telling her how you feel that way your not stumbling over your words. End your letter asking her if she would like to get together for a movie or whatever on a certain day (don't just say do you want to get together sometime, make it a real commitment and put a day and time) and give her your phone number or e-mail address so that she can give you an answer. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Okay, you cant go up to her looking nervous because girls like confident guys. All you need to do is first find a common interest. This way you will be at ease a little more well enough to hold a conversation with her. Then you will eventually gather more info about her which will let you know if you should ask her out. It will all fall into place from there. But please dont go up to her with your voice cracking and saying "um, um." Of course then she may think it is cute but not take you serious. Good luck and stay blessed!

Answer 5

Just Do it! Nike actually got it right!

i have often been in the situation, over (too) many years, and I have found that simply telling the girl your thoughts such as "you think she is cute and you would like to go out" is the only way to go. Messing around with anything too subtle will either confuse her, or make you seem weird(er).

The worst that can happen is she says no. Just dont say anything scarey like you've been watching her etc lol

Answer 6

Well I have the same problem. It is the same thing but I only see her like ones a day mabe two. she is prety. Well i start looking for her around the school and see whit what people she talls. If i now some body I will tell himm/her that if he/she can make me a favor and present me the girl. Well inmy case that did not happend so i only when up to her and start tallking to her. Lucky me i did like her and now we have togeter like 2yr and 2weaks.

Be brave and tell her what you fell yo dont loose enything.

Answer 7

Yeah I would suggest you talk to her on a friendly basis, then a week later ask her out to the movies or somewhere to break the ice. Then at the movies lor wherever et her know you like her. Just make sure you do it before she starts to talk to someone else then you will be kicking yourself for not expressing yourself to her.

Answer 8

okay im 14 in year 9 this yr wen i was in yr 8 i had the same problem as u and i did the same thing i wrote my problem 2 yahoo answers and alot of pplz said this Pretend its only u and her even tho there r pplz talkin 2 her jst pretend its onli u and her and go up 2 her (Dont chat wif her till u rekon u have the time) Butt tell her "Heyy meet me in ..... at......." then hopefully she will say yes if she dusnt then screw her 0r if she says im busy tell her "kk so wen do u wanna talk" then she will say...... then talk 2 her tell her how u feel (i kno u will b a bitt uncomfortable and shy butt alwayz put this in ur head "ITS EITHER NOW 0R NEVER") then c if she likes u if she dus then go 4 it if she dusnt then screw her kk GOOD LUK

Answer 9

As a girl, I would know what I would want to get from a guy, so here it goes: Some guys try to act jerks to get girl's attention, but frankly, it doesn't help. Just approach her, get to know her, next thing you know, you'll be friends. Then slowly (and not suddenly mind you) ask her out on a date. Good luck

Answer 10

Try giving her a note asking if she would like to hang out sometime. That you would like to get to know her. Suggest in a public place of course. Leave her your phone number and see where it goes from there. Good luck.