Im 22 year old, i used to like a guy that older than me. his age is 51 already. but i like him. but i used to go out with him many months already. sometimes i feel that he like me. but sometimes i think its just for sex. do i have to stay or should i move on?
2007-01-23 15:17:28 · 12 answers · asked by mystery 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd really need some more background information to know exactly why you feel he is just using you for sex. However, if I was in your position, I would definitely think that asking such a question is a huge hint that maybe you should move on. You might want to think about what you want out of a relationship with him and decide if he is offering that to you. Or if he will. Just a thought.
2007-01-23 15:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mistress Melanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You and I are in the same boat, sweety.
Does he do anything to make you suspicious? Does he take you TO HIS HOUSE? Does he call you when he says, or show up when he's promised? When you call him do you just get voicemail? TRUST YOUR GUT!
If he refrains from takin' you to his house, or doesn't give you his home number --- he's either got a wife or a girlfriend.
I was 17 when I met the man I've been with for 3 + years.. He's 40 now.. But we've always hooked up, etc. He's single, or NOT MARRIED.. So I kept things going with him.. I never thought he'd take me seriously.. But I know one thing is for sure, I love him like no other.. Regardless of what he looks like, how much money he makes, his materialistic things --- I'd love him. He can be old and wrinkly and I'd still think he was the most handsome man of all time..
I'll be honest with you --- for the most part, the only reason a man 'hooks up with' a younger women is for sex. He finds you extremely sexy --- and it's the truth - OLD, LOOSE WOMEN ARE NOT SEXY.
If you really believe in YOUR HEART that he's just using you for sex, drop that $#&%*#@#$%#* LIKE A ROCK.
I was with this man for 3+ years. He'd tell me he loved me, cared about me, wanted me at his side.. But JUST RECENTLY I called him up and it went straight to voicemail.. I heard SOME OTHER CHICKS voice on his phone sayin' he's too tied up to answer. I felt like such a fool.. I'm the kind of woman who will try to see the best in everyone - - - I want to hope for the best when it comes to people.. I want to believe that they do have a good heart..
But hunny.. PLEASE --- take it from me.. Don't waste your time on some sorry *** old man who's just in it for the sex.. I know it will be hard at first, but eventually you'll wonder why the HELL you wasted your time on such a total creep.
2007-01-23 23:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Scorpio X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on it is just sex for him. I am 51 and that is all I would want from a 21 year old... in fact I wouldn't even want that from a 21 year old. He is a little bit of a sleaze ball so really leave him.
2007-01-23 23:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think since the maturity levels are so different it can only be about 1 thing. He is ready to retire and you are ready to go out and have kids. It has to be about the sex or maybe hes lonely. Your own words were "do i HAVE to stay" no u dont HAVE to do anything, u should do what feels right in ur heart. What are you gonna do in 20 years when hes on his death bed and your in your midlife. the age difference is sooo different that u must have nothing in common.
2007-01-23 23:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Angelina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say move on. I mean can't you find someone you're own age.?? Sure you might like him...but sounds to me like you think he's using you for sex. Why wouldn't he you're the young , sexy type...he is pushing dead (lol). Move on...unless you just want sex from him then stay with him.
2007-01-23 23:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. This man even if you like him is too old for you to enjoy as a life partner, think of it this way, when your 40 he'll be 89. You don't want to be changing your baby's dipers and his at the same time.
2007-01-23 23:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Fire's Shaddow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
22 and 51 big age difference but if you are doing this only for sex your are losing more than he is.......
2007-01-23 23:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by iloeta1164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its definitely the sex, move on.
2007-01-23 23:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to. It's your life and your body and if you are feeling used then leave.
2007-01-23 23:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to do anything!! Id move on,,you dont seem too happy with him.
2007-01-23 23:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋