I have a 2 year old....?

Question

I have a 2 year old little boy that We (my husband & I) can not get to sleep in his own bed. He was very sick as a child, and my husband and I would allow him to sleep with us. We live in a Very long Trailer house..being our first child I just did not feel comfortable allowing him to sleep in his bedroom because we are at one end of the house and his bedroom is at the other end. We now have his matress from his crib down beside our bed, but the only thing is, he never sleeps on his matress and if he does go to sleep and we put him on it, he is usually up by 3 or 4 and in bed with us..
I need some help and maybe a little guidance from someone that has been in the situation and maybe can offer some kind of suggestions.......

Answer 1

my oldest , now 11, would stop breathing during allergy season. we were frightened to let him be far from us, and he picked up on it. children can read that you are distressed and now he fears that something is very bad if mom and dad are scared. our doctor had us to buy baby monitors and show him that if he ask for help in his room that we will come, and he doesn't have to scream because we can hear him just like we were in the room. second . we put up a gate and put toys in the room. we told him he could play as soon as he wakes up and he doesn't even have to ask because he is a big boy now. now i just wish he wasn't so independent.... who gives these kids permission to grow up so fast?

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Answer 2

This is a really tough problem and I have been through it myself. A book I highly recommend is "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems."
My daughter is three years old and just now sleeping in her own bed every night, after spending the last two years crawling into my bed every night. Here is how we did it: she gave up her afternoon naps recently. I told her, "When you do not take a nap during the day, you must spend the entire night in your own bed. If you get up in the night and come to my bed, I will pick you up and put you in your own bed." And, it worked. The first two nights, I heard her crying in her bed and saying, "I want to go to your bed." I left her alone there to cry. After two nights of crying, she slept through the night in her own bed. It is amazing that she believed that she had to comply with this new rule. So, maybe you could make up some similar sort of rule and see if he goes for it. I have a friend who got her child to stop coming to the parents' bed in the middle of the night by offering her a reward for staying in her own bed all night. It worked, but I would not recommend this, as the child may continue to look for a reward. After my daughter spent the whole night in her bed, I gave her a lot of praise, and asked her how it felt to be able to stay in her own bed. She said it felt good. I told her that I knew it was hard for her to stay in her own bed, and it was an accomplishment to be proud of, and this made her feel great about herself.

Answer 3

Well I lived in a 1 bedroom home and my son slept with us until he was about 3. Then we built a new home and for the longest time he had trouble sleeping in his own room. I use to just sit on his floor in his bedroom and when he got out of bed just without saying of looking at him kept putting him into bed.. It took about 2hrs the first night its exhausting but give it a week and he will be in his bed in no time.. But you really need patient and not talk or look at them until they give up and go to sleep...

Answer 4

My daughter would come into our bed a lot, and every time, I would get up and put her back in her bed. There was a lot of crying (on both our parts) and a lot of yelling too, but the best advice I can give is to be persistent. He is testing you to see how far he can push the limits.
Make over his room to make it inviting and fun for him to be in. (Let him pick the theme)
Start a new bed time routine which involves him going into his room and not yours...
and my last resort was the baby gate..I started putting it up at her door so that she could not get out of her room and sneak into ours.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

You are simply going to have to keep getting up and putting him back into his own bed until he learns that that is where he is to sleep. You created the problem and now YOU have to fix it and it's not going to be easy.

Answer 6

as long as his mattress is in your bedroom you are not going to have good luck getting him to sleep in his bed. it might take a few sleepless nights for yourself, but put him to bed and put him back in it everytime he gets up. get a monitor if you're nervous about the distance. good luck.

Answer 7

DEAR I DO NOT KNOW HOW BIG YOUR TRAILER IS WE HAVE A DOUBLE WIDE 3 BED ROOM MY ROOM IS ON ONE SIDE AND MY PARENTS ARE N THE OTHER. GET A BABY MONITOR PUT IT IN HIS ROOM AND ONE IN YOURS AND USE A LOT NIGHT LIGHTS SO IF HE IS SCARED OF THE DARK THAT WILL HELP YOU OUT. I HOPE THIS HELP YOU OUT OK.

Answer 8

Make his bedroom really inviting.... get exciting new furniture, pictures, etc. Make his room a really safe and comfortable place for him.... otherwise just give it more time.