I was at a bachelor party where the groom to be was stripped by the 3 strippers that had arrived, and they obviously toyed around with him for quite a while. This honestly made me raise the question, is this too far? Would his fiance be upset? Is this what normally goes on at these parties ???
2007-01-23 15:01:20 · 18 answers · asked by Razor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Depends on the relationship. This should be discussed beforehand, or decided between the two to never come up ever. My one rule for my husband that no bodily fluids could be exchanged (no diseases, thank you!) and all else was fine. He got a few lap dances, had to strip on stage, etc, but not fluids were exchanged so I was happy.
Some women will be less okay with certain things than others. I know plenty of women who would say no to strippers period. It is up to each couple to be honest enough to know where the line is. If they don't know it by now, maybe they shouldn't be getting married!
2007-01-24 03:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by hotdoggiegirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This question reminds me of something that happened a couple years ago when some friends of mine got married. They had been each others first and only and the bride was pregnant. At the groom's batchelor party where there were strippers and a large amount of alcohol, the groomsmen had him convinced that he shouldn't get married when only having been with one woman. Guess what happened next.
In my personal opinion, I don't care if a man gets strippers for his batchelor party. The only rule is, no touching with ANY part of the body! It's his last night to act single and this could be the last time he gets to see strippers, so who cares if he gets some stuff put in his face? He just better be going home frustrated, is all I'm going to say about that!
My boyfriend and I have discussed the subject of strippers at batchelor/batchelorette parties. He told me when I was going to a batchelorette party one night that if a stripper showed up, he wanted me to leave (I didn't have a problem with that). I told him that this would have to be 50/50. If he didn't want me around strippers, I didn't want him around any. He agreed and we've said on numerous occasions that if we were to get married, our parties would be together. That way, no one questions anything and you get to have a good time with the person you love and all of your mutual friends.
2007-01-24 02:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a very fine line that all bachelores should be careful not to cross at their parties. I guess it all depends on who you are marrying. But beware, some times the non jealous type, get jealous!
Like me! LOL At my husbands bachelor party, the girls not only gave lap dances. They had whip cream races, where they made a trail of whip cream from their foot all the way up to their neck, and the men had to lick their way to the top the fastest. That was WAY over crossing the line to me. They also brough belts and decieded they wanted to "whip" my husband. I think that also went WAY to far.
I guess my way of thinking is....If these werent stippers would you still feel right doing it. And what if your fiancee was getting the same treatment from a male stripper.
2007-01-23 15:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by BeckyKay 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is crossing the line! But according to me hiring strippers or going to a strip club is also crossing the line....and I have told my fiance that if he is so compelled to do so the wedding is OFF (or at least postponed, so that I may have some time to seriouslt reconsider his proposal)! I love him dearly, but if he is the type of man to solicit those types of services, which are degrading to all women!, or the type of man who will just go with the crowd to please his male friends over me...then serious red flags are raised regarding whether he is the man with whom I would want to spend the rest of my life.
He has been forewarned, so I think my requests are fair...and he also knows that my brother (a groomsman who has never lied to me) will be at the party.
2007-01-24 02:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
the point the position it is going to change into dishonest is once you bypass the decrease of what you recognize the fiance doesn't settle for. that is a good idea if there is going to be a bachelor celebration, that the bride to be set some sensible limits. and attempt to be forgiving if that decrease receives exceeded somewhat. i have seen adult adult males at their bachelor celebration that were very actually no longer on properly of problems with the nighttime.
2016-10-16 00:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be PISSED! I think that is too far, I know its the bachelor party and all, and so some debochery is to be expected, and I can even understand strippers due to tradition (hangs head in shame....sigh) but no touching! and they better be the only ones taking clothes off, and I will say it again....no touching! of course this will vary from girl to girl, couple to couple, but I would personally be ready to kill!
2007-01-24 04:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"The line" is determined by the groom. Ideally, he would not do anything at the party drastic enough that might cause his fiance to call off the wedding. But what she considers horrible might not be what I would consider horrible. Plus, the groom might push the line even further, knowing that she'd be hurt and upset but not caring.
For me, that would definately be crossing the line!
2007-01-23 15:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that is going WAAAYYYYYYY to far!!! if i were his fiancee he would be castrated and dumped from this planet!!! getting drunk and doing guy things (like playing ridiculous video games till the wee hours or something) is fine, but anything sexual like that to most is considered cheating to many, and infidelity is not a good way to start a marriage. i think his bride needs to be informed. she should know her man isn't completely faithful to her. a bachelor party is supposed to be a time for the guy to get together with his friends and have fun, because after that most of his time will be spent with his bride and their family. in some places they'd get the groom drunk, dress him up as a woman and cart him aorund town in a wheelbarrow......now that is funny!!!
2007-01-24 01:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Duelen 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
*Kissing/Gropping
*Strippers or any sort of nudity or sexual acts that is not with the person they are marrying(my fiance and I do not believe in strippers or any kind of acts that doesn't belong in our relationship. If he is getting a lap dance, he will be getting it from me. If I want to see a hot sexy man strip, he will do it in a heart beat. No point in seeing someone else).
*dishonesty of events.
*Drinking and driving
*Drinking/drunk if wedding is the next day or two.
*One partner wants one but don't want the other partner to have one.
2007-01-23 15:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well turn the tables; do you think this fellow would like 3 men "toying" with his soon-to-be-wife??? Probably not. Then again......
It's always the ol' wink ,wink; nudge, nudge when it comes to bachelor parties. The ol' one-last-fling before being sentenced.
But once a couple is betrothed, that's as good as being married. You have asked & accepted to become a couple for the rest of your lives. The only thing you're waiting for is the legalities.
So do you think this would be proper behavior for a married man?
I didn't think so.
2007-01-23 15:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 9⤊ 1⤋