My friend's mom recently died from breast cancer. Lately he has been acting withdrawn...What should I do to cheer him up? Should I get him a gift?
2007-01-23 14:46:57 · 7 answers · asked by Meili 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I just lost my 29 year old son to murder. In my oppinion the best way to support your friend is to just be there for him. Of course he is withdrawn. He doesn;t know how to live any more, or how to go on without a mother. Let him know you are there fo rhim if he want s to talk, or just have someone to sit with, some to JUST LISTEN. No card, presents etc. will make him feel better. It takes some time to heal. Just be by his side and let him know you care. A lot of people avoid you at a time like this because they don't know what to do or say. You are a true friend to stand by his side. Call him on some of the days you don't see him. It is not likly he will be able to call you for a while. If you find a card you know he would laugh at, maybe get that. If he doesn't laugh, just know inside he was smiling at least.
2007-01-23 14:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by azgrmadonna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the American Cancer Society. They can tell you how to handle your friend. The Am Cancer Society has some free information they can send you in the mail.Just be a friend. IF HE wants to talk about it just mostly listen. Don't try to tell him about anything you've been through--he probably can't stand to hear it. Reassure him that you know his mom really loved him. Hopefully she is in Heaven. Tell him that maybe the two of you can walk in the walkathon that they have for people with a friend or family member that has died from breast cancer. Stick with him as much as he wants you too. Let him know that you know his mom didn't want to leave him--but couldn't fight any longer.I bet she was a very brave person for going thru breast cancer.
2007-01-23 15:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just spend time with him. talk to him and do as he asks. Also, just tell him you are there for him and want to show him you care. You might (depending on the person) want to treat him as tho things are normal,but not too normal. Take him a gift he might really enjoy..maybe make him dinner or something he'd like. take him to dinner or / and somewhere he loves to go. And, maybe help him make a slideshow or something to remember his mom and you could also buy or play some music that may make him feel better.
2007-01-23 14:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by jackie r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh how sweet. That is so nice. But probably unnecessary. It takes time. Just be there for him. If he doesn't want to talk, then don't. Just sit there and be quiet. Just being there helps. Did you know her very well? It would be alright to talk about the good times. (when he fees like talking) Everybody has their own time table. It will get better, I promise.
2007-01-23 14:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be with him. Let him know if he wants to talk you are there for him. Don't pressure him. He will say things probably now and then, just listen and be supportive.
You sound like a nice caring friend.
2007-01-23 14:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by kallmetigger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know you care. Let him do the talking when you are together and tell him you understand his pain. Some time good friendship helps. maybe say a prayer together ,tell him that sometimes helps.You don't have to get him a gift just let him know you are there when he needs to talk
2007-01-23 15:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/helping_grieving.htm
Click the link above. There are great tips.
2007-01-23 14:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋