My daughter is an outgoing and cheerful 8 year old but she has a fear of asking for help from other adults. She dares not seek clarification from her teachers or goes up to buy simple food like an ice cream cone from fast food restaurants.Please advise, thanks !
2007-01-23 14:40:48 · 4 answers · asked by orangejuicelite 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Show her by your actions that it's ok to ask for help. Be genuine about it , don't do a fake situation.
Tell her that everyone needs help to do things, that doesn't make her bad or wrong it just means she needs help. If she doesn't ask the teacher ( and she must have had a bad experience at some point to be this reluctant)for an explanation she'll never get on with her work in school.
As for going up asking at restaurants for ice cream, use behaviour modification on her. Go with her to the counter , and say to her what did you say you wanted? Wait until she says it , then reward her away saying what great big girl you're getting be and you were very nice when you asked.
Because adults are so much bigger than children in most cases , all young kids can be a little wary and that's probably not a bad thing. Just help her boost her confidence by exposing her to situations where she has to ask adults for help or ice cream or something else.
2007-01-23 14:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way....and now I'm an actress. This doesn't require a child therapist for any reason whatsoever. My suggestion is to talk with her about her issues with this, and ask why she has these problems. It's most likely a bit of adult shyness. I got over it by hanging out with adults at dinner parties my parents went to and by making friends with my teachers, then once I felt comfortable I asked for help. Tell her you'll help her find her confidence and everything will make sense eventually.
Good luck!
PS: I got lots of help when I started acting and working with directors...I was free up on stage, and working with directors helped me around adults.
2007-01-23 22:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one. Start by showing her its OK to ask for help by asking her for help. When you dress ask her what she thinks of your outfit. When shopping ask a clerk a question and include her in the conversation. When talking to the person also look at her and ask her what she thinks. Do not disagree with her in public. Sometimes when you are alone with her tell her if you didn't like the way a person talked to you or her and explain that in life you will meet people who are not nice and the best way to handle them is to just walk away. While ordering for your self ask her what she wants. Try to include her in as many conversations as possible. It could be she is afraid to talk to people. It is hard to teach a child to be friendly but to also be careful.
2007-01-23 23:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by pms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend seeing a child therapist. Make sure there is nothing wrong. For some reason she has a trust issue. I am sure you are leading by example and showing her how. But maybe you can ask a friend that you don't see often to assist with role playing...like practice. Good luck!!
2007-01-23 22:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋